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No sex before marriage
I want to save myself for my wedding night. Is this generaly considered weird? At school people think its really strange and generally make fun of me for it if it comes up in conversation at all. I mean, its not something I go aorund shouting, but if someone asks what I think about sex before marriage because I'm a Christian, I will tell the truth. My friends were amazed that I went out with a guy I was completely in love with for 9 months and didnt have sex with him.
Is it that strange? And is it possible to save yourself for marriage? I've heard that it gets harder to wait as you get older, and it wasn't easy in my last relationship.
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Take what you just said, and put it all together:Its what God wants you to do. Its strange,because everybody else seems to be doing it. but thats because the older you get, the harder it is. Still, i think you should stick with your virginity.
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It probably will get harder as you get older, but don't worry about what other people say about you. It's not abnormal to save yourself until after married. A lot of people have the same problem. Don't sweat it!
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There is absolutely nothing wrong with saving yourself for your wedding night - in fact, there are more pros and cons (you won't ever have to worry about getting pregnant accidentally, for instance). Whether it's weird or not, who knows what's weird anymore? Fifty years ago it was weird *not* to wait. Don't pay too much attention to people who tease you; your sexuality is your own and yours to do with as you see fit. It *is* possible to save yourself for marriage, although I will admit to you that it is not an easy thing. We're wired for sex, and it's only because we're part of a society that we don't go around doing it all the time. There will be times when you really feel like giving in, when some guy is so amazingly hot, you just want to surrender. However, having said that, we are *not* animals and therefore, we are masters of our emotions. Stay strong and stay true to your convictions and your wedding night will be a wonderful event. Good luck and take care.
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girl ...let me talk...my teacher told us something that gave me a better reason to not have sex 'till marriage my old reason was..'just cause' but not now..my reason that i got from my teacher was.....when all my friends arent virgins.......and i am ...... i can be like them any day and lose my virginty after i am married.....but they can NEVER be like me (a virgin) again...just hold that reason tight...... i am a virgin and plan to lose it with the one i love and guess what......just think of it...lose your virginity with a guy that your not sure you love...or loves you back....but to have a hot....sweet......n the best sex ever ..with the one you love..and you know loves you back...with rings on...and the bond of god....binding you two together....now doesnt that just sound great as heck? thats why i am remaining fresh 'till i am married and i hope peeer pressure wont hurt you.
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WOW im really happy for you!seriously! your the first person i meet on this website that thinks exactly LIKE ME...i never had and never will have sex in ANY way till im married and im 15/f. ScReW who ever makes fun of you for not having sex now later on when they all have STDs and your the one whos all healthy YOULL be the one making fun of them.dont let them make you go down to their level
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Hi, it's not strange at all, and is possible to save yourself before marriage. Personally sex should really come after when you've got married and have settled in a job. Then it makes it easisr to have a baby because your both a mum and dad and have money and a house to support your baby. Alot of teenagers don't realise that. Daniel.
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It`s not strange and it is possible.It`s just that alot of people do that but if you can than that`s great. ♥
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I think that's a very wise choice.
Hubby and I were both 26 year old virgins on our wedding night. So you're not alone, it just seems like it these days. And it seems to get worse every year.
So, congratulations on making such an intelligent decision. Don't let anybody else bother you. Why would anybody make fun of you, anyway? How do your decisions about your own person life effect them? The only reason for them to make fun of you is because they are jealous. You make them look like sluts. You see, if they can convince themselves that "everybody" is doing, it, they can feel justified and "normal". When someone comes along like you and shows them that not everybody is giving it away, it threatens their little fantasy world, and that's why they would attack you. Don't let them get to you, you should feel sorry for them.
Good luck.
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I don't think it's strange.
You're the only one that can decide when you want to have your first time. Nobody can change that. If people make fun of you and laugh at you, laugh with them. You want to save your first time when you're ready, not when everyone else wants you to. If you go out with a guy and he pressures you into it, then dump him. If he can't understand that, then he's not right for you.
Hope I helped!
♥ SiMA
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no, it's not strange....it's just kind of unheard of sometimes. it's not easy but i'm sure its worthwhile in the end. <3
edit: so what kind of answer were you looking for?
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Hooray for you! That's not strange at all! If some guy tells you he will break up with you if you don't have sex with him, that's his problem. If you made that promise to yourself to save yourself for your husband, by all means keep that promise. Hope I helped!
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I've been with my guy for 3 years and I won have sex with him. Him and i both dont believe in sex before marriage. And you know...since you're a christiam...that the bible says to not have sex before marriage. It's not uncommon at all. Keep true to your faith and dont let what anyone else says get you down.
Hope that helped.
♥ Me
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