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I have just gone into seventh grade this year, And me and my friends all want to decorate peoples lockers for their birthdays. But my one friend doent seem like she wants me to help. I was just on the phone with her and she was getting ready to go in early tomorrow to decorate one ofour friends lockers. But when I asked her if I could help she was just kinda guiet and said, "I don't Know." And when she was talking about all the lockers she was going to decorate I said, "Yeah, you and me will have to go in and decorate them together." When I said that she was jsut kind of quiet. And when I asked if that was o.k, she just said really quietly. " I guess So." So I can't tell if she wants me to help or not. We are both friends with the same people. I ust don't kow why she is acting so weird. If someone could PLLLEASE right back ASAP, that would be great!
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Get up the nerve to ask her if she truly wants you to help decorate lockers with her. If she is acting weird, confront her about it. Obviously, she's hiding something for the sake of not hurting you, but in the process, she's doing exactly that. If she doesn't want you to help her, accept this and move on. If she isn't willing to engage with you as friends, she isn't trying to be a good friend. Ask her what her problem is, but be respectful with what she has to say. Maybe your mind is playing tricks on you; there may not even be a presentable problem. Confront her about it, talk it through with her. Get to the bottom of this without sounding desperate.
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I have a feeling that your friend might want to do this by herself... just to show that she cares for the friend and that she wants to give them this present by herself instead of looking cheap and just joining in with someone else, which is probably what she thinks the impression of the locker owner will get. Maybe you should stand out and do something else, like make fabulous cards or something really creative. If you guys are planning to decorate the inside of someone's locker, then this would probably be against the rules and you could get in trouble, anyways. Nothing is really worth that!
At my school, everyone makes signs to hang around their necks that says something like, "Give me a hug - it's my birthday!" Maybe you could make something like that for your friends - it's completely dress code safe and it gives more recognition than a decorated locker!
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Maybe she just thinks it would be a waste of her time or that you would get in trouble for vandalizing lockers. It's not really something to worry about, not like it's the end of the world.
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Sounds to me like she just wants to do something by herself right now. Don't think that it means she's trying to push you away I'm sure that's not it at all. Just let her do this one thing by herself and maybe she'll be happy and then things will go back to normal. Sometimes people want to do things for others wiht out other peoples help sometimes. I'm sure she's not madd at you or anything.
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Seems like she wants to do it all herself and take the credit. They are your friends and you deserve to decorate their lockers. We have a lot of this drama in my school as well. The 7th graders are always argueing and getting mad over the stupidest things but if your friend is going to act like that, then just don't decorate it with her. They are your friends as much as they are hers and you don't have to do it together. Even though you want to.
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This is just my opinion, but I think that your friend doesn't want your help, and that is not a very nice way to act. I'm thinking that you should ask her why she's acting like she doesn't need your help.
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