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Well i have a friend lets call him fred.. well fred is usally really happy.. and i cant picture him being sad at all.. i dont think i have ever seen him sad.. and ive known his since 2nd grade (in 10th now) so ya.. and today i went online and his away message said dead inside.. and i asked him if he was ok and he didnt say anything.. and im worried about him cause hes one of my really really good friends.. what should i do? please answer i rate high..
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your friend could be feeling like that he has no one left in the world to care about him. make sure that you dont see and cutting scars on him. if he starts that please stop him. i started doing that not too long ago and its hard to stop when you feel like you dont know who you are.
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He's upset about something and he's letting it get to him. Don't worry he'll figure it out on his own all you can do is be there for him even if he doesn't tell you a thing. in the end it's his choice what to tell and what not to tell. Stay there for him and it's a good thing you care about him i understand but try not to worry about it. Could be family problems, rejection, confusion, or just frustration and anger. I don't think it's anything serious When i get upset or angry i put up away messages like that too it's just something you do.
hope I helped you out
Katy
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don't force him to talk to you, just offer your support and make sure he knows that you are there for him. if you force him to talk to you he might end up pushing you away even more, and thats not a good thing!
hope i helped!
Nadia.
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if youre great friends ( which you say you are) you should definately talk to him about this. if he is putting on a false image then it must be really hurtful inside... i know what hes going through, i seem VERY happy to everyone around me and i get little spurts of sadness. sometimes, i can barely talk to anyone and ive always wanted someone i could just talk to.
so you should DEFINATELY talk to him.. tell him that youre there for him and that you will listen to anything he has to say
i wish someone was thre for me like tht, i do have ppl.... but i dont like to tell people
it mite be hard to get this out of him, but try your hardest. share something secretive with him. he'll open up
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awwww... well obviously you're a really good friend, because you care about him enough to ask for advice about it!
probably the best thing you can do now is just talk to him about it... tell him that you've been his best friend since 2nd grade, and he knows you well enough to be able to tell you ANYTHING.
you can't really do much about it, because maybe he just doesn't want to talk about. just let him know that you're there for him whenever he needs you.
maybe he just wants to be alone and doesn't really want to talk about it right now. just give him some time, but don't bugg him too much about it and keep asking him what's wrong, because he'll probably get annoyed and get mad.
whatever it is that he's sad or mad about, i'm sure he'll tell once he's ready. just say somethiing like this
"Fred I've known you since 2nd grade, and you've been my best friend ever since, and i'm really worried about you, and i just wanted to let you know that i'm there for you whenever you need me, and you can tell me anything, and i'll understand."
and just say something like that, because you don't want to push it or MAKE him tell you what's wrong, because maybe he just doesn't want to tell anyone right now.
***good luck!!***
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Tell him what seems to be making him upset,to trust you,to say what is on his mind,and what are friends for.Also that if you were upset about something that you would tell him if something is bothering you or something that upsets you,and that friends shouldn't keep things away from each other.Try insisting,if he tells you to stop then tell him you will respect that,and you will give him time and when he feels to want to talk about it you'll be waiting intill he does.
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If the change in your friends behavior is really that drastic, I can understand your worry. By placing that kind of message online he sends a message that he really does want someone to help. Let your friend know that you would like to help. Pay close attention to whether others have noticed this change as well. Are his grades being greatly effected,is he shutting down? If things are that much worse, you will need professional advice. You might want to look into what kind of programs your school has to handle these types of situations.
I hope that all is well soon.
Eva J
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Call him up and ask him if he can hang out. Try getting some personal time with him to cheer him up or make him happy. He may not come right out to anyone about how he feels, so try to not really pry it.. but offer him any kind of comfort and let him know that you and a lot of other people are there for him if he ever needs them.
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ok look im like the person that no one ever expects to be sad or stuff because i hide it soo well. so listen to this side of the story. he probibly has problems that he hasent and mostlikely never will tell ANYONE about, if i was him i wouldnt want anyone to ask me about it just let him know that you know somthings wrong but dont repeatedly ask him about it. just live as usual and invite him... Bowling or somthing. he should be normal in a week or 3.
hope i helped
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Talk to you friend and ask him if you can know what's wrong with him. Dont force him so just ask him and if he doesnt want to talk about it than let him know if he ever wants to tell you he can. If he tells you anything dont tell other people. Just be a friend and stick by him let him know that you care a lot about him and wish that he could be happy like before. Hope this helps!
-Manda
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Well I think you should pull him aside in school or when you hangout talk to him comphert him if he seems like he needs it just act like you understand how he is feelign and put yourself in his shoes that is the bes advice i have for you
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AdviceGirl
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