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self-esteem
i am 14/f with very low self-eteem. I have grown up ugly and now some guys tell me i'm hot, but some tell me i'm ugly. I dont understand. Also, I am quiet and am aftaid of rejection.
I am working on loving myself, but it is hard when you have so little friends.
Any sudjestions?
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hey girl-im sorry you are feeling so low about yourself. but one thing i automacitcally got off youre question was youre depending on others to make yourself esteeme. that isnt healthy. as we both know there are some really rude, ugly people in this world && if you are showing that you are feeling low they will walk all over it. so i hope you can realize that && begin to realize postive things about yourself && begin to appericate them && flaunt them. one way is if you have a certain intrest/hobby that you are really intrested in start to practice that && make it an everyday thing. surround yourself that things that make you happy && you find intrest in. also picking a task whitch you think is difficult such as working out, deep cleaning youre room or whatever it may be. set a goal && achieve it. evetually little things like that can build you into appericating yourself && seeing you have potenical. i wish you the best of luck!!
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See a therapist. It's not as bad as it is made out to be. I know you want help, but in order to get help, you need to see someone qualified TO help you. Best of luck.
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well guys can be so stupid sumtimes. just dont listen to wut they say. try hanging out with people who make you feel good about yourself. maybe people who culd make you more outgoing. well noone likes being rejected so thats a pretty normal thing. good luck
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It doesn't matter what others think about you it's what you think about yourself. I am glad you are working on this. Having just one good friend is better than having 10 ok friends. Hope that helps. Good luck. Rate me HIGH and please comment on this. THANKS BYE
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ok first of all i kno how u feel wit the selfesteem thing... and different guys have different oppinions...some only like red heads some only like blondes some like chicks with big boobs some like them with small so if you get an answer you dont like rememeber that....i dont like rejection either but think of it this way- if you dont take a chance how are you ever gonna find your true love?? and if you have little friends...fix it! be out going and try and make friends... i know its hard though so keep your chin up and keep trying
hope i helped
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Beauty isn't only skin deep. Maybe some people you know aren't completely shallow.
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Hey sweetie. I went through the same problem. I had very low self esteem & I thought I was ugly. I was also petrified of rejection of any kind, especially since I didn't have many friends I could depend on. Then things changed. I met a girl who was very hyper & always talked about how hot she was. She wasn't THAT pretty but she was decent, & people seemed to take an immediate liking to her. We're friends but not that close. However she taught me something I want to share with you. It seemed that despite her faults, she kept confident. That's why people took to her so well. Guys are naturally attracted to girls who show how assured they are of themselves. I reccomend making a list of things you like about yourself. Also, have some close friends do the same. You'll be surprised about the things people will say about you. Then try walking around reminding yourself of those things. Hopefully it will show. If you need any more help, I'm here for you.
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You don't need friends to improve your self-esteem, you say that guys say your hot, and you don't believe them, so even if you had a hundred friends who told you, you were beautiful, you wouldn't believe them. Do you know that some of the most beautiful women in the world suffer grom low self -esteem. I felt the same way you did when I was young. When I went to my 30 year high school reunion I was really suprised to find out that back then a lot of guys thought I was hot. Well I couldn't believe it. No one dated me. I thought for sure I was ugly. My mom said I was, all my young life, and I believed her. Now I know better and I know that I am not ugly. But because I was so sure that I was, I worked on getting an education, and accomplishing things that made me feel better about myself. I was smart and I got smarter. I take care of myself and my raised my two boys and own my own home and my self esteem is soaring. I was silly to think that I was ugly and not worthy.
You need to do things that make you feel better about yourself. You need to accomplish things. You need to feel like you are a beautiful person inside and the outside will follow. People, no matter how well intentioned, cannot give you self esteem by telling you that you are beautiful. When your beauty is just ONE of the great things about you, then you will have high self esteem. So get involved in, well anything that interests you. Something that you are passionate about. Make a difference!
Michele
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Everybody is different.It does'nt matter if your ugly or cute.The most important thing is finding a guy that will love you. Even if you look like britney spears or you look like a dogs ass.
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