DONT BE SHY-
my look may have the physical appeal of an airhead or a blonde bimbo but behind the look i may lead you to think is the total oppisite. i am girl who has exprienced && made my way through many difficult hard situations that many would of given up or will never exprience throughout their life. yet underneath it all i still have high standards for my self && my ambition ables me to achieve what i dream. i believe that i can cover most any topic && problem b/c i take my past as a lesson && turn into knowledge meaning i can give you more than just my opinion but i can give outcomes/facts/simlar feelings on many different situations. dont hesitate to ask anything. im open to any subject/conversation; i promise youre answer will be give a load of thought && completely honest/real/truthful quick response. i will not hold what i think back whitch in the end benifits you. DON'T BE SHY;
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the other night i was at this dance && one of the guys asked me out. we are sorta friends so i said sure. its been like 2 days && he still hasnt called me? i think its weird && i want to know whats going on but i DONT wanna call him for the first time && be like "omg why havent you called?!" soo what am i supposed to do? (link)
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hey girl-the best bet is too call him since you are together you have the right to know whats up. dont be jumpy on the subject of why he hasnt called but deff try to get that point across in a calm matter && mention youd like to actually have a realonship, b/c not talking for 2 days when you perfectly can be incontact is kinda cray?? good luck
-stephanie
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can i go die. im sick of getting dicked over. and lied to. over and over again.what the fuck do i do. (link)
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hey girl-you shouldn't let others actions effect you like they are. thats letting them win. showing them you dont need thier bullshit && lies is what will change the whole situation. i hope you can build the cofidence to stand up for yourself && not let people walk all over you. b/c no one deserves to be treated like a doormat.
good luck
stephanie
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How do I ask my boyfriend about having sex with other girls, and how do I tell him I dont want to do anything if he hasnt done anything yet. And if he does do something how do I tell him no? I dont want to ruin things with him.... (link)
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hey babe-if you are feeling youre boyfriend is having sex with other girls, you should be straight up about it and ask him b/c that is disrespectful/untrustworthy of your bf. i would adivse you to do it in a calm matter so he has a better chance of telling the truth; also you should inform him that you dont want to do anything so you dont get too attached && get hurt when he is mad that you wont do what he wants and if he cant accept the fact that you arent comfertable doing certain things then he is the wrong guy for you. i hope it works out for the best!
stephanie
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Ok im 13 and a female. I know for a fact that my crush likes me and knows that i like him. We're both good friends and pretty shy so should i wait for him to ask me out or should i do something?? (link)
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hey girl-my best advice for that one is just talk with him about being together. no necessarly 'ask him out' but give him a hint && talk to his friends about it, getting them to push him..but the time will come when its meant to happen so dont push it; good luck!
stephanie
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wut if your with a guy who has no home, barley anything to eat. does ice awl the time. but says he wants to be with you. and you want to be with him more than anything. its like one of those guys that you can tell is really lost and needs help. bbut hes almsot 4 yhears older than me,. shit idk wut to do. (link)
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hey babe-ive been in a simlar situation && i have an idea of how you feel. for one you have to remember that you cannot change anyone. only he can change him. as much as you can be a guide to him, he will look at you as a younger girl && not take you as seriously. i dont mean that to be rude but being completly honest; it happened to me. also helping him is also risking him pulling you into his hole that he is in so if you are easily perssure i would advice not to be with him. maybe just being friends so you arent depended on him. if he says he is willing to change && you get that vibe/confidence from him then go for it. but be extremly difficult. being strung out on ice is a tough game. good luck
stephanie
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what do you think is the best sex positions (or positions)?? (link)
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im kinda the plain jane when it comes to sex. missonary && riding are the only way to do it in my opinion
-stephanie
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See i have a bunch of friends that started hating me since ive started dating my boyfriend in jan..so like i've been ditch and not invited to a bunch of things and i've been spending too much time with my boyfriend and i don't know what to do or to tell him that i wanna spend some time with my friends that i've missed so he wont take it a bad way or anything (link)
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hey babe-friends eaisly get jealous over boyfriends && getting caught up with your bf && leaving friends behind it quite commen. i would try to sit your bf down, when the time is right && just say you want some time to hang with friends. meaning you could spend the day with friends && night with your boytoy. or do something all together. my best advice is to just say youve missed them && dont want to loose them b/c they mean something to you but that doesnt mean he is going to loose you or you will forget about it. good luck!
--stephanie
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I want a boyfriend..but everytime I find a guy he either doesnt want a girlfriend or he just wants sex..I hate not having a boyfriend when all my other girlfriends have boyfriends. How should I go about finding a boyfriend that just wants to be with me for the right reasons? im 16 years old..and Im a female..I only told you that cause they said to! later (link)
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hey hun-finding a boyfriend now a days can be pretty tough whitch you gave complete proof too. finding the 'right one' is almost unrealistic but my best advice was ask youre girlfriends to introduce you to guys that are nice, trustworthy && respectful, or someone that you could get along with and have a good time also go to the mall, or wherever people your age hangout at. eventually you'll run into a winner! sorry with the luck you are having but the best is yet to come! good luck
--stephanie
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Ok, I just learned that my boyfriend has had sex with ohter girls before we started to date. I dont want to do anything with him, but I just feel so disgusted. Im 14, and He's 15 and I cant believe he would do that. Im afraid of what he might try to do to me. He's hasnt ever tried anything before but I cant help to feel disgusted, my friend thinks I can do better than him and give him up since he lied to me so much, but I stil love him. Should I break up with him? (link)
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hey babe-if a guy is leing to you whitch may seem like little things that just build up into more && more complex lies;; one of the first warning signs to a unsucessful realonship. my best advice is to talk to him about the lies & bring in the fact that you dont want to turn youre realonship into aything sexual. if he cant accept that then yes you can do better && i hope you can realize that. good luck
stephanie
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I CANNOT break up with anyone. I used to be able to but now I just CAN'T! I can't stand the fact that I'm breaking up with someone that I still want to be friends with. Usually I have my friends break up with the guy for me, but it just doesn't seem...I dunno. The guy I want to break up with now is awesome and I CAN'T and i mean Can't stand to break up with him but I have my reasons and I want to. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can dump him with out being mean? (link)
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hey babe-my best advice is if you really want to breakup with him then you will push yourself enough to do it. i mean a motivation is all of the reasons you want too will not be a problem anymore && once you say i want to break up && explain yourself its over. thats it. sure he can be immature or whatever but youre being the stronger one in the situation. think of it that way. good luck i know you can do it girl!!
stephanie
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When is the right time and moment to kiss a girl? (link)
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i believe that a perfect kiss can't be planeed or forced. it is something that happens when the time is right , when you get that vibe go for it. dont hold back but dont be like at 7:42PM hhah
goodluck!
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i am 14/f with very low self-eteem. I have grown up ugly and now some guys tell me i'm hot, but some tell me i'm ugly. I dont understand. Also, I am quiet and am aftaid of rejection.
I am working on loving myself, but it is hard when you have so little friends.
Any sudjestions? (link)
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hey girl-im sorry you are feeling so low about yourself. but one thing i automacitcally got off youre question was youre depending on others to make yourself esteeme. that isnt healthy. as we both know there are some really rude, ugly people in this world && if you are showing that you are feeling low they will walk all over it. so i hope you can realize that && begin to realize postive things about yourself && begin to appericate them && flaunt them. one way is if you have a certain intrest/hobby that you are really intrested in start to practice that && make it an everyday thing. surround yourself that things that make you happy && you find intrest in. also picking a task whitch you think is difficult such as working out, deep cleaning youre room or whatever it may be. set a goal && achieve it. evetually little things like that can build you into appericating yourself && seeing you have potenical. i wish you the best of luck!!
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I don't believe in myself..I have very low self esteem..I feel horrible about myself most of the time..How can I boost my confidence..It's not as easy as it sounds..I don't know what to do..I have no friends and my parents (esp. my mom) tells me I'm useless and ugly) I get made fun of all the time..no wonder my self esteem is so low..How can I boost my confidence..All I want to do is feel superior just once..please help (link)
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hey hun- im sorry that you are facing this era where you feel almost worthless. you may have no support around you that is completely postive && that gives you enough strength to feel comfertable with yourself; so this is where you have to step in. its hard && i can relate to the situation but doing something productive like working out, getting an extra A on a paper, DEEP-cleaning youre room or whatever you may choose.. make a what you would think would be a difficult task && actually try && put effort into it && when you are finshed reward yourself with something, may seem lame && little but the little things can build up into something superior but starting out making that base is youre best bet. good luck && keep youre head up!
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i have serius issues on depression. i mean everyday for the past month ive been down. please dont make fun of me. i cant help it. i just lost a gr8 friend/boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and i havent been happy or the same since then. i dont want to take freakin pills cause it makes me feel unhuman. it lowers my self esteem. i havent had any self esteem in over a month. everybody told me to move on and find someone else to go out with but its not that simple to move on after a heartbreak. i have changed so much in the past month. Please help me. what the heck should i do? ill do anything if it works. ill rate high and ill write super great about you if you just help me. thanks and please hurry! (link)
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hey girl-im sorry that you are facing such dark emotions. i can understand the fact when htings pile up that it becomes overwhelming && almost forces you to have a negative outlook..but you dont have to be forced to feel anything, im sure you are strong enough to be able to pull through this one && learn something. you can/will actually build a self-esteeme through that; it is hard to take that first step but that first step will take you down a better road. i would try just ATTEMPTING to have a postive outlook on things, && analize each situation to see if its really worth all the emotional attention you are feeding it. i know youve probably heard this a million time; but theyll be many more bo9ys along the ways. ones that will treat you right && make you never have to worry about feeling this way but you dont find them in selfpity. so try && put yourself out there && youll be able to look on this situation && have that little boost of cofidence. i know you got it in you. good luck!!
--stephanie
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But the problem is I don't know how to ask for it. My dad is so completely clueless when it comes to me & my mother is not around. I've told him I'm depressed & that I think about killing myself all the time. But how do I straight out tell him I want to get help before I actually try to kill myself? (link)
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the best way is either go through someone who is a familyfriend or a closer friend && be there when you say you need professional help; the sooner the better b/c you really dont need to be thinking like that. atleast you realise you need help && you are willing to get some but the first step is to actually go get it. good luck && keep youre head up!!
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I get mad really easily, and people notice. How do I control my temper before it gets way out of hand? (link)
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thats a very commmen problem for people who hold feelings in && eventually build up && turn into anger. there are many ways to cope with youre feelings before getting out of control but it's finding out whats best for you here are a few ideas that i use..take a deep breath && look at the situation && see if the situation is really worth getting that upset over. another is taking yourself out of the situation && do something you enjoy but dont aviod emotions so maybe writting, talk to a friend ect. dont let the situations that you arent comfertable with arise to the point of blowing up. there are many more but i hope you can use the suggestions i just gave. good luck!
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