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Boyfriends
All my friends have had a boyfriend before except me. I really want one, but there is no one that seems right for me. A few guys have asked me out, but i have refused. I am more obsessed with school than guys, but sometimes i wonder if i should spend more time trying to get a boyfriend. I also find that most boys i was attracted to had been my friends. I am not sure why that is. Maybe because i knew them so well?
~Wondering
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im in the same situation so it may not be very good advice, but ill try. i say that you have the right idea about school before guys. and its alright that you like your guy friends, i do to. it probably is because you know them well and just grow interest in them which you cant do with other guys because you probably dont go up to random guys and get to know them; so it makes perfect sense. i would say that if you like someone, ask them to the movies or something, but try to balance boyfriends/friends and school. good luck
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Ladies do not need boys, if you can't find one that seems right for you, don't worry and be patient, Mr. Right will come eventually, DO NOT lower your standards to 'fit in' with your friends boy-friend-having-ness. And yes, I would think that all the guys you liked were friends and you liked them because you knew tham better, but don't let the crush ruin your friendship unless your judgment tells you that there's a future there, I've been there, it's embarrasing and lonely.
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I've never had a boyfriend...and I have a TON of guy friends, which is what you should have right now! I have been asked out 3 times and I turned down all of them. The right guy will come along someday! And keep focusing on school! It will get you farther in life than any boy could!
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its ok! my best friend who i look up to had a few bfs b4 me bc she went out with just anyone. i waited for the mr right (not mr right now) and its great. dont get a bf just bc your friends have one...only go out with someone if you really like them. as for your friends, they probably like you bc they see that you have a great personality. <3
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Well that's good that you have school on your mind instead of boys all the time. But, don't worry love comes to those who wait. Maybe you just aren't ready for a boyfriend, since you turn down every guy that asks you.
-Brianna
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first of all you might be a dike or you dont know your sexuality.you need to loosen up and stop worrying about school so much it aint going nowhere.now that dont mean let your grades drop.im just saying that you need to give the boys a chance unless your diking.
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friends know you in a more honest light and still like you...I suppose this is what makes them more attractive when you are younger...dont feel too bad about being more in to school at the moment, boys will still be there when you are ready, this is just a way your soul is telling you that you are not ready for it all now, you are not a sheep...you dont have to follow through with what the others do...tough advice if you are a teenager because being different doesnt necessarily translate as cool, haha...but hey, take your time...everything happens in its own time...
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just because your friends have boyfriends doesnt mean you have to. if the times not right,then just go with. i do understand why you want one though. but i think the reason your attracted to your guy friends is because you know them so well. they alwyas make the best boyfriend. the breakup is kinda weird for a while- i know from expirience. but if you really want a boyfriend goodluck finding one!!
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I think you are right about why you're attracted to friends. They do make the best boyfriends.
I don't think you should let it worry you to much that you don't have a boyfriend yet. When the time is right for you, or the right one comes along is soon enough. :)
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Why would you say that you want one, and at the same time refuse? That is a sign that you are both not ready, and that you DON'T need a boyfriend. School is important, and boyfriends are a pain if you force yourself throughout the relasionship. Time shouldn't be used to find a boyfriend either. You still need to live a bit of the single life until you are in college for the time to be ripe. I may not be the best person to take advice from, being 13 and knowing nothing about this stuff, but still, concentrate on your education before you think of boys or anything.
And you are attracted to your guy friends because you know them better than the other specimens of the male side, and since you know all there is to know about them, you might feel more comfortable with them. Also, since those the the guys that you hang out more with, they just come unconsciencely as your first choice.
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Well if you find someone you really like, ask them out. Keep your mind on work more than getting a boyfriend. Guys don't want girls with hollow brains! Study in both books.(dating and school) Good luck finding Mr.Right!
~Reara~
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Dear Wondering,
Get one of your friends to set you up with a guy you don't know too well. Not because it will make you popular or because it is the in thing to do. Not even because you "need" to be in a relationship or anything silly like that. Instead do it because it's good for you. It's good for you to make new friends, it's good for you to have someone to confide in, and it's good to have the experience son that your lack of experience does not become something traumatic to you. If practice makes perfect in all other things in life, why not here? If you are smart about it it shouldn't hurt anything and I do think that you sound like you will be smart about it. So do it, enjoy it, and don't think too hard about it. Just enjoy your youth and the experience and if nothing else it will be a fond memory years from now.
I don't think I need to tell you not to be free with you use of the word "love" and not to say or do anything unless you mean it, but there I've gone and said it anyway.
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It's good that you are focused on school! School is important now and especially in the future. I don't think you should "spend time" finding a boyfriend, but once you meet the right guy, you should try to get to know him better. Maybe you're attracted to your guy friends because you know them so well. I hope I helped, and feel free to ask me anything else!
*Manders*
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Hey dont get influenced by your friends. Dont force yourself in to a relationship just because your friends all have boyfriends. You will know when the right guy has come then go for it ;). If you really want to go our with a guy try going out with your clost friend. But i wouldnt becaus eyou might loose your friendship.
♥ Michelle
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maybe youve said no because your not ready yet! b oys are dificult, and having boyfriends usually justends up with your heart broken and your virginity stolen. just hang with your friends..the ones who dont have boyfriends or never have had them before, besides its not fun just sitting and watching your best friend and her boyfriend making out, its really not fun. alot of poeple havent had boyfriends yet and theres nothing at all wrong with that, but having friends that are guys is fun, and dont get serious with them. just make time for school first, friends second.....and boyfriends....last. good luck!
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