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Ok so there is this girl on my bus named jessica. And were arent friends or anything. And she told the kid across from me that her stepfather beats her. So me and the other kid decided that we would tell the guideance counseler about it. Well the other kid goes to Vo-tech during the day so he wanted me to tell the office. So I did. Well somehow Jessica found out that I was the one who told and now shes mad at me. She is being really nasty to me what should i do? I mean I was only trying to help
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She may be mad at you but you helped her. There really isnt nothing you can do-but over time she will be thankful for what you did because it could have saved her life!! Go you, I applaud you for what you did.
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If what she says is true, she is probably deeply embarassed that you did this. You're not her friend, and I know it was an act of kindness, but to her it feels like it was none of your business. She is somewhat right about that. On one hand, it really wasn't your place to interfere but on the other hand, if you hear something like that how can you just turn the other cheek? This is something very serious and was probably looked into immediately, now there are probably a lot of counselors and lawyers and other people involved with her life and it's very stressful to her.
Now, if what she says was not true and she was just saying that to be "cool" (I know it's weird, but it happens), people are probably investigating her home for no reason and she doesn't want people to find out she lied.
Either way, I think she should get over it. If it was the truth and she is being abused, tell her that you didn't mean to interfere, you just wanted to help and that you're there for her if she needs it. If she was lying, well, she is the one who did the wrong thing, not you, so just forget about her.
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well i think jessica didnt want anyone to find out about it no doubt, but when it is all over i think she will realize you did the right thing (if it was actually true) if it wasnt true...then she will be mad, so i would be ready. but in my opinion, and in many others, you did the right thing.good luck!
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you should talk to her and ask her not to be mad and that it could be better dont worry it will work out give it time
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you so did the right thing, and dont let anyone tell you differently okay?
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Jessica is one of a few things:
A: Afraid of what her stepfather will do to her.
B: A total bitch.
C: Lying about the whole thing.
D: A total bitch who lied about the whole thing.
Just ignore her. You did the right thing, not matter what her reaction was. If it is true, then later in life she'll be thankful. She's obviously just going through problems right now.
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You did the right thing.
There are a couple reasons she may be mad. Either she's scared that something worse will happen now that you've told, she doesn't want people to know, or she was lying and saying that just for attention. But you did the right thing, so don't regret what you did. Try appologizing to her, and if that doesn't work you shouldn't feel bad, because that was the right thing for you to do.
♥ Melissa
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you did the right thing. she might be mad now..but it will run its course..she will get help with the counselor and hopefully they will take care of the situation..and she will end up thanking you. even if she doesnt..who cares..you didd the right thing and im proud of you.
-melissa-
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There's nothing you can do go to her appologize and tell her that it's something that she couldn't just keep to herself and that you were only trying to help because no one should have to go through with that no matter what. It's normal for her to be madd about the situation after all it's her personal life, but the fact that she told someone also means some part of her wants to let it out and let some people know. Also keep in mind that she could have been lying and wanted attention and as soon as people found out it was a little more attention then she had intended on. But all in all you did the right thing, you were worried about her and that's good. I'm sure she realizes you helped her but she's still a little emotional about this coming out and the counselor knowing.
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confront her and tell her what you just told advicenators. im sure she will understand that you were trying to take her life out of hell and into the heavens. LOL. well best of luck!!!
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You did what you were supposed to do. Let the proper authorities deal with it. She may be nasty now because she loves her father as much as he may beat the tar out of her. She needs help and lord hopes she gets it. Whether or not she is angry with you does not matter at all now or the future. You had a responsibility.
In the end when she waskes up from this and gets the help she needs she will be happy you told. This is after all what she wanted no matter what anyone will tell you. She would not have opened her mouth to someone else with people in ear shot if she did not.Feel good and proud for doing the right thing.
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Its natrual to be mad, but you need to talk to her. Even if she doesn't want to hear it, don't take her immaturity. You have to explain to her that you were trying to help her and nothing more! It's really good thatyou told someone about it, because if it's really true then she would be misrable. Let her act the way she wants but one day she will relize that you weren't trying to be mean to her or hurt her. You aren't friends with her so you have nothing to loose.
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Explain to her why you did it, tell her that your only trying to help her and that she will thank you later (even if she wont admit it now) she's probably just scared that she is going to get beaten more because she told on her stepfather. she most likely just scared of him and doesnt want to cause any trouble. Maybe you should just give her time to think about it and maybe she will thank you.
But remember when people push you away thats when they need you the most.
hope i helped a little.
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