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Michaela needs advice BAD!!!
i have serius issues on depression. i mean everyday for the past month ive been down. please dont make fun of me. i cant help it. i just lost a gr8 friend/boyfriend a couple of weeks ago and i havent been happy or the same since then. i dont want to take freakin pills cause it makes me feel unhuman. it lowers my self esteem. i havent had any self esteem in over a month. everybody told me to move on and find someone else to go out with but its not that simple to move on after a heartbreak. i have changed so much in the past month. Please help me. what the heck should i do? ill do anything if it works. ill rate high and ill write super great about you if you just help me. thanks and please hurry!
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okay so i am not going to say that i fully know what your going through but i want to try to help. doing something to hurt yourself in any way isn't the answer but i dont know if u would do that.i know for myself though that it is hard to let go of some one and to move on... i lost a guy that i loved alot and i still do. its been a year. since he broke up with me we go back together and we still are. but even if u dont get back with him.. well at least you know that you still care about him and well it may be a good answer if you are still great friends with him. even if you see him with another girl and you wish it was you at least he is happy. seeing him happy should make you happy and when he isnt then be there for him. even if you feel hurt it will go away, dealing with a heart break takes time. just be a great friend to him and let him know that even that you guys broke it off that you still care about him even if it has to be a friend and one day hopefully he will realize after all that has happened that you were the one right there to be his friend when he was alone and un happy. and that you were the one who cared when no one else did. that you still had feelings for him even after all that was said and done you were there.
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Hi.. This may sound wierd && may sound like im lying but my name is Michaela too. && I 2 am in deep deppression. All beacause I left him. I don't know your situation if he's gone or something just happened. I know it's hard to move on && I know life is hard now.. But I am going to a shrink.. As bad as it sounds && I've learned that life dosn't revolve around him. In order to make myself feel better I can't let my life revolve around him. A+B=C. Action+Belief=Consequence. Your belief is nothing will ever be the same. Which is the consequence it's never going to get better. If you atleast try to change your belief to I am going to make it. The consequences will be much better. Trust me I know. I hope I've helped in some way. Peace pimp.
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wow hun...me n you...i can relate to you in every prespective...it isnt easy to move on after you lost someone you thought would be there for forever...you cant just get up and say "wow that was fun...NEXT" you cant do that...your heart was attached and now you feel as if its gone...i feel the same pain...What i did was i found an old childhood friend and we started goin to the mall and playin like we used to...When i was out with my friends, i didnt really have time to think about *him* i had fun and i forgot for a moment or two...but eventually it will get better, i promise...i hope i helped...
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hey girl-im sorry that you are facing such dark emotions. i can understand the fact when htings pile up that it becomes overwhelming && almost forces you to have a negative outlook..but you dont have to be forced to feel anything, im sure you are strong enough to be able to pull through this one && learn something. you can/will actually build a self-esteeme through that; it is hard to take that first step but that first step will take you down a better road. i would try just ATTEMPTING to have a postive outlook on things, && analize each situation to see if its really worth all the emotional attention you are feeding it. i know youve probably heard this a million time; but theyll be many more bo9ys along the ways. ones that will treat you right && make you never have to worry about feeling this way but you dont find them in selfpity. so try && put yourself out there && youll be able to look on this situation && have that little boost of cofidence. i know you got it in you. good luck!!
--stephanie<3
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Hey. I know what you're going through is really hard on you and you're probably confused about what you're feeling if you've never felt like this before. Everyone express themselves in different ways and it takes different people different amount of times to get over a heartbreak. Even if people are telling you that you should find someone else and move on, if you're not ready to move on then you DO NOT have to act like you are. If you try to act happy to make other people happy and leave your emotions bottled up inside you. it will only make tings worse. Try talking to someone you trust about how you feel. Or if you don't feel like talking to anyone about how you feel, you could try keeping a journal. Talking about how you feel or writing about it in a journal can make you feel a lot better. Of course it won't all happen right away, but as long as you're expressing yourself rather than keeping your emotions bottled up things will gradually start to seem better. If this doesn't help, you should consider talking to a psychologist. You might feel odd talking to someone you don't know about your problems but you have to understand psychologist spend years studying the mind and human behavior and it's their job to listen and try to help you the best that they can. The good thing about psychologists are they have years of experience so they know what they're talking abut and it's completely private. No one has to know about you talking to a psychologist unless you choose to tell them. You could try talking to a school counselor or have your parents take you to a psychologist outside the school. I hope you feel better soon. If you ever need anything you can E-mail me at luckierainbowstars@hotmail.com -- put the subject as "Advice" so I make sure to get back to you asap. I hope this helps. Good luck. Kristin
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No problem. Feel free to talk to me anytime. I'm not one much right now because final exams are coming up, but E-mail me and I'll get back to you as soon as I can or after this week you can ever try to catch me on AIM... My SN is darlin0103 :-)
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moving on is a process. you automatically do it when you are ready. i've been attatched to a guy for 2 years now. act like you are over him. then, once you show everyone that you are over him (even though you are really not), you will overcome this. you will find a day when you are sooo over him that you can scream, and you will feel soooo much better. that's one way it can happen. another way is that, you can find another guy that you like (we all know that's very hard.) once you find this guy, and get close to him, you will just forget this whole bad relationship thing and will be happy again. (sounds like a dream, but it happened to my sisters friend who was in a 6 year relationship, and was depressed for about a full year.) well i hopped that worked for ya! smile :)
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Michael let me tell you what i do everytime i get depressed and I have been diagnosed with manic depression.. I sit and write poetry.. anything to keep my mind from just sitting and thinking.. Hope my advice helps you some what good luck ,..
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You're going through a rough phase with the break-up, but you feel depressed, but its temporary. Every break-up has its ways of dealing, and most likely if it was a great relationship and you were really into that person, you get sad. I'm not answering this question to get a great note about me, I really know your pain and want to help you. The proccess of getting over someone is slow just the way we hate it, but a good way you can go about this proccess is to do things for yourself. Take a relexing bath or shower anytime you need one, go out with a friend even though you may feel too sad. You can cry when you need to, but don't make it a habit. Talk to a friend about your ex-boyfriend until you can't say anymore. This will help because when your feelings rush out, its like cleaning inside of yourself and washing that sadness out that you're holding in. Sometimes sleeping early can make things easier because your mind is off of things, and then sleeping through the night and get a full nights sleep. But, you should tell your parents and friends, that you need to take a few weeks easy because you are sensitive to whats happened. I think you should focus on yourself a lot, set a few goals for yourself and try achieving them to get your mind off of things. A good goal would be to do sit-ups and push-ups and try getting higher each day. Keep yourself busy with you, and talk to other people about how you feel. If anyone ever is rude to you about talking about your ex too much, I am somebody that won't get tired of it, and will listen to you. Even if it takes a year for you to get your feelings out, I'll be there to talk. Don't hesistate, I'm not busy, and I don't get sick of people who need help. But, if you don't talk to me, I really hope this break-up gets easier faster, but it will heal, I promise you.
[Of course the pain from a break-up will still be there after a month, trying to say its depression is making it way bigger issue than it really is, its a broken heart, not depression.]
-TheTeenGirl
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Ok, your right about the pills. They do make esteem go down. Hmm..wellyou should find something you enjoy to do, and everytime you feel down go ahead and do something crazy! You may just need time to cool down, so dont rush into a relationship if your still burning from the last one. Best thing to do is not do this alone though, have friends that will back you up in times you need them. And Good Luck :)
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well, by people telling you to move on and find someone new obviously doesnt help. i know they are trying to help but dont listen to them, trust me it doesnt work. and i wish i could say that you will get over him soon but i cant. i've been in almost the same situation, theres not really anything you can do but tell him how u really feel. speak from the heart, if he doesnt listen and just doesnt care, maybe you should try to listen to your friends when they say to move on.. its going to take a while but have faith in urself and keep telling urself "i can do it, i dont need him" and remember.. you *dont* need him.. you have to be happy with yourself first. good luck =)
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Maybe you need to find that someone who will understand you and the issues that you are going through. Someone that would be helpful to lean on in time of definite distress and you seem like you need that someone. I know that this definitely doesn't seem of any significance at all, but really sometimes the things that we see lacking in importance are the things that we need. You seem to need someone who you can fully trust. Someone who won't defy you. Someone who'll listen and be good for you. Someone who doesn't like to wreak intention chaos. Someone who won't influence you badly. This someone doesn't have to be in your neighborhood . You can talk to them over the phone, email, pen pal, etc. You can talk to me. My name is Courtney and my email is Courtney@hwynet.com and my phone number is (864)445-2289 . So you can call me at any time you need me. I hope I was some help. Have a good day.
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