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my boyfriend is violent and hurts me alot
my boyfriend is a total jerk. he dosnt say hi to me anymore. he hangs up on me swears at me is violent to me says he dosnt care about me nemore as much as he did says he hates seen me gets ppl to tel me hes not were he is so i dont come see him. says he hates seen me and that he dreads it says that im on the bottum of his list of prioirtys. he dumped me and said he was treating me bad so i wud break it of with him but then he wanted me back. hes grabbed my throat and said hel hit me. he tells people he dosnt want to be with me and im annoying and wishes i would dissapear. altho we hav a serious relashionshop and hav dated for about a year hes gettin himself into serious trouble and been arrested and charged and drinking every night. i love him so much and my biggest fear is that he wil cheat on me. i dont think he loves me neither do any of my friends. i just have alot of fun with him on weekends even tho he ignored me and yells at me for anything and everything i dont have the power to break it off PLEASE HELP ME IM DESPEREATE iv talked to him about it so many times and he gets mad and tells me to fuck off!
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You need to break it off, he treats you horribly and it is clear he just doesn't share the appropriate affection for you that you deserve. I'm sure this is difficult for you, I can't see how this sort of situation would be easy to get out of, but you have to be strong, stick with the people who care about you most, friends or family. Because no matter what, this guy will end up hurting you more than he already has. You need to tell him that you can't see him anymore, no matter how much he tries to suck you back in, it's a trap, if he uses sweet words and pleasent memories against you, always remember that he used physical and mental violence towards you which is completely inappropriate. He obviously doesn't deserve to have you in his life no matter how much fun he is on weekends or at the occasion he'll be sweet, he should always treat you with respect, because that's what you deserve.
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Even if you cant do better, theres got to be a more appealing side-grade...
Someone with issues you can handle a bit more easily, like some guy who collects and catalogs mushrooms or something.
Drop him.
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dump him...
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I'll make this simple. Get rid of him and call the police.
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You have to be strong, you don't deserve this sort of treatment. You may have feelings for him but you can not let anyone hurt you, this is not love it is abuse. I suggest you stay away from him, tell him you do not deserve to be treated like this and it is over. Be strong, do not confront him alone, take a friend or atleast let someone know where you are and how long you will be. If you are still having trouble you need to talk to some social workers, and even the police if he continues to abuse you.
Just remember, you do not deserve to be treated like this, no one does.
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Try once more, but be strong, try to convince him if he truly cares about you, he would let you go.
No one deserves to be treated this way. if you are scared take a friend with you.
but if he does try to lay his hands on you, you would need to get the police and social workers involved.
i just hope you be successful in breaking up with him, if he shows his tantrums again, just walk out and let it be..you move on with your life and if he tries to cause trouble for you , you know what to do. You don't need to be scared of anyone or anything.. so goodluck.
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Your biggest fear is that he will cheat on you?
My biggest fear is that he will kill you!
He has stuck you, repeatedly! He has spoken to you violently, wished violence on you and basically told you over and over again that he not only doesn't like you, he loathes you so deeply that he wants to cause you pain!
I'm glad you aren't so dense as to believe that that is the way a man who loves you would actually behave but I'm baffled as to why you want to say anything else to him!
He doesn't want, or deserve, your sympathy or help. Once a person puts you at risk, and he has put you at risk, you no longer have any reason to try and talk sense into him. He won’t hear it from you. You are less then nothing to him. He probably won’t hear it from anyone else either.
Get away from this guy before he lands you in the hospital or worse. Don’t take his calls, don’t open the door for him, and don’t answer his e-mails. Change you phone number, change you locks, contact a women's counseling centre to help you work through the pain of loosing him but know that you MUST loose him. This is not going to get any better, and when it gets worse you better hope you aren’t around.
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Thats lik abuse or somethin you should tell someone closer to you lik your parents or cops if it gets too out of hand cuz its already out of hand.when stuff lik this happens its always some pretty gurl finds the wrong guy.if he really loved you he wouldnt treat you lik shit i hope the best for you good luck
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the basic answer iz he's cheatin on you or he's going through a rough time. if u love him alot then wait for him to come to his senses. if not just move on to the next guy. there's plenty of fish in the sea instead of the jerk of a fish move to the beautiful and smart fish
good luck
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This is going to seem like a really silly thing to say, but...
You NEED to break this off, right now. This kind of relationship is soul destroying and will end up scarring you for the rest of your life. Maybe not physically, although by all accounts I wouldn't doubt it, but certainly emotionally.
Nothing could be worse than having this jerk ruin the rest of your life.
So do what needs to be done - break it off. Tell a parent or guardian or trusted elder. They can help, believe me they can.
Nothing is worse when someone hurts someone else under the pretense of 'love'. He doesn't deserve your love or even your consideration. He, to me anyway, is one of the worst people in the world - he manipulates people.
And I tell you know, it will hurt when you break up with him. Hurt like crazy. But that's when you need to rely on your friends for support. I'm sure they will be more than willing to help. Call one of the various support lines that there are.
You seem like a lovely person, and this guy really isn't worth you.
Break it off. Thats all I have to say.
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