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whats wrong? am i WEIRD?
well i have asked a question on how i can be more outgoing cause its affecting my ability to be able to make friends. well i try to be interesting but no one seems to like me. like i see people in the halls at school saying "want to come over my house" or "Want to go bike riding" no one ever asks me that, is it because i'm boring? what can i do to make people want me as their friend? and how can i keep friend? i am really desperate for help. :( i have like one kind of best friend and she never even asks me to do stuff! she doesnt even invite me to her parties! and please dont say "why dont you ask THEM"
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im afraid to tell you that kids these days (teens in particular) wont go running up to some person asking for them to hang out..not in this century.
since people have probably already made their groups and 'cliques', they wont really be looking for anybody else..you have to grab their attention by popping up a question - maybe you have something in common with the other kid..the best advice i can give you is to get involed!!
join a sport, club, or some other great activity and i am sure you will find someone (whether it be your other half or just an 'aquatance') i sure met a ton of cool kids my age that way..i made myself a part of something along with many others.
if you dont know how to start..try to find out what you like to do, and stick to those hobbies!! this may sound corny, but wear a cute new shirt youve made on your sewing machine..and maybe youlll attract someone wholl ask you where you got it...(soon to find out that you magically crafted it yourself)(that way you may find some other kids that like to design clothing too)..
most of all though-be proud of who you are and create yourself to however it may fit your personality..but DO NOT fake just to try and impress someone..youll get tired of acting like someone youre not, so just remember to act natural..i hope you can use my advice-and good luck at making those friends!!!
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i know you dont want to hear this. but i really think you should ask them to hang out sometime. and you shouldnt stick "best friends" with the girl that doesnt invite you to her parties. the thing is. you have to be yourself and stand out. do daring stuff and always have funn. that way ppl want to hang out with you cause you do crazy stuff. this doesnt work for everyone and im sorry if it doesnt work really hope i helped
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you just seam shy.. try to talk more and get into things like teams or after school things so that you can hang around people more.. maybe if you dothen you will be less and less shy! maybe try asking someone else to go over to your house and just talk a lot and put yourself out there.. hope i helped =] <3
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hey, i think your just shy. join clubs or join sports programs. do afterschool activities. be very social. talk alot. about your "best friend". she isnt your best friend if she doesnt invite you anywhere and invites others places. cait♥
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hi,
first of all this girl who never asks you over is not your friend , if she asks other people over and not you. get out there get a hobby, join as many clubs and activities as you can you will soon have alot of friends. not to be a smarty pants or anything but people omit a chemical that other peopl can sense dont know the name but its what tells people you are a confident person, for other people to like you, you need to like yourself!! so take a look in the mirror and say i love myself!! there is nothing wrong with me!! say hi to everyone join in the conversation and you'll be on your way to freindship town!! if you need anymore help just email me@ lisamudd21@yahoo.co.uk
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A lot of the people from school probably also are friends because they play on the same out of school soccer club or go to the same church youth group. People are generally nicer out of school and more willing to be approachable and try and be your friend. I would join some out of school groups that have people there who also go to your school- you will then have something in common and you will be able to talk about this activity when you are in school. It will also boost your confidence. Church is really the best place to start as people are trying to be Christian and nice there and youth groups can be fun and have goodlooking people as well!
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I used to have the same exact problem!! buuut... i figured out a miracle way to cure it!!!! ready for the answer? Here it is: find yourself a good friend that is cool, but not all stuck up. someone who isnt popular, but not unpopular. THEN BUILD YOURSELF A REPUTATION.
reps last a lifetime, and there hard to fix. I wish you the very best of luck.
-Panda
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Honestly...being funny is always the best way! i found that because im realf funny people are always hanging with me! but not be funny like when u see someone you start making fun of them and let other people put you down thats dumb i mean funny like joke around..also start parties have sleep overs and always be the one that invites the coolest people so then everyone would wanna go stop running after people let them come to you if u have any more questions just write me k..laters(btw im 14)
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I dont no if i will be much of a help but i cant relate extremely or closely i find that im always wishing i was more interesting or talkative and i find that am always putting myself down...for other people it looks so easy when they try to hangout with someone but when you try they all look at you like your a freak from some other planet..almost like your invisible and noone cares. I also find myslef at home all the time its like i have nofriends that like me...and i always ask what is wrong with me? but i think you should just try to talk more be compltely yourself and dont hide in the corner like me and be unnoticed because then you reall feel invisible so try to be out there and fun and mainly just talk more thats how you can be more outgoing, dont be afriad to show them how you are and if they cant deal with it i think its time to find new friends...trust me i think i need new friends too except for the fact i live in a small town and i have nowhere else to go:S if that a case with you then just throw a movie night at your house or plana huge group activity that everyone will want to do then they might want to hang with you more often
-Tawny
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I see. If the people can't exept who you really are then that is just plain weird! But on the other hand you can try to start up a conversation about what you think interests them and you that is the only way to actually make friends. Talk about T.v like I love grey's anatomy and one tree hill. don't randomly go up and start talking because then they will try to avoid you. ease up to them like go hang out with them in a class before the bell. Don't seem too desperate because it wil creep them out. As for your friend who doesn't talk or do much w/ u she really isn't your friend and don't think that she is!! Be fun and what works for me is that i am a little sarcastic(not in a rude way)! Trust me life isn't based on how many friends you have or don't have!!!!!
Gook Luck
***Bridgette***
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Well, I used to be the EXACT same way. Its just because Im shy. I dont know if you are or not, but one thing that helps for me is to just talk. I talk as much as I can. Ive learned that when you don't talk, dont take this personally, people tend to say "well, does she not like me or something?" And I know you dont. You sound like a perfectly sweet person. And dont worry about sounding weird. In three years when you have a big group of best friends by your side, they wont remember the embarrasing things. They will remember how nice and cool you are. Hope I helped!!
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I use to feel the same way about this. Like I always felt like I wasn't friends enough with my friends to hang out with them, but really you need to start with just talking about a movie and be like "oh yeah I want to see (insert movie), we should totally go see that this weekend" and then if they go "yeah!" then you or maybe someone else will be like "Awesome! And let's go to the mall!" and then someone else will go "the mall?!!?! I love the mall!"
I know it's hard to get started but you'll get there. And you can't like just expect people to be friends with you just because. Like you need to show how cool you really are to them.
-Andrew(the best)
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