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why did i change?
ok so recently, in the past few months, ive turned into a bit of a bitch. i honestly dont know why. i get annoyed a lot easier. most of the time, i get jealous really easy. like for example, my friend found out that i had a advice column, so he decided he wanted one. well i got really mad because its my "thing" and i wanted it to myself. im selfish and im whiney. i dont know why im starting to be like this. i also started doing drugs, becoming more "sexual", looking at porn, being belemic, and a lot of stuff that i know will ruin my life. i cant stop. im losing all my friends, and ive already lost a lot of them. i just dont know what to do.
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Maybe your stressed out. I know that when i'm stressed about something (school, family, friends, etc.) i get real bitchy too. you mentioned that your belemic? maybe your weight could be stressing you out too. idk. when i was belemic it stressed me out but im not sure- im not you.
try relaxing.
good luck
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If UR A GirL THen JUst StOp ALl THe THiNGS!!!!
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I am in almost the same situation. I got a new boyfriend and spent all my time with him which resulted in me losing my best friends. Next, I started cutting myself firstly for attention, then because my home life isn't too great right now. I used to be popular, smart and well liked. Now I'm a bitch. I know exactly how you feel. What you have to do, is fix things. You know that this is mainly your fault and the only way you can get out is by undoing all the bad things you've done. Start with your friends, APOLOGISE. Yeah, sure it'll be hard to swallow your pride and yeah, sure they might reject you but the only way you'll even have a chance of getting them back is by saying you're sorry. Try your best to quit the drugs, there are loads of helplines and websites to get you back on track. Talk to your doctor about the belemia, it will honestly ruin your life if you don't. As for being 'sexual' and looking at porn, there's nothing wrong with that. You're 14 and you're turning into an adult. It's totally normal to start becoming more interested in sex. Don't say you can't stop. If you honestly want to, then you can. If you want to talk about this more, then email me or talk to me on MSN. My address is yellowmelon37@hotmail.com I really do know how you feel.
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I think what happening right now is your just going through a stage in puberty. I know LOTS of chicks that do the same things that you said you do. You should just deal with it. If it gets to bad then you should talk to your doctor. That's what i did and she gave me some medicine for it and i'm not so bad anymore.
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Oh sweetheart! I feel ur pain.. this is normal for people our age (you seem like a teenager). Every one just goes through this stage differently. I've been going through the same things just differently. This can be a postive thing or a negative thing. Not to be mean, but you've kinda chose negative. Just try to be more postive about things and drink loads of caffine because that it great stuff to put you in a postive mood!
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there's one thing you have got to remember. you are not alone. i'm sure there's thousands of other people in this world that are going thru the *exact* same thing. everyone goes thru a stage like that or somewhat similiar to that. i think you should try and talk to your friends, tell them the same thing you told us. let them know what you're going thru and they can help you out and know what to expect from you. the whole jealousy issue, everyone is like that. EVERYONE! they might not show it, but they are =) ... drugs, hmm lots and lots, ok millions and millions of poeple die from drugs, i'm not trying to sound like a bitch but you see commercials, ads, etc. on t.v. telling you how much people die from drugs. think of your kids, your body, your life. do you want to end up dying in the next five years? (depending on what drugs you're taking) ... i dont want you to take this the wrong way, you asked for help, i'm giving it to you. i can relate somewhat to it because ii've been through parts of it & so have some of my friends, so i understand. btw, how old are you? oh and the more sexual whole thing, think about all the bad things/parts of sex and stuff ... maybe that'll help you out? the-looking-at-porn-thing, well i'm sure everyone has looked at porn once or twice before but i dont see anything wrong with it lol ... im jk. resist the temptation ... just um think of something else, i dont look at porn so i can't help ya out much, lol. ok well good luck, drop me a line, tell me how everything goes please!!! =) thanks! *xo-angie*
p.s. try listening to 'hold on' by good charlotte =)
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How old are you? I don't know why you changed. Has anything in your life changed? Like did you have a bad break up or are there problems at home? like a divorce, drug/alcohol using parent, abuse? Did you lose a good friend or did a loved one pass away? these could be reasons you are changing. let me know whats going on so I can help you better.
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the EXACT thing is happin with me except the belimic and porn thing..drugs are ok just dont get to into them.its ok to wanna have "fun" sumtimes.the belimic thing is pretty bad. u should talk to sum of ur friends and see what there advice is to.
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well i recently became a bitch too, i really dont no wat it is, it just happens. just try to think of someone that u no that is really a *GOODIE GOODIE* then just try and think of them everytime that u r mad or sad or watever u r. and for the belemia well it is just somethin that u will hav to talk to a close FRIEND about and c if they can help u. or u can talk to a adult about it *but i really dont think that u would want to do thta cus i no that i wouldnt. ~*L*~
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alright this has happened to me before other thn the drugs part.
just plz try to stop doing drugs cause they will ruin your life and not only tht it will hurt your loved ones as u mentioned before.
even ask your friends to help u stop.
try to get the friends tht u lst to help also.
im sorry if this isnt the best advice but its a really hard thing to do.
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Yeah, you need to pay attention to these obvious clues that you're headed in the wrong direction. There is something deeper inside than you know that is bothering you and you need to find what it is. Then you need to deal with it in positive ways. Start getting your creative energies flowing and make something of yourself that is only you and so unique. There must be something you love to do other than drugs, sex, etc. Maybe you used to paint, or write, play an instrument, run, ski, jump, fly, I don't know, but whatever it is you like to do, man, do it again and excel at it. I know it's easier said than done, but just remember the results are so much more rewarding when you turn negative energies positive somehow. Life gets hard sometimes for every human being...it's all about how you deal with it. I hope things get better for you:)
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well try to change urself back if u dont like how u are now.
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wut to do is talk to your PARENTS !! they can help ( but if i were you i wouldnt tell them about that porn part ) i kno it sounds like bad advice but if you cant stop and its going to hurt you then you need to talk to some professionals not a bunch of kids on a website !! so get some help !
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