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breakup or not to breakup
okay well i have this problem..there is this guy and i have been going out with him for about 2 months..and i went to a party with him last weekend..and for some really weird reason..it was really weird to be around him..like i didnt want to go out with him ne more..and hes really nice and all..but i keep comparin him to my ex bf..who is going out with my friend..and he was like my very first love..and i just cant get over him! and its irritating..well anyways back to the current boyfriend situation..he hasnt talked to me whatsoever this week..so im thinkin that i should breakup with him cuz i dont think he likes me ne more..and i dont think i like him ne more..
so here are my questions..should i break up with him? and if so how should i do it (like what should i say) and HOW CAN I GET OVER MY EX! lol cuz i really want to..but its just always coming back to haunt me
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Sorry it took me so long to get back to you, I really apologize. It seems to me that you still have feelings for your ex, but that was obvious, huh? I think you should find the time to talk to your current boyfriend if you feel you want to keep the relationship alive. Sometimes, you may like a person, or think you really like a person, but later on find that it was just puppy love. To answer your question, talk with your boyfriend and see if the feelings are mutual. If not, tell him that you don't feel as attracted to him. Tell him, " Look, Bob ( thats just what we'll call him), I feel that we're growing apart, and I want to know if you still have feelings for me, if not, lets not cause each other anymore pain and go our seperate ways." Also, you said you keep comparing your current boyfriend to your last one. Did your last one give you more attention? Was he better looking, was it something materialistic abou your ex that you still can't get over? Don't go for anyone basedon looks or money, do what your heart feels is right. I can only give you advice, but when it comes to what your heart wants, you make the final decision.
MAd Love,
Victoria
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IM OVER YOU BITCH.. thats about it... you cant get over your first love.. it wont happen... try just being friends with him.. understand his point of view and if anything... you'll get back together if it was meant to be... and dont stress it... find somone else.. but dont replace your first love... ever
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Okay, one thing at a time. You should decide if you want to break up with this guy based on how YOU feel about him, not how you think he feels about you. If you don't like him anymore, there's no point in dating him. It doesn't really matter if you don't like him because of who he is or because you are hung up on your ex - not liking someone is not liking them.
And how you should do it? However you are most comfortable - email, letter, phone, in person. Whichever way you choose, I'd avoid saying those things which everyone knows are lies, like 'It's not you, it's me.' Because let's face it...honesty might hurt, but it's appreciated. Being really open, yet kind, is the best way.
As to your ex? I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but there is something very special about first loves - I still think of mine every now and then. I think what helped me get over mine was thinking about the things which weren't great about our relationship; people break up for a reason, you know.
If you focus on yourself and friends, you'll end up gaining confidence and finding a new guy you really connect with. Before long, you'll be in a happy relationship and be able to think of your ex fondly, but without still wanting to be with him. I really think it's just one of those things that takes time to heal over.
Best of luck.
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ok..was this a rebound thing..for after a breakup you always have a rebound thngs..and trust me..one day you wake up..and think..what was i thinking...
as for you ex going out withe a friend fo yours..totally against the girls friends rules...so..you have to GET over him
So tell this guys that you were in a really bad place over the break up..and that you really think he is great..just you need to end it as it is not going anywhere..yes he will be hurt..but if you let this go on..it will hurt even more.
Then date again..you will go through a couple guys until you find another love. But that is the fun of dating...kssing a few guys..going on great dates until Mr. right comes along.
As for the ex..lose him..he broke the cardinal rule as well as your buddy about dating friends...
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well..if you're not over your past boyfriend..you shouldnt be going out with your current boyfriend..and maybe things aren't really working out for him either.maybe thats why he's not talking to you..so do what you feel like..i can't really tell you what to do
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if youve lost that lovin feelin, then maybe it is splittsville for you two. dont compare him to your ex though, thats not fair at all. all guys are different. i know its hard to get over him, it always is. but if you give it some time it will all work itself out, i promise. time heals all wounds.
to break up with your boyfriend, the only thing you really can do is be honest with him. just tell him that you dont feel for him like you used to. if he's a good guy, he'll understand.
hope i helped. good luck sweetie!! ~*stefanie
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It is your choice whether you break up with him or not. My opinion is that you should breakup with him, because he is a jackass. To get over your ex boyfriend I think you should just like try your best not to think about him and whenever you see him dont pay that much attention to him and I think that you should find a new, hotter, guy to like!
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I think you should stick with the guy you like most. If you dont like this guy you are going out with now then i think you should dump him but since your friend is going out with your exboyfriend then there is nothing really to do. If you really want to go back out with your exboyfriend then maybe it would just be best to either wait for him, or tell your friend how you feel about him, she will understand.
somethings you can say to break up with your boyfriend are "its not really wroking out" or "lets just be friends." he will understand you.
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my personal opinion is that you should break up w/ him. you should never be going out w/ someone that is weird for you to be around. and if you have feelings for your ex still, then it's not fair for ur boyfriend that you have feelings for another guy. you should avoide breaking up with him in public, bc it could be embarrassing for him, so i'd do it somewhere alone-ish. just sit him down and explain to him how you feel so he understands why your dumping him. and tell him that you still wanna be friends and stuff, and if he's a nice guy, and u explain all ur reasons, he should understand. now as for your ex situation. if you can't get over him, maybe it's because your not supposed to. try talking to him as friends and see if anything ends up happening between you. if your comparing him to all your new boyfriend then you deff. still really like him. but you said he's going out w/ your friend..so like i said just talk to him as a friend and see what happens from there. just don't start to get all flirty flirty w/ him, you wouldnt want to hurt your friendship w/ the other girl. hope my advice helped!~*
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You should never remain with someone you are not interested in, that kind of relationship is not positive for either of you. It’s not fair to your partner to stay with him when you’re not interested, he should be able to go find someone who is. You probably owe him an apology and some honesty regarding your feelings for someone else. That said, you also need to work towards getting over your past relationship or you’ll never be able to escape these feelings. Make an attempt to focus on the positive aspects of other people and recall the reason why your previous relationship didn’t work out. Focus on moving forward. You also may no be ready to date people yet, especially if your last relationship ended fairly recently. Perhaps consider taking a break from dating until you feel like you can focus on a new partner.
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okay,if u dont like him,and if he dosnt like u,what r u guys doing together?
But if u dont like him,and he still likes u,try breaking up with him in the less hurtful way.
And please dont say:"Is not u,its me"
Tell him,how much u appreciate him,how cool is him,that he is very nice,but that is not working and that u only see him as a good friend.That u hope u still can be good friends,that nothing has change,and that u had a good time with him,but right now u dont feel like having a boyfriend
How to get over ur ex:
The past is the past ,theres nothing u can do about it,u have to move on.Is not going to be easy,but try to remember all the goodtimes u had with him and accept that it didnt work.It was not ment to be.Go out with friends,meet new people,keep urself doing stuff,like going out etc.and with time ull get over him.
Good Luck
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Ok it's up to you if you dump him but you've got to remember that you should et him down gently ask him if he still likes you and if he doesn't find out why ask him whats on his mind and tell him whats on yours then think to yourself is he worth keeping if he never talks to you and then if he's not then let him go it's hard to feel right with someone when you have to settle down but it takes a while to hope i helped love sophie
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well, if you dont want to be with yur current boyfriend right now, then i think u should break-up with him. alot of girls, after a while, start to get sick of the same guys! That usually Happens to me, cuz im such a big flirt! lol.. but anyway back to the subject. i think u should just Talk to him about and do it easily/nice! * Just say, i think we need to take a break now, and see what he has to say. Ask him if you 2 could still be friends though.
As for your ex, you might just be a little jealous right now cuz he goes out with someone that isnt you! This Happens to everyone, especially me! i`ll say i dont like him anymore, but when he goes with a dif. girl, i get jealous! Happens to everyone. So you may just be jealous..
But if you really do like him, then ii think u should sit down and talk him.. but if yah wanna get rid of him, do the thing we do best FLIRT !! haha
okay, Hope ii HELPED ! Feel Free to ask more.. and mah AIM SN is : BlinkBabex33
Luv Colleen *
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