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Attraction to Teddy Bear
Ermm.... I'm a 15 year old girl, and when I was 10 my grandma gave me this teddy bear for my birthday. It's very cute, with brownish fur, and little button eyes. And it has a green vest. I named it "Mr. Paddington". Lately, something weird has been happening. Whenever I've been around it I've felt... odd. As though I had a crush on it. Now I'm embaressed to change with it in the room, and at night when I imagine my first kiss, it's Mr. Paddington I imagine having it with. I've told my friends that I'm dating him, but they think I'm joking.... I'm afraid to tell anyone for real, because what if they took him away? I was just wondering if this is normal..... and if I'm allowed to someday marry my teddy bear?
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OMG thats so wierd.lol.sorry didnt mean to laugh.Anyway maybe its because you really like teddy bears,or its a posesed teddy bear....JK.You shouldn't be scared to get dressed in front of it because its not going to like walk up to you and touch you.Or maybe you just have a attraction to quiet people....or things.Just remember the teddy bear will always love you.And I dont think your aloud to marry a teddy bear because
1.you have to sign your signature and I dont think teddy bears can write.
2.you have no place to put the ring on the teddy bear.
3.Thats just wierd.
~beebee69~
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Sounds like a cute bear.
First of all, there's no need to simply imagine your first kiss being with Mr. Paddington. Go ahead and kiss him for real. I guarantee he won't tell anyone.
There's no need to be concerned about getting bare in front of your bear. Just turn him to face the wall. If he whistles or makes suggestive comments, then you DO have something to be concerned about.
Feel free to continue telling your friends about your special relationship, unless of course you want to keep them.
It is certainly not normal behavior, but that doesn't necessarily mean it's crazy (in this case, though, it IS crazy). Don't tell anyone, because you're right - they WILL take him away. I know I would.
If you do decide to get married, you'll probably want to do it in Nevada or someplace else where you can avoid the blood test. He will probably need to sign the marriage license; better start working with him on that now, as I imagine he doesn't know how to spell "Paddington". However, you might want to think about whether he will be able to provide a good home for you and your children, and I suggest that you do not immediately file a joint income tax return.
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youve obviously been through a really bad break up or lost someone you love in a way and now your taking that lack of emotions on your teddy bear.dont worry its just a stage your going through and youll get over it.why dont you tell your grandma about this?isnt she the one who got it for you,mabey she can make you feel better in a way.
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I dont think you're crazy. but maybe you should tell your mom or dad. I cant really relate, because this has never happened to me. So maybe hide him for a while. once you arent used to seeing him, you'll forget about him Hope everthing works out!
~Lucky
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If this is a joke.. well, it's pretty funny.
Although, if it's not, you do need help. This is not normal, and this type of behavior could be harmful in the future. It seems as if you have a psychological problem and need immidiate attention.
The first thing I would do is tell a responsible adult... not an advice room.
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whoaaa are you fucking serious? thats insane
its probably just a phase of attachement you are going through, like you dont want to lose something or some one
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well this truely is a first...your either a joker or serious if your a joker...get a life people come here in need of serious emotional and physical problems and if you arent jokin well..i think um your crazy..but dont get me wrong not in a "im gonna kill you" crazy way in a "i wanna marry my teddy bear way" i think you should get rid of that thing before you rape it or something seriously or tell someone
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ohhh hun..um. question number one :no...this is not normal. but if its love its love...=) i have to say though the love i have for a teddy bear is pretty different than any other kind so i cant really relate to what your talking about but hey...if your happy with "Mr. Paddington" then thats cool. just...no sex. thats borderline phsycotic.
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I think you really need to get some sort of help. This isnt normal at all. Tell youre mom or somebody about youre problem and hopefully they can take you to a shreik or something.
Good luck to you♥
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Hmm. Mentel?
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Ok, this is deffinatly a first. And I would say its not very 'normal' to have a crush on, or want to marry your teddy bear. It is something near and dear to you, and I understand that. I still have one named rosie that my dad got me in the first grade. But that dosent make me want to date it. You should try meeting guys. If the problem persists, tell your mom. She might get you to a shrink. Hope I have helped :]
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before i ask i wonder if you really liked your grandma and than she died because that could be a reason but maybe that just might be the kind of guy you want quite and listens maybe but i dont know if its healthy
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I think there is something psychological behind this. Does someone you like or used to like have the same skin tone as your bear? The same vest? One of the same features? You're probably subconsciously thinking of this person when you look at your bear. Even if you don't relate one of your past/current crush(es) to this bear there is probably someone you're subconsciously thinking of. Try to figure out who it is. If you're 100% positive that this bear has nothing at all to do with anyone you used to or still do like, put the bear in a closet or drawer for a week or two and forget about it. Chances are when you remember you put him there you won't be interested (um... no pun intended) in him at all.
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um...yah. thats just a tad bit weriod. i would tell someone before it either gets worse or you end up exploding. this is really odd....
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No it isn't normal and no, although there are some countries and traditions that allow people to marry animals and inanimate objects you'd be hard pressed to find one in a first world country.
See a counselor. Dreaming about kissing a teddy isn't so weird, but believing that you have a relationship with one isn't healthy at all. You are not in a relationship with your teddy, not anymore then you have a relationship with a hunk of spam. You need some help untwisting your perception of reality and I suggest you do it quickly, before it gets worse. Trust me, although I never had quite your problem, I do know these kinds of things get worse if left alone.
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In the year 2000 a women married her house on national telivision, so no, you are far from insane. it is normal to feel paranoid every once in a while. once a girl came to me looking for advice because every time she masturbated she would turn her stuffed animals around so they couldnt she her doing it, she is now 23 and looks back at it and laughs. so, no worries. best wishes for you and mr.paddington, lol :)
Tianna Audra
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