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me and my boyfriend got caught
Hey, a couple months ago me and my boyfriend got caught having sex. I'm 15 years old and my parents were not too happy with me. They had no idea that I was sexually active before. They grounded me and told me that I could never see my boyfriend again, but I talked them into letting me stay with him, thats all taken care of but how can I gain their trust back? please help..
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Try and let them know things that are going on in your life.Parents love that.Just anything you can think of that happened let them know.It shows them that you want to earn your trust back and your trying. hope i helped.
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Just be trustworthy .. be as honest with them as you can. They were probably just shocked .. if they're letting you go back out with them, they probably trust you .. just make sure they know that you're being safe and whatnot, and they'll probably be fine.
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if theyre letting you see him again then they trust you. jsut dont lie to them again.
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Show them that you're responsible, if you can talk openly with your parents, by showing them that you use condoms and use severe precaution when doing what you do. Talk to them and share with them that you know the risk you're taking and you're ready to deal with it as an adult.
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all with time....they were just shocked thats all. Dont worry it will blow over
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stop getting caught having sex?
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aww yes this is happend to me before. of course they didn't catch me n my b/f in the act but they did find out they we were active. after they had found out my dad had a very seriouse talk w/me about sex *actually it happend like 3 times but i couldnt blame him* he told me that i couldnt hang out with my boyfriend again until he had a talk with him in person. My boyfriend actually cared enough about me to do this so one day he came over and my dad, my mom, me and him all sat down to talk. my dad basically explained to him about how hard it would be to take care of a child at our age *we're both 16* he told him that if we wanted to keep seeing each other we wouldn't "do it" anymore. he also said that if he wanted to keep haveing sex w/me then he would have to come to him *my dad* and explain to him how the job he had could support a kid. then he would have to pay for half of my birth control.n like i said before, my dad told us that if he ever found out we were haveing sex again, then we would never be able to see each other anymore. after that they were a little strict on where we went to hang out at and stuff, but now they're at a level that they can trust us again. my suggestion is, sit both your parents and your boyfriend down and all four of you should have a talk about it. then maybe you can settle your differences and make out a plan of what is going to happen in the future. good luck with everything n if you ever need to talk then IM me on sexyblueyezgurl~*
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Try bringing the guy to the hosue while your parents are there, or trty going out in big groups with friends ..
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be a virgin for the rest of ur life!
in my oppinion sex is nasty anyway. no offense to you at all. but just dont curse infron of them in school get all As. and if ur out w/ ur gurlz then get baq by the right time or even earlier do ur chores really well an dbe a kiss up to them. lol hope i helped.
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it will come back eventually. just show them that your responsible
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put urself in ur parents shoes. What if one day u found your own daughter having sex with a boy you dont even know? how do u feel? think about it, cause thats how your parents must have felt.
dun worry about it so much, they cant get angry with you for the rest of ur life! as trust is easy to give but hard to gain back once lost, be responsible for ur mistake, prove to ur parents that ur worthy of their trust.
engage ur parents in conversations about school, friendships problems etc. tell them whats going on in school, outside school, etc. give them a sense of feeling that they also play a part in YOUR life. it may be hard to open up to ur parents at first, but at least give it a shot. it beats far better then not trying at all right? i hope this helps, and good luck to you. peace <3 -Rei
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You just have to show them that you are responsible bring your boyfriend around, hang around at your house to let them see that they should trust you, you have to let them see that you are responsible and can handle stuff
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um well I'm not sure but this is so gonna be hard...well first you have to pretty much invite your boyfriend over when your parents are there and make him be around your parents while you do stuff...and do like cuddle but don't kiss or anything...and also don't ask to be left alone with him cuz well yeah....and also try saying mom we want to go to the movies do you wanna come with us till well she sees that she can really trust you do something simular to that and don't worry it wont take that long your parents need to realize everybody starts to have sex at a young age now
hope I helped...rate me plz:D
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The only way to gain their trust back is to prove to them that you can be trusted. The only way to do that is to be completely honest with them. Trust is a fragile thing, and once it's broken it takes a long time to fix it. And it can't hurt to be on your extra best behavior.
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don't have sex anymore, wait till yur older, what if you got pregnant n' shit, that would suck, so chill out with the fucking eachother for a while lol
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To gain their trust back make good grades,ask them if they need anything you kno juss be helpful and talk to your parents..hoped i helped
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It must have sucked to be caught doing something like that. Anyways, try regaining their trust by doing extra chores, be back when you go out at the time you say you will be back, do ALL of your homework, clean the house, do things such as those.
Good Luck - QBillion
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