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Cutting
I realy realy need some help. My friend has been cutting herself, and i don't know what to do to help stop her. She did stop, when she was dating this guy, she said "he made me feel beautful". I realy realy want to help her, but i don't kno how. I tried to get stop, but she won't listen to me. Also she's not afriad of cutting herself, because one of her friends, friend died from cutting herself, and my friend kno's this. I realy realy want to help her stop. But i don't kno how.
PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!
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whatever you do do not tell her parents. She will get really mad at you and most likely wont talk to you anymore. This will cause big problems. I know its better to loose a friend well trying to help them than to loose them to death but dont do that. I cut and i would be really angry if one of my friends told my parents just talk to her about it. If you have or if she wont annoy her a lot. But dont tell her parents it will cause alot of trouble and than everyone will find out about her cutting. Give her a lot of compliments help her she needs.
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You're probably not going to like this answer, but you need to tell your friend's parents. If you're not comfortable telling them yourself, tell your parents or a teacher so they can do it for you. Since you've already tried talking to her and it didn't work, it's going to take something more. Her parents will be able to get her the help she needs.
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You're going to have to try to talk to your friend about this, again. I know you tried before and it isn't working. But, don't give up. Keep trying until it does work. Let her know that you care about her and you don't want anything bad happening to her. Explain to her how great of a person she is and how beautiful she is. Tell her nice things (but mean it) so, maybe, she'll feel better about herself. Explain to her that you're there for her no matter what. And if she ever wants to talk or needs someone to lean on, you'll be there for her. I think you should also add that she is beautiful and she doesn't need a guy to feel beautiful. Every girl is beautiful, in their own way. She just has to learn to love herself.
I think you should do something special for her, though. You should make a list of 50 reason 'why you don't want her cutting', 'why she's such a wonderful person', or 'why you don't want her to die.' Something like that will cheer someone up, I'm sure and it'll help with a lot of thoughts she may be having. You could be saving her, just by something simple like this. It'll show just how much you do really care. ♥
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Aw. Try sitting down and talking to her. Tell her you understand whatever she's going through and your there for her. Tell her you care about her and you really want her to stop because its dangerous. If that doesn't work i guess you can't really make her stop if she doesn't want to. The important thing is you tried to help her.
Hope i helped.
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okay, you probably don't want to hear this, but if you care about her you have to tell someone. you really do. if you talked to her multiple times about it & told her if she doesn't stop you'll tell someone & she still doesn't stop, you have to. you have to get help for her, because she isn't going to help herself. yes, you might lose her friendship, but would you rather lose her friendship er lose her as a person?? you need to tell an adult. either your parents, her parents, a school counsler, teacher, family, friends, etc. you're only helping her out by doing this & it really seems like if you do help, you could be saving her life, because cutting is dangerous. she'll definately understand.
-hope that helped!♥
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well first off, do her parents know? if not just tell them.
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If she doesn't hide it, she wants attention. And you need to give her more. Just telling her to stop isn't going to necessarily make it happen. She needs to know you care.
Talk to her about it. Ask her what's been going on with her at home, or just in general. Whenever I used to cut, and my friend noticed, she wanted to help. And she did. Another girl got me help, and now I'm in counselling, and it really helps me. Because since starting it, I haven't cut since. Just talk to her about it, and let her know you care, and that if anything's ever wrong, and she needs to talk, to call you. Or, you could always go over there if she wants to talk face to face so she has a shoulder to cry on. And if you wanna get her serious professional help, talk to the school counsellor. When she finds out it's you who told, she might be pissed at you, but in the she'll realize all you ever wanted to do was help her because you care.
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I`m very sorry to hear this && it must be hard to be in the middle of this..
I suggest you mentioning this to her parents WITHOUT your friend knowing..Tell the parents you`d like for your friend not to know they know from you..
Maybe mention this to a counselor at school if you guys go the same school..&& they`ll tell her parents..
Hope i helped if you need more advice please ask!
Sorry again ♥Dez
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first of all. a website made by scientist isnt going to help. they may think they have scientifically proved those things but they havent because they think they know how to understand the teenage mind which is impossible for the simple fact teenagers thereselves cant understand it.
that was a response to the other answer someone gave you.
im a previous cutter. and ive had friends just tell me to stop. and thats all. all they want is for me to stop and thats all they say. just because you want her to stop isnt going to make her stop. dont tell her to stop. ask her why she does it. when she does it. and whats going on. let her know that your always there for her to talk to and you wont betray her or backstab her. most cutters dont trust many people. and this may sound weird. but if she trusted you enough to tell you then you mean something to her. and a cutters worst fear is letting someone in and then having them walk out on her. its just makes things worse. they feel like that pyhsical pain relieves the emotional and pyschological pain. and it does. its a horrible way to relieve pain and take it out on yourself. so you need to help her understand without telling her to just stop because then they feel like they are being ordered around. they just want someone to be there. and let her know that your worried about her hurting herself and that you wish she would stop but its her decision. but let her know it hurts you when she does it.
also. if she doesnt cover it up and she tells everybody and doesnt try to hide it. shes just looking for attention. let her know you care and that your there for her even if she just wants people to notice her.
sorry for such a long answer.
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Here is a web site that tells how to deal with a friend who cuts. I think it will have some good ideas for you. :)
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