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wasnt sposed to find that
so i leftmy binder in my dads truck and he read through one of my notebooks...a very private notebook i might add...he read how many guys ive had sex with and diifernt drugs ive tryed and shit like that...he told me this tonight as he pulled it out of his briefcase....and read me all the passages...how should i handle this...cuz hes not handling it too well...:/
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oh shit u r screwed
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There is no way to reverse the information he has found out. What you need to do is sit down and talk to him calmly and reasonably. Ask him if there is anything that he wants/needs to say to you. Even though you left your binder in your father's truck, that doesn't give him a right to invade your privacy and read your thoughts. But, if the notebook was so important, it shouldn't have been left around so carelessly also. The only thing left for you to do is suck up what has happened and learn from your mistakes. The worse thing for any parent to find out is that their innocent little girl is not so innocent nor little anymore. Your father is hurting right now, and he needs some time to process what he has discovered about you. <b>Here's a tip for you:</b> Why don't you trying keeping an online journal from now on instead of a written journal? That way you can password protect it from those who you do not want to see it, and you can have access to it from any computer. There are a lot of online journal sites that you can use.
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he souldnt have read it! you need to always make sure you have all of ur stuff! i would try to disguise it in a math spiral or somthing!
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thats messed up.
don't lie. it will just make you lose all credibility.
lesson learned...never never put anything in writing. if you must express yourself through writing--get an account at livejournal and protect it with a password.
i'm sorry that your privacy was invaded...its embarassing as hell...be more careful in the future...
love louise
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It's your dad's obligation to be concerned about you.i'm sure he doesn't have much interest in yelling at you, he just wants to help you.It's really not his fault because parents want to be more involved in their child's lives than we may be allowing them to.I mean, you should have told your dad.He's probraly just scared for you and in shock.Don't be mad at him.Talk to him and tell him how you were scared of his reaction and you learned from your mistakes.
xO LiSa*
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i think you should say its an assignment and that you have to fill a journal out with entries that describe someone that isnt you like putting yourself in someone elses shoes kinda thing
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well he shouldn't have invaded your privacy but if you are ashamed or annoyed then you shouldn't have done these things. but just sit down and get everything out in the open. just be totally honest with him
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There are no rules about privacy when it comes to trying to raise a decent human being. Why not try handling it like an adult? Yeah dad it's true.
Are you more sorry for what you did or that you got caught? He just doesn't want you pregnant, addicted, or in jail. It's never to late to ask for his forgiveness and start out on a new path. You will probably even feel better for it. Maybe have a notebook burning to signal a new beginning.
At least it seems he is willing to talk about it. That would be a good thing.
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I think you are going to have to put up with it.
He has every right to look at it in my opinion, and evidently reason to suspect you were up to something. Why would you write all that in a notebook anyway?
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First of all, this was your own fault for leaving such a personal item lying around. Parents always look through personal stuff because they want to know what their kids are up to. Things are still ok though. If you haven't already been disowned by now, this is how you handle it. Go to your dad (now this won't be easy) but just say it straight. "I know you've read everything in my notebook. There is no sense in me hiding anything now. So lets talk...." Trust me, this sounds crazy, but if you think about it, if you were to just let it "blow off", you and your dad are in for some very uncomfortable times. It is better to get everything out into the open, discuss issues, argue, yell, whatever. It won't be easy, but at least you both are expressing yourselves. Don't let stuff like this "brew". Also, since it happened tonight, do it now. Trust me, tomorrow will be 100 times harder. Whatever you do, don't yell at him. Listen and understand what he has to say. Afterall, you think you have it bad, he just found out that his daughter does drugs and has sex. This is hard on him also. Good Luck!
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Well first of all he shouldn't be going through your stuff! and second of all try and clear things up for him, and maybe even say that those things where just goals... or imaginative. But do what ever you have to.
Good Luck hun!
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all i can say is he shouldnt be in your stuff in the first place and... umm spend more time with him so he knows you arent doing anything wrong! just convince him ur not doing drugs and having sex cuz "you learned it was bad" sry its not much but i hope i helped! good luck
~BeThAnY mArIe
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