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Is it wrong?
There is a new girl in my school. She was recently expelled from her Catholic school because she got an abortion. One of my friends was friends with her for a while since they lived near eachother and now she's coming to my school. I have my opinions about alot of things and abortion I have a very strong opinion about it and I'll argue my point until my face is blue. I'm 1000% against unless you were raped or you are having difficulties with your pregnancy and it could cost you your own life. Just by knowing this, I already do not like her because of that reason and that reason only. My friends all know that if they were to get pregnant and get an abortion, I would probably never speak to them again. I am not a virgin, but I do know that if I was ever to get pregnant, I would never get an abortion reguardless of my situation. I just think it's wrong. But please, do not bash me because of my beliefs just answer me this, could you at the very least understand why I wouldn't want to be friends with her? Is it wrong for me to feel this way?
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yes its wrong of you. over the course of your life you will meet alot of people who have different views than you, if you only associated with people that shared all your views youd have no friends. against abortion? don't have one, convince friends not tp w/e but don't judge people for thinking its ok or for having one. you claim not to be judging her, you're right, you're prejuding her, not liking her based on a belief. you say you aren't a v8rgin, how would you feel if all religious people weren't friends with you because they were against pre marital sex? and 6wo words for you, broken condom, what would you do then? so anyways give her a chance
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the people that are for abortion i hope you know your killing a person n thou shall not murder...thats one of the ten commandments....not a good idea...i am totally against abortion! go bush!
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I have to agree with kiyya when she said "It is wrong, your telling me not to bash you for your opinion but look, your bashing this girl, she might not be happy about her desicsion, but you do not know what situation she was in ,and you don't know why she made that decicsion."
Do you know that she didn't use protection? Maybe the condom broke, because I don't understand how someone had sex and got an abortion as well...why not just use a condom? How do you know that it was her decision? Maybe she wanted that child and her parents wouldn't let her live at home if she had it. How did the school find out anyways?? Can you see where I am coming from?
Yet, I have to agree I think as well that Abortion is totally wrong on the case of..how would you feel if your mother got an abortion and didn't let you have you the life you have now? So on that point I have to agree.
Yet on the other hand everyone has their own veiw on things.
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EDITED-...u said that i didn't see the added info n ur right..i didnt because u added it 5 mins after i answered..
but when you said "could you at the very least understand why I wouldn't want to be friends with her?" you said you dont want to be friends with her..sorry but it sounds like your judging her
EDITED AGAIN-- but was it her choice to give up the child?
EDITED AGAIN-- ok then....what the hell was she thinking? now i see why you don't like her decision..and i have to agree with you on that...because what she did was plain pathetic
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Stop being such a prick and realize that other people have their own opinions too. And you do not know WHY this girl got an abortion. People make mistakes and its better to have an abortion than have a kid which you cannot support. You need to get to know this girl before you judge her so much because thats pretty damn rude.
Also you asked for advice not for everyone to agree with you, so stop crying whenever someone shares their opinion.
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Before I answer your question I just want to make a comment regarding an answer you've already received!
MrsRadcliffe:
Haven't you ever heard of a condom breaking? Or perhaps of that 1% with birth control?? Don't say that if a girl is "stupid enough to have sex without using protection then she should pay for it!" For your information I am one of those "stupid girls" that you are refering to and people like you make me sick. Didn't your mother ever use the saying don't judge a book by it's cover with you?? I used a condom, it broke and I used birth control as well and it failed. And although I took the responsibility of my child not every woman does and that's their personal choice. Regardless of what you think. I don't like smoking....so should smoking be illegal?? If my friend smokes should I hate her too?? AAAHHH....Ok...I have to stop now because I'm getting too angry and disgusted!!
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Anyway...
I think you pretty much get were I'm trying to go with this. It is wrong for you to judge this girl without knowing anything about her but the fact that she has had an abortion. Nobody's saying you have to be friends with her, but you have no right to hate her. Tell her how you feel about it if you like...but don't bash her for it...just like you don't want anyone bashing you for the way you feel! Get it? I hope so! :)
You have every right to how you feel, but other people shouldn't have to suffer because of it. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs. Who are you to judge them?? I have friends that have had abortions and although I didn't agree with the choice they made they are still my FRIENDS and that's all that matters!! Friends are suppose to be forever. Not until they have abortions!
I'm not trying to make a personal attack on you for your opinion. Please don't take it that way...I just want you to understand it from another point of view and perhaps you'll understand how other people feel.
There are a million other things I could say as examples of pre-judging and so forth, but I think I've said too much already. Hopefully you understand what I'm trying to say and don't take it the wrong way....I was just trying to give you my honest opinion which is what you asked for!! :)
Best of luck to you!
~ Amanda ;)
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number one is you actually are judging her because you sad you don't like her and in my book i call it judging. so you don't get all nasty with me because you are the one who has the problem. and if my advice didn't work you don't have to get all nasty about it!!!!!!!!!! . and actually you do have the right to express your opinion but you are expressing it in the wrong way. you make it seem like you hate her . and i did not say that you made it seem like you hated her , but since you wanna make it seem like i did say that, fine you said it then
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Just because you disapprove of something she did doesn't mean you should judge her. I'm against smoking, but I'm not going to base a relationship with someone on the fact that they smoke. If I did, I wouldn't have half the friends I do and I wouldn't be living with my parents. It's wrong of you to prejudge somebody, but you can't help the way you feel. But the fact that you question whether or not it is wrong shows that on atleast some level, you do think it's wrong. Try your best to overcome it and be her friend. Good luck! =)
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I am not for abortion either, so I'm not here to bash any of your beliefs. But, her having an abortion was probably a hard decision to make, and she is now probably carrying the guilt in her. I can understand you being angry, and not wanting anything to do with her, but it happened, she can't go back now. So, maybe its time to move on and just be her friend, that may be all she needs right now. Don't go and argue and tell her how much you hate abortion, she probably feels bad enough, so I think what she needs is your comfort and understanding, or someone elses, but you can stay away from her if you are that upset until you feel different. Besides, I think she'll probably have enough people on her tail about this situation. So, you don't have to be her friend, but don't comment on it, she may not want to be reminded of it. She just needs somebody now, I don't like abortions either, but what good will it do to stay mad at her? None. But, maybe the next time your friend or anyone is pregnant, assure them that it will be better to raise the baby, because having a baby at a young age does not make you any less thankful to have a kid like an adult does. My older sister has a baby and shes 17, and shes very happy with him even though he was not expected.
-TheTeenGirl
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Its not wrong..i understand completely but i disagree with how you handle it. Just because someone does something that you are completely against doesnt mean you cant be friends with them. Its alot like religion i think..i have a friend who is athiest and im christian but..i dont diss her and never want to be her friend just because i disagree in what she believes in. There are gonna be alot of people in your life that you meet along the way that have different opinions on some subjects than you have. But that doesnt mean theyre are a BAD PERSON and you can never be friends with them becuz you never know..this girl that had this abortion could be a nice girl and you guys could have a good friendship. I havent bashed in what you believe i just think you handled this situation wrong. You wouldnt be second guessing on how you handled this situation if you didnt ask this question.
hope i helped
PS..i disagree with abortion too
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well, it is her and her parents decision and you cant change what happened. now, i have a very strong opinion on abortion too. im totally for it and i'd love to debate you, but i haven't got time for that. but what i'm wondering is when you consider it to be a living being. my personal opinion is right when it comes out. and i think that teens are not able to handle pregnancies therefore leading to abuse and neglect from the unwanted child that they could have "gotten rid" of. im not telling u to love her or whatever. but what i'm saying is that people deserve second chances and if you judge her on one of your beliefs, it isn't fair because her's are different.
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I understand. I dont argee with abortion at all unless its a rape affence, if a girl is stupid enought to have sex with out using protection then she should pay for it. Abortion is soo wrong because its killing human life, a life that someone has created and its just wrong for them to take a babies life away from it. I agree with you, abortion is wrong, and if my friends had an abortion i wouldnt fall out with them but id be a bit unhappy because of my beliefs. You stic with it. Its not at all wrong that you feel that way!!! Keep fight against abortion im with you on it.
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