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random question, but if you marry your highschool sweetheart right after senior year and before college, is that a bad thing? like will that cause problems with being married and going to school at the same time?
and basically is it bad to just get married at that age in general? is it hard to handle money, buying homes, etc?
because I really want to ask my beautiful girlfriend that I've known my whole love to marry me, but I don't want it to cause problems.
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Yeah, it is a bad idea. You haven't live your life yet and don't have enough experience or maturity to know what you want in life. It might cause problems at school,(getting marital dorm rooms, or a co-ed room), and what if she get's pregnant? Do you expect her to drop out?
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You shouldn't ask her if she is planning to go to college because that would interfere with her school work and stuff. I would ask her to move in with you or do sumthing else that binds ya'll together so your love will not fade away. It would be hard to get married at that age because you have just gotten out of school you need to get a good job, get an apartment/doorme.
I hope the best for yall!
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There's nothing wrong with asking your girlfriend to marry you but that doesn't mean you actually have to get married immediately. By waiting to actually get married, you will be able to save money and have the perfect wedding, and have some time being able to live together first.
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anonymous -
You can still ask her to marry you, just remain engaged until you are financially stable to pull off a wedding and live together.
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Well...No. But I think that you ought to wait, and here is why...
1) I'm not trying to talk down to you, but your still young. Your personality is still developing. You are going to change a lot in the next four years, and so is she.
For example, I'm twenty-two years old and I know that I've changed A LOT in the past four years. And I'm still changing. Who knows what I will be like when I'm thirty? If I had been married...Well, I think that I would probably be a very different person, not necessary better, not necessarily worse. But I feel like I would have missed out on a lot of very valuable life experiences, so I might not know as much about myself and what I want...as I do now.
2) Yes, being married and going to school might cause some serious time issues. You'd both probably have to hold down jobs to pay your bills, and go to school full-time if you want to graduate in four years. Then there is homework...I think the two of you would have a really hard time spending quality time together, and that your marriage might suffer.
3) As for money and homes...Money is going to be a problem because your aren't going to be able to find a lot of really, really great jobs with just a high school education. Not to mention, the high paying jobs want you be relatively flexible, your school schedule would pose a definite problem. As for the home, well...that depends. Have you established good credit? If not, buying a home would be difficult...nearly impossible. I only ask most eighteen year olds, while they don't have bad credit, they just don't have any credit at all...Sometimes not having any credit can be just as bad as having no credit.
So, in summary, I think that if you married your girlfriend right out of highschool, yeah...That would create a lot of problems, for the both of you. That doesn't mean that you can't marry her though.
And so, I would like to introduce you to an alternate route: buy an engagement ring. Set a wedding date for AFTER the both of you graduate from college. That way, you'll both have an opportunity to grow, you won't be causing yourself any extra problems, and you'll both be better prepared to provide for yourselves.
Either way, I hope that everything goes well for you both :) Adieu ;)
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I want my boyfriend to do that!! ANd we want to too! i think that it will be a good thing because then you will remain true to eachother! and be happy, and it will just make you work harder for everything!!
best of luck!
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kelsa
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I think you should wait a little while longer. College is a big change and it can change people. And everything is so expensive these days so unless you have a great job and everything I honestly would wait until you could provide a little better.
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unless your filthy rich and madly in love, i wouldnt go for this. 18 isnt really a good age to get married, bcuz youre still young, and not quite as intelligent/responsible as to opposed to being oh lets say.. 25. you should probably at least wait until after college and you two get a job, so you can manage a household. if your thinking thats too long, you might be thinking thatll be over by then. lets put it this way, if shes the great girl you say she is, she'll still be with you throughout all this.♥
MiiCHELLE..*
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