hey .. well i really like to give advice to people and evidentally i'm really good at it. all of my friends always come to me for advice about ANYTHING - boys, sports, family, friends, etc. i really hope that if you have any questions for me that i help you out with your life because i've been through a lot .. the good times & the bad times. right now life is pretty well for me because i have a really good supportive boyfriend and friends, family is not really there for me but i can still deal with everything life is handing me right now. well hope you feel comfortable asking me any questions and i will answer as honestly and try to be as helpful as possible! Love Ya
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Location: Mason City, Iowa
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Age: 13
Member Since: June 13, 2005
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I'm going to sleepaway camp in about a week and I really want to maybe get a boyfriend there because when you go to camp you practically start over and can be whoever you want to be without the pressures of school. I've never had a boyfriend and I was wondering how I should flirt at the socials/dances. Also, how do you let boys know you exist and you WANT a relationship? Some just want to be friends.
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omg .. hun i LOVE to flirt!! it's like something i do everyday but i don't even try to - it comes naturally. anyways, what you could do is just start talking to some of the hotter guys at the camp or you could just find a guy that looks like he's the type you would like , than just try get a little closer and show him that you are interested in him and want to get to "know" him better ;). be outgoing and kinda loud because i am and it gets peoples attention showing them you want to be seen. dress to impress! good luck and i hope i helped you out.
hugsz nd kissesz _ xo0x
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well me and my friend act exactly like the girls from the movie thirteen , we both are 13 have our tounge + bellybuttons pierced we drink alot did drugs ... cut blah blah blah yeh and all those bad stuff ... the only difference is that im actually concerned ! plz help and dont right stupid shit ! i mean the reason why im asking 4 help here is because im looking for help not negative judgements (link)
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if you really want help i say you try to get away from your friend and find some more people to hang out with .. your other friends could get your mind off of drinking ; drugs ; cutting ; etc. and you won't want to do that as much anymore. you won't be able to stop right away so i suggest taking it a little at a time .. like try to stop with the drugs first because they're really dangerous ; than go to cutting ; and last go to your drinking problem or you could try to stop them all at the same time .. i just hope you could try to get your friend to stop with you because i have a few friends like that and it's really scary to see them do this stuff. i hope i helped you out a little .. GOOD LUCK!¡!
hugsz nd kissesz _ xo0x
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Ok, so I really like this guy and he said he liked me, but he barely talks to me, wich his friend says is just because he's shy, but still annoys me and makes me think it might be a scam (it's happened to me before). But there's this other guy who I used to like who also said he liked me too, and he asked me out but cancelled to go out with someone else that night, wich really hurt. And he said he really liked me, but cancelled due to insecurity and thinking I'm too cool for him (wich is absolutely ridiculous) and now I don't know what to do... try ro make it work with the 1st guy, try to make it work with the second gut, or give up completely? (link)
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omgosh .. that is confusing but i say you try to work it out with the first guy and get him to open up just a little bit. if the other guy blew you off for another girl he must not like you too much. but if the first guy keeps ignoring you after you try to make it work i kinda just say give it up .. guys are really stupid at times and think girls are just fun to mess around with. so if that happens just try to find another guy that you really like and flirt with him a lot! flirting always helps =) i hope i helped you out a little and good luck with your guys.
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Ok et me see how I can make this short. I have this bestfriend and he is so sweet! I mean I liked him since the first day I saw him. But He didnt know. come to find out on the last week of school he likes me to! So we dated for two days. Then I broke up with him. IT was hard to date him bc if fellt like my brother. And I mean I didnt like his reputation. So I broke up with him. Therewas 3 days left of school and everyone and him told me he was gonig to move to his grannies house to go to the same Highschool as me and live closer to me bc I moved. And i Just feltso bad. So on the last day I planned to tell hiM I was sorry and I wanted him back. Ididnt go the last day bc I moved. It sucked! well yesterday I talked to him on the phone and I found out hes going out with one of his ex gfs and he got her pregnant again. So I still wanna tell him but now I dont ant him to leave her. What should I do? plz I rate so high if yo even just give me a short answer Ill give you a 3-5 plz!
help!!!!!!
signed
~M~I~S~C~E~L~L~A~N~E~O~U~S~ (link)
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this is a thing to where you could go to the Maury show but i think it's so cute how you just absolutely love him! i say you tell him what you were going to on the last day of school because if you don't at least take a chance with telling him you won't know what could've happend in the future. and with him leaving his gf and going to you or just staying with his gf is his choice and you should respect anything he chooses to do. but if he liked you enough to say he was gonna move closer to your so you both could go to the same school he should've never got back with his ex and got her pregnant (again). it's totally just really up to him but if i were you i'd stay away from trying to break them up because if she already has one child and another on the way he needs to take full responsibility for his actions and take care of his children. if anything you could do better by finding a guy who doesn't have children and cares for you as much as you'll care for him. hope i helped just a little bit. Good Luck!
hugsz and kissesz_xo0x
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i've been playing softball since i was about 4 (T-ball then) and now im 13. i recently tried out for a travel team, but didnt make it. i've always been a great athlete and great softball player. im totally upset i didnt make it. what can i do to make me get over the fact that i didnt make it? .. ps - im gonna go to mostly all the games because my twin sister made it. please help. its kinda stupid but ive always been told not to cry about little things like this :-/ (link)
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hun .. if making the team meant a lot to you than i say cry all you want. and it's not fair that your sister made it and you didn't. but don't let not making the team drag you down on how you play and definitly DON'T LET IT DISTRACT YOU when you're playing other games. play your hardest, go to camps where there are a lot of people that would help you get recognized and who knows, maybe you'll make a traveling team. i've played basketball my whole life and i'm on a traveling team and it's not easy doing that. we have tourny's every weekend, practice 4 nights a week, and no mercy! try out for another team and play your hardest is pretty much what i'm trying to say .. don't let it get to ya. i hope i helped you a little and GOOD LUCK!
hugsz and kissesz_xo0x
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Ok, I'll have been going out with my boyfriend for 2 weeks, tomorrow. I've heard rumors that if his g/f wont have sex with him that he dumps them after a month. And I'm 13 and I don't want to have sex. He is having a party next weekend and invited me to it. Its a pool/birthday party at his house. If my mom lets me go, I'm going. But if that rumors true...he well might wanna ya know. What should I do? (link)
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hun .. if that rumor is true DUMP HIM! i mean, i understand that if you REALLY like him you wouldn't want to do that but your virginity and reputation is way more important than a guy. i'm not really gonna say you're "too young" to do that because i know people who have had sex younger than you. but it's all your choice if it comes down to you and him in a room alone and he starts to make a move. if that does happen just try to change the subject or tell him straight out that you don't want to. i hope i helped you at least a little bit and good luck!
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15/F ok..Well I have a few girls that I used to be friends with that like to call me a slut because they hear about stuff from people that I have supposedly done with guys (they got the whole idea from when they found out I had sex with 2 guys),..And they tell people at school about it then it gets around to everyone eventually..so now my name at school is "slut girl"..How do I get people to stop talking crap on me about that?
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hey hun .. don't worry! everyone is just calling you that because they're all jealous you're getting action and they're not .. believe me i've gone through the exact same thing. and those girls that are calling you a slut that you used to be friends with evidentally weren't too good of friends. eventually the whole "slut girl" thing will pass and everyone will move onto someone else to pick on or just forget about it. but from now on just kinda keep what you do sexually with other people to yourself unless you can really trust the person you are telling NOT to tell anyone! good luck and i hope i helped you justa lil bit.
hugsz nd kissesz_xo0x
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ohk my Q' is what do you have to do to be able to do the crossed out letters on aim ? cause i wanna put it in my profile ! thnx (link)
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LoL .. i love doing that. anyways when you are in your profile:
·right click
·go down to "text"
·over to "Font.."
·then there's a box that should say underline and strikethrough .. put a check in the strikethrough box and click ok
it should work but you might have to change the font color back to what it was =)
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Dear advicenators,
Age:13
grade:7th going into 8th
I have a father that abuses me but i really don't know what to do i've tried being sucidal but it didn't help at all i also know if i consult the police he will deny it and he will abuse me even more so what should i do? (link)
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well first, suicide is not the answer to that. suicide has never helped anyone and it definitly hurts a lot of people that were very close to the person. try going to an adult that you trust and talk to them about it. show them the marks that your dad has left on you. it could get really serious to where he kills you and that wouldn't be good. if it gets ANY worse than what it already is or you can't take it anymore than i seriously advise that you go to the police and have them moniter the house or something to where if he tries to abuse you again they can see it happen and know for a fact he is. then he'll get sent to prison and you'll get sent to another place where you're safe. i hope i helped you. GOOD LUCK&I HOPE EVERYTHING WORKS OUT!
hugsz nd kissesz_xo0x
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But the problem is I don't know how to ask for it. My dad is so completely clueless when it comes to me & my mother is not around. I've told him I'm depressed & that I think about killing myself all the time. But how do I straight out tell him I want to get help before I actually try to kill myself? (link)
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well i'm just kinda wondering why you'd want to kill yourself .. i've been through the whole thing where it seems like everything is wrong in my life and no one would even care if i left but believe me - it's not worth it. just try to sit down and talk to him about that and tell him that he needs to listen. if that doesn't help then i say you find a therapist to talk to yourself or when you're back in school go to the counciler and talk to him/her. they could help you find someone or you could just go there daily and just talk it out with him. i hope that you really find something that helps because when you least expect it you're whole life will turn around and everything will be a lot better than what it is right now. i hope i helped you a little .. good luck!
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but
does size rly matter and if it does how big does one need to be
ive heard both that it dont and that it does and its bothericious (link)
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personally .. it doesn't matter. as long as the guy can please a girl and give her sexually what he wants there's nothing to loose! if it's you or one of friends that is "small" and is insecure about it and you get a girlfriend who wants to have sex just sit down and talk to her about it .. hope i helped you out a little]
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ok so ill lay down in my bed at like 9:30 nd stay up thinking for like an hour. nd i can b exsausted but still stay awake nd think. sometimes it makes me mad cause i wanna go to sleep, or in the morning, i cant wake up since i fell asleep at like 10:30. do u kno wut i can do or if i have like a medical problem. . .?
ps-i tried counting ;) (link)
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same thing happens to me and in the mornings i usually have some fitness thing to go to ((weight lifting and running stuff)) so i'm always late because i can't get up since i stayed awake until 11 or 12 at night. my advice is try to put on some mood music like the ocean or wind or something. i know it's not a medical problem because i know a lot of people that do the exact same thing. i don't know if i've helped you any because i'm going through the same thing but i sure hope i did. good luck!
hugsz nd kissesz_xo0x
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My guy gets mad when I'm with or talk to any other guy who I'm just friends with. What do I do? (link)
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hun .. i went through the exact same thing with my ex boyfriend. he got sooo jealous when i'd just talk to another guy and flip out. once he even threatend to kill a guy and he broke his jaw. this situation could get that serious between you and your boyfriend and if it does i say just dump him then because you never know what could happen. but if you truly love him just talk to him about it and see what his side of the story is. you never know, you could be flirting and not even know it. then your boyfriend has every reason to get mad. good luck
hugsz nd kissesz_xo0x
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How can someone say they love you they are sorry for hurting you and yet tell you they are leaveing you all in the same sentence. I am 42 years old female. Some friends of ours at the time told me he was sleeping with our friends wife. he denies everything and says they are liying.. but he continues to work for them everyday.. he has gotten where he acts as if he don't care about anything anymore.. (link)
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maybe he's just very insecure about himself .. i don't know if i'm gonna be able to help you because i'm only 13 but if i could i would really try hun .. good luck finding some answers
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well this kinda of goes along with the first question i asked..anyways im really super shy and my bf is like nothing close to it and he like always wants me to be doing stuff with him especially kissing but like i think thats most of my problem im so shy and im like afraid of being a bad kisser ..how can i be more out there and just go for it..HELP me please..any advice will give ideas anyways
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i went through the EXACT same thing you are going through right now with my boyfriend. but i finally just sat down and talked with him about me being insecure about kissing him or anything else. luckily my boyfriend understood what i was saying and said he'd take it a step at a time .. first just little kisses here and there like on the cheek. then finally moved to just kissing on the lips ; making out; etc. he helped me really get through the shy stage i was going through and now me and him are INSEPERABLE! sit down with your boyfriend and talk with him like i did with mine .. if he's a really good boyfriend i'm pretty sure he'd understand what you are going through and don't worry about being a bad kisser .. kiss him and then later ask what he thought of it or if he had fun or whatever comes to your head to make it seem like you're not wondering if you are or not but really trying to find the answer. Good Luck ((i hope i helped you))
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i know this is really dumb, but i REALLY need advice. okay well recently on myspace i got a message from this guy who was really hot and he thought i was hot, so we exchanged AIM screen names and were talking like all the time. then eventually we started calling each other and now i talk to him online & on the phone every single day. i'm starting to develop feelings for him and i don't want to. there is no chance or future for us, he lives across the country from me! i don't want to stop talking to him though because he is really sweet and funny. is there something wrong with me for liking him? is there any way i can continue talking to him without liking him like THAT ?? please help im going crazy (link)
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i don't think there is anything wrong with you liking a guy you met on the internet. but if you really want to stop liking him in a sexual // relationship way you probly need to stop talking to him .. it would be the only way until you find another guy. i've gone through the same thing but the guy i had feelings for lived only a state away. we still had no chance in hell that we would ever get to see each other or date in any way but i stopped talking to him for a little bit and finally got over him in that way. i found another guy that i am dating right now and i'm soo happy that i'm over the one over the internet because if i wasn't i'd probly be having second thoughts about my boyfriend right now and it wouldn't be good. the guy you talk to might ruin your love life if you keep it up.
hugsz nd kissesz_xo0x
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i am 14F and i want to get a belly button ring. what do you think of a belly button ring? and how do i convince my mom to let me get one because she keep thinking of the future and saying when you get old and decide to have a baby.. it will get all streched out or it will get infected (link)
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well .. i'm all for belly button rings and when i turn 14 too i get one. try to make an agreement with your mom that if you can get a belly button ring you will do whatever. and about her and the future just tell her you will be really responsible with it and if you do ever get pregnant you'll be really responsible with it and take care of it well.
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