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I know I need help
But the problem is I don't know how to ask for it. My dad is so completely clueless when it comes to me & my mother is not around. I've told him I'm depressed & that I think about killing myself all the time. But how do I straight out tell him I want to get help before I actually try to kill myself?
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the best way is either go through someone who is a familyfriend or a closer friend && be there when you say you need professional help; the sooner the better b/c you really dont need to be thinking like that. atleast you realise you need help && you are willing to get some but the first step is to actually go get it. good luck && keep youre head up!!
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well i'm just kinda wondering why you'd want to kill yourself .. i've been through the whole thing where it seems like everything is wrong in my life and no one would even care if i left but believe me - it's not worth it. just try to sit down and talk to him about that and tell him that he needs to listen. if that doesn't help then i say you find a therapist to talk to yourself or when you're back in school go to the counciler and talk to him/her. they could help you find someone or you could just go there daily and just talk it out with him. i hope that you really find something that helps because when you least expect it you're whole life will turn around and everything will be a lot better than what it is right now. i hope i helped you a little .. good luck!
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i think you answered your own question. just tell your father that you really want some help and explain everything and anything you want to him when you are telling him him this.
hope this helped, love.
♥Jessica
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You do just that. Tell him straight out that you want help with your depression. No need to go to a special doctor, your family doc will be fine.
If he doesn't listen maybe a grandparent, aunt or uncle can help you get through to him. :)
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I think you've just answered your own question. Straight up say "Please get me some help, I'm really worried, and I don't trust myself right now."
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say that " i am straight out telling you, I WANT TO GET HELP BEFORE I ACTUALLY TRY TO KILL MYSELF"
tell him you want counceling, anti-depressents, or something! make him listen! if that doesnt work, tell a friend, a friends parent, an aunt or uncle, a grandparent, family friend, teacher, principal, or councler, you could also search for counclers in your area, and call and talk to them on the phone, and try to have them help you set something up!
i hope that helps! if you ever need anything else, or if you need more help with this, please feel free to leave one in my inbox!
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plese don`t think of doing that.you should go see a conseler or someone like that.How do you think your famly would feel if you realy did that?
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just get help! dont wait around for him to get a clue. . .you might want to try talking to a close friend or a close relative besides him. this is a serious problem and dont commit suicide! no one would want that, even if it seems like no one might care you'd be surprised. trust me Ive definetly thought about that more than once but its just not. . .not. . .how can i put this?? its not going to fix anything, just live life to its fullest and dont let anyone or anything ruin that for you. this might not really make sense but you just have to realize. . .that nothing can solve all your problems, not even suicide. life is all about getting into trouble and FIXING it. if everything was perfect we'd have nothin to live for, thats the fun of it! well i really dont know what else to say except its all up to you, if you wanna talk im me at dorkette808 -Kelly
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Keep trying with your dad, if he doesn't seem to help, if you have a very close friend, mayb you could talk to their parents and ask them if they could help you to get more serious help. Try talking to a school counselor to help tell your father. I know what it's like to have those thoughts, they aren't pleasant, and when people say that at least one person would miss you if you were gone just doesn't seem to help. Just try your hardest to stay in control, and if you do try to kill yourself, before you do, think very hard on everything you would be leaving behind, on everythign that you would be missing out on life. I hope you have maybe one other person who you can go to, good luck!
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Ok...I think you should tell a close family member, or an adult you trust. I know that sounds corny, but if your dad doesn't pay allthat much attention to you, then why bother with him? I would even go to a counsiler , if you really feel like you should.
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you thoughts are serious and i am happy you are taking them that way. i work with teens daily and i hear things like this. its not uncommon and you are not alone. i am happy to say that some have entrusted me to discuss topics such as depression, family problems, sex, and other things. you said you want your father's approval. as i would mine in this situation. you mentioned you are having a hard time telling your father about getting help. i dont know what works for you, but maybe write it down in a letter, stike up a conversation, or whatever you feel comfortable doing. if he is unresponsive, is there another adult that you could speak to? one that you can trust. maybe this person can speak with your father if your father doesnt have a clue how to deal with something like this. some examples of good people are your teachers, maybe a minister if you are a religious type, etc. one person mentioned a therapist in their answer. this a good method, however i assume u are young and paying for this is a problem. so approval from your father is essential.
your feelings are very real and i cant take that from you. however, you are a beautiful person to many in this world, and you not in it would be terrible. take care of yourself and i would love to hear how this goes. everyone has potential and love for something. find that. with those teens i see daily, having them not there would make me sad. i know your father would want you around. take care.
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Ok, I doubt the way you're going about this situation with your dad is the right way. I think you should talk to a close adult, maybe a family member you might have a chance to bond with and talk to your dad. I'm saying that you shouldn't tell your dad like that, you tried, it didn't work. But don't just go up to your dad and say, "dad, I'm depressed and I wanna kill myself." You don't need to include suicidal thoughts so quickly. Tell him that you've been down and whats got you down. Maybe your mom not being around upsets you. But, when you just flat out say that you want to kill yourself just sounds silly and you want attention. You have to ask him for some help. And just tell him that you're really sad and you need something that can help you feel happier. And if he still doesn't really come around, I suggest telling your mom once you get the chance and maybe you could see a therapist. I've been to a therapist, they aren't rude, they aren't stupid, and they aren't for sissys. They're people who listen and give advice. And I think what you need is a listener.
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