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16/F and childhood fun left behind
I have a friend named Felicia and she's 16/F...all she likes to talk about is beer, boys, parties, people she hates..i don't know..she tries to act like she's all grown up now or whatever...well this morning i wanted to go for a scooter run with my other friend hannah...she was like, "umm no, that's ok i don't wanna smell like sh*t" so hannah and me went for the scooter run anyway..we had tons of fun! we came in and felicia was like "eeww you guys smell get away from me.." and she avoided us the rest of the night..(but at least we had fun! all she did was stay in and watch court tv with the judges and stuff..grrr..it's like she's trying to impress people by acting that she's not 10 anymore..(this is just an example of how she acts *all that* and *grownup*...trust me, there's tons more! she always acts like she's better than us and i really don't know what to do..please help!
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It sounds like YOU are the mature ones. She is just trying to sound mature when she isn't. Just because you talk about beer, parties and smelling like sh*t, doesn't mean you are grown up. I know you don't want it to come to this but, maybe she's trying to hint to you that she doesn't want to be friends any longer?? If that's not the case, trying confronting her and if that doesn't help just don't talk to her anymore.
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just because your mom and her mom are the best of friends doesnt justify that the two of you have to be just as good of friends. many kids find that their parents friends have the brattiest of kids, and that theyre expected to like them. there is NO law that says you have to like her. and if your parents punish you in any way for not hanging out, or not being friends, then shame on them. it seems to me that you need to get away from this girl. i know for a fact that i wouldnt hang out with sumone that mistreated me for a second. "hurt me once, shame on you, hurt me twice, shame on me"- meaning: if some one has the nerve to hurt you in any way, shame on them. but if you let them back in your life a second time, and they hurt you, shame on you for letting them back in your life. hope i helped.
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I can't believe you took "Ew you smell" offensively. Just wait until you get into MIDDLE SCHOOL.
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COMFRONT HER! if she is acting all snotty and all that bull shyt then yeah of coarse do what you gota do to get rid of her. shes just using both of you guys to get out of her house so shes not there all night.It doesnt matter if your parents are bff's if you dont like her or if you fed up with her then w/e let your feeling out and let both of your mamas be friends
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I know you said you can't avoid her but you can. Just ignore all the crap she is saying. Blow her off. Dont talk to her. Give her a taste of her own medicine maybe then she wont be so EVIL. But you also haveto understand she is 16 and there is nothing you can really do about that. Just leave her alone and dont talk to her for a little while. You dont haveto care about what she thinks just because shes older.
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dear 16/f,
i know exactly how you feel! last year i was the best of friends with this one girl and she's just like your *friend* now. i've just learned to speak my mind to her now. Dont worry about avoiding her, you can just ignore her....everything will work out.
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i can feel what you are saying i had the same problem.If she acts like that and it gets to the point where you cant stand to be around her anymore then i think its best you just not be friends or talk it out.
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WEll maybe you can't avoid her, but you can avoid being influenced by her. And you are the one who is right. she wants to be soooo grown up so fast It won't be long before she starts smoking, drinking alcohol and experimenting with sex. Young kids think that those things will make them grown up. Because they know grown ups do those things. Just like yelling at you, grown ups do that, like your parents do when you misbehave or don't do well in school, so she yells because she thinks that will make her more grown up.
What kids like this don't realize is that to be real grown up, you have to be able to hold down a job, pay bills like electric, heat insurance, rent, mortage, buy food, do laundry, clean the house, drive, drive the kids where they need to go. Handle decision making, like where we will live, where the kids will go to school, what religion we will belong to, or at all, put out the garbage, bring the dog to the vet, bring the kids to the doctors, help with homework, wash the cars, etc, etc, etc, etc, etc.
And acually a lot of it is boring. So keep doing what you are going. Have fun with your friends and go on skooter runs. You will grow up fast enough, no way to stop it. just don't rush it. There is not way you can rush it. And your friend thinks she is being more grown up when really she just looks stupid. I;ll bet she can't wait to hae a boyfriend....wait 'til she has her first broken heart. Then she will wish for the days when life was so much simpler and she could be happy hanging out with her girl friends. Good luck to you dear.
Michele
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Hello there,
I am sorry she treats you like this. When you are a kid, sometimes you wish you weren't.
You think all your problems would be solved if you were grown up... So you act more grown than you are, start doing things you shouldn't and pretty soon your childhood is over.
That is what she's doing. She may be "acting" cool, but you know what? It shows that she has big problems she is trying to overcome by growing up as fast as possible.
Most of the people that post on this site are in the same position. There was a question posted just the other day asking how many of a certain brand of booze they would have to drink to become drunk. Several people answered, and the people who sounded like they had the most experience were an average of 14!
They say that this is what they want out of life, but I just don't buy it. If they can't solve problems now, they will not solve them later.
Things don't get better when you are grown up. Right now you might be sick of your Mom in your business, but, in just a few years, you will miss her, and wish she was in your business again.
I know, I know, you don't believe me. Talk to me again when you are 35. I am 6'4" tall weigh in at 350 pounds, look like the entire defensive line of a football team, ride Harleys, have 19+ years in a disciplined martial art and I will tell you right now that I miss my Mommy.
You will discover that there are about 10,000 new problems that are just WAITING for you to grow up so that they can apply to you.
Here's my advice: Be yourself. PLAY! Nobody plays anymore it seems. Take your scooter out with your other friends. Goof around. Play games, do whatever.
While she may yell at you, here's why she is doing it:
She sees that you aren't bothered by the problems she is trying to overcome by acting grown up. She thinks you are dumb for not acting like her... However:
She wishes she was you. That she could just go and play and have fun like you.
Something happened to her, and she doesn't know how to deal with it, so she is doing what she is doing.
Be yourself and maybe she will come around, maybe she won't. Either way she isn't being much of a friend right now. Be nice to her, and continue to invite her to play. Maybe someday she will wake up and realize she should play while she can. :-)
DangerNerd.
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Then dont talk to her. If you cant avoid her do this.
First you'll need the stuff to do it.
Duck Tape
Super Glue
Baking soda
Vinegar
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Okay now.
When she comes over show her your new clothes in your closet, except get a bat and slam it in the of her head so she gets knocked out.
Then duck tape her hands to the cieling in your closet. Then duct tape her mouth.
BUT before you put the duck tape on her mouth pour baking soda and vinegar in it THEN do it.
Cuz then when she wakes up her only decision is to let it fester in her mouth or swallow it. If she has a bad tolerance for sick things, she'll throw up, sept it cant go anywhere so she can either swallow it or let it sit in her mouth. EITHER WAY ITS SUPER NASTY.
The super glue part is for glueing her feet to the wall.
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Okay, once thats done, get a camera and take pictures. THen when you let her go say 'EEEEEW you smell bad'.
She'll never mess with you again.
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wow she doesnt seem as a great friend.. just beacuse your mom and her mom are bffs doesnt mean you have to be with her just tell her that she is acting out of line and tell her everything you said above. if you cant that means you are afraid of her which you shouldnt be. all of you guys are the same and you're basically letting her be on top. tell her that it's not working and if she doesnt listen or get it - its time for you to find some new friends.
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Well I know what you mean...sometimes you just wanna be a kid while you can! Obviously your friend is having some insecurities (well, at least I think so) and wants to be older than she is. I would talk to her straight and tell her what's bothering you, and that you wish you could still have fun with her without beer, boys, and parties, at least once in a while. If she refuses, then she's not worth it. :)
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i would tell her straight up to stop acting like shes so much older just because the age she is, go out and do a hole loud of things with other friends that she wouldnt want to do in the end she'll feel left out and want to join in too,
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