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18/f. I have a very close guy-friend. Occasionally when he comes over to mine (or I go to his), and he (or I) can't get home (e.g. he comes to my place on his bike, I don't like him to ride home at 3am, it's not too safe around here) then he stays over. He'll sleep in my (single) bed, and we usually end up snuggled up to close each other (e.g. both lying on our sides facing the same way with his arm around me).
My question is - is this ok for our relationship? - I don't want to date him, I don't want our friendship to turn into something further. We are both single. Is it ok to sleep together like this, or will it damage our friendship in the long run?
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Well look if you both know you're just friends, you're both comfortable with it and you're both single it's not a problem. The fact that you're questioning it maybe means you're not one of those things?
The only thing I'd say is that when one of you gets a partner things are going to have to change and how well you both take that is a measure of what it meant to you both in the first place. If you're honest with yourself would you be jealous of a girlfriend he had and would you resent the fact you guys could no longer be that close? If yes perhaps you should think about whether friendship really is the only thing that you want from this guy.
On one hand the fact you guys can do this makes it sound to me like there's attraction there, on the other since it's not a regular thing (i.e.: i assume neither of you make excuses to stay over?) perhaps it really is platonic in which case you've got something very special.
You're old enough to make your own judgement about things like this so make a list of all the possibilities and consequences then chuck it out the window and follow your gut.
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If you both are on the same page, then no it's fine. Where it gets fucked up is if one of you starts thinking something is there when it's not.
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Well, it won't ruin your friendship or anything but it might change it into something more. I know that if one of my close single guy friends and I spent a few nights together like that I'd probably end up with some feelings for him.
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I think its will hurt your friendship you 2 will start feeling too close and think its okay to sleep together even though you know its not you might start getting addicted to it since you do it alot so think about it maybe its best if you stop and just stay close friends or start dating so that it doesn't feel okward.
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As long as you feel comfortable and Okay with it I think it is totally fine. It is normal to cuddle with another guy without showing any feelings except friendship, just arms to be in. If he feels the same way he is just showing affection to a good friend. But you may not know his intentions unless you talk to him about it.
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well, you are 18 and its not uncommon. its fine if you are comfortable with it... it might be worse f you make him get on the couch or something like just randomly... its good that you guys are really close but not with benefits or anything. i admire that. <3
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It's fine. As long as you two have an understanding that you want to be friends and nothing is wrong it's fine. If he feels differently the sleeping in the same bed should end.
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It's fine unless you don't want it to be. If you guys find nothing wrong with it, then don't worry about it. It's nothing serious though and it won't ruin your friendship unless you guys choose too. My opinion on this is that it's okay to do it. I mean you're just laying down, not doing anything really. ♥
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Personally, I think its fine! Just make sure he knows that you only want to be friends. If he really liked you in that way he woul djust ask you out. If guys like you they wont be afraid to ask you out and he hasnt so I dont think there is anything to worfry about. I would just make sure that there are clothes on both of you and you dont end up on top of eachother. It isnt wrong to have a sleepover with someone of the opposite sex and not want sex. I think its coool that you dont make him walk home at 3. Its fine and it wont make ur relationship any different. If anything you will just become stronger friends, but nothing more!
~Mackenzie
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hmmm well maybe he's gay lol because all I know is that if straight guys sleep with girls they're something going on... otherwise as long as you two don't make a move on eachother everything should be fine, just make sure that he knows that you don't want to go any further than where you are now
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