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is it so wrong?
my bf is wonderful. I care for him alot...i don't know about love..but i care for him alot. The thing is, whenever I am with him, like at the movies, or at zoo lights, i love it when we just cuddle. I feel so safe when he has his arms around me and i just sleep on him, or just relax on him. I am not really that much into kissing. His best friend is my guy friend and when i talk to him on the phone, he says that my bf tells him that he likes me alot alot but he wants to kiss me more. So i went to the movies with him yesterday and we saw King Kong. It was like 3 hours. For the first two hours we just cuddled. I couldn't bring myself to kiss him for some reason. I kept on getting texts from my guy friend saying kiss him now, do it now..so i made out with him for like 10 seconds, then i went back to cuddling. is it so wrong to just want to cuddle? i don't understand what is wrong with me, why can't i bring myself to make out with him for a long time?
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If this guy truly loves you and cares about you as much as you care about him, then if you tell him that you like to cuddle more than kissing, he shouldnt care. He should understand if he really cares for you.
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Well, if you dont feel right kissing, don't do it. Talk to your boyfriend and tell him that you just like cuddling better. He should understand if he likes you that much.
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No, there's nothing wrong to want to just cuddle. My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months and have not kissed once. We both prefer "cuddling," just hugging, holding hands etc.
Some people like different things. Explain to your boyfriend that kissing him is nice, but you really feel wonderful and safe in his arms. That's how I feel when my boyfriend hugs me. So safe, warm, comforted, loved, cared for.. etc., etc., and plus, who doesn't like a hug?
It is a mutual understanding between my boyfriend and I that, while we love each other, and kissing has it's place, right now, that place is not within our relationship boundries. We love hugging each other. It is physical, but nothing that my parents wouldn't approve of.
I am a very physical person - as you are - but in a different way than your boyfriend is. Your boyfriend is physical = action. [Which is NOT a bad thing.] I am, and you probably also, are physical = attention, affection, comfort. Sure, it's great to know that someone likes / loves you, but it really is much better when their arms are around you, holding you tightly.
There is no reason you shouldn't kiss your boyfriend, and there is no reason you should feel pressured to kiss him. Don't let someone else tell you when it is a right time and a wrong time to kiss him. And besides... let your boyfriend initiate once in a while, eh? But don't pull away. He cuddles with you, you kiss him. That way you're both happy. :)
By the way, I saw King Kong with my dad [yeah, that was my "date"] and the graphics / special effects were INCREDIBLE. The water, dinosours, King Kong himself, the giant bugs... all spectacular. But the plot, in my opinion, was lacking a bit. There were places that I was just bored. But... I'm sure you weren't. [no offense. I just know that I wouldn't be bored if I were cuddling with my boyfriend.]
Talk and explain to your boyfriend. I'm sure he'll understand and be happy to cuddle with you as long as you're willing to kiss once in a while.
-FunnyCide
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there isn't anything wrong with that but what you like and he likes maybe different things maybe (this sounds kinda gay) you can come to a compromise with yourself and think privately okay i'll cuddle with him for an hour and then make our with hime for 5 minutes then cuddle then make out like a pattern
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no..i dont think it is wrong at all, you may not be ready to make out with your boyfriend or may not feel comfortable so dont let anyone force you into doing something you dont want to.Hope i helped=)
♥ASHLEY
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don't kiss a ton... just every now and then to show him you care about him is fine. if you just want to cuddle then do that. <3
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its that you dont feel comfortable making out with him -- but you might sooner. for now cuddle. there is NOTHING wrong with that
Alicia
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i think that you need to learn how to multitask
its easy u just need to make out and cuddle at the same time duh* well any other questions i can help andswer just put them on the site duh again bye bye
-Engell-
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babe, theres nothing wrong with cuddling but sometimes a guy needs a little boost here and there ;) just try making out with him again, and see what happens . in my opinion, hooking up with guys just makes the relationship stronger =)
so give it a try ! lemme know if anything goes wrong .
xoo hope this helps !! ♥
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there's nothing wrong with not wanting to make out. I have a lot of friends who don't really like kissing. That's ok. Just tell your boyfriend. He'll understand.
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im 14 and i just made out for the first time 2 days ago. it was only like 20 sec long but it was pleasureable. one of the reasons may be you just arent that far into your realtionship and you dont feel ready to make out. i felt the same way but a waited a few weeks later and it was nice. also your friend was preasuring you to so that could have been a reason. hope i helped
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well there's nothing wrong with cuddling. i think its really good that you aren't willing to just do something just because of its expected of you. as for why you can't bring yourself to kiss him, there are many possible answers to that. my friend had the same problem and she explained to me that in her situation, kissing is something very intimate and that she has a hard time being close to people, including her boyfriend. maybe kissing for you puts you in a state of akwardness or discomfort. maybe you feel vulnerable allowing a guy who you say you just "care" about to be that close and intimate with you. maybe you're just not ready to go that far into your relationship with him just yet. maybe you're afraid that if you kiss him more often, he'll expect something else. as you can there can be many underlineing reasons as to why you can't bring yourself to kiss your boyfriend. the only real advice i can give is that you take some time to think about all the possible reasons and whatever reason you come up with, talk about it with your boyfriend so he can understand what's going on and not be left in the dark. once again, i respect the fact that you're taking it slow and you're being pressured to do things you don't want to. i hope everything works out =)
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You are still young and probably are just not ready for that kind of intimacy yet. If it doesn't feel comfortable, then don't do it. It should come to you naturaly if the moment is right. There is no need to make out for the sake of making out. Besides I think it is rude to be making out and text messaging at the theater anyways.
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