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Should I wait for him????
Hi, 17f and 18 male. Ok theres this guy who i really, really, really like and i know he really likes me too. I mean we are sort of talking like we are together but we don't have any titles to our relationship yet. I would really like to be his girlfriend but i don't want to press the matter and sort of with his timing becuause im ok with where we are right now. But i don't wanna wait forever. I know that his last girlfriend kinda broke his heart and he was really torn up about it but that was over a year ago and he says and acts like he's over it, but still says that he's not ready for a relationship. Like i said, i dont mind it being like it is right now but i don't want it to be like this forver and it doesn't really seem to be moving forward. I am really starting to fall for him, but i just keep asking myself is that worth waiting all this time for him. The last time i fell for a guy like this and we weren't together i just waited because i had the mentality like i would take him any way i could get him and that didn't work out so well for me and i don't want a replay of that. Not with him. I wanna wait for him but part of me is thinking that if i keep waiting like this it won't ever change. Should i wait for him?
P.S. Sorry for the length.
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If you decide that since he isn't ready to date again and just go find someone else, that'll show how little he really matters to you. I'm not saying that's the truth, but that's how he'd perceive it.
If you "really, really, really" liked him, there should be no question of waiting. You just need to work on going without a relationship for a while (trust me, it's very possible and easy to do).
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Eventually he will be ready to date again but it might take some more time and you're perfectly right, you shouldn't have to wait forever and since you're not dating right now, there's no reason you shouldn't go out and date someone else.
However, I would advise you to talk to him about this first. It's a really difficult subject because if he does like you but is scared to get involved, you dating someone else might hurt him but you just don't know. So talk to him, you have to tell him that you have feelings for him. Tell him that you wanted him to know this because even though he has said he's not ready to date yet, you just wanted him to know how you felt. See what he says after this. If he seems receptive, try asking him out. If not, let him know that you don't want your feelings to affect your friendship an that you hope it doesn't make things awkward.
After this point, if he still isn't ready, feel free to go off and date other people. At least this way he knows and he has had an opportunity to do something and you know you won't have made your decision to move on without finding out if you can be with him first.
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