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What happened?
Ok- I usually am the one giving out advice... but I am stumped on my own problem. Well here is what happened:
I used to have a best friend named Justine. We hit it off great from the start. After the first month we'd known eachother, we spent the night at each other's houses almost every weekend. We had only known eachother for a year when the inevitable happened- but we'd shared so much together. I had told her all of my deep dark secrets, and she had told me some of her own.
Well- this summer, I had been at my cousin Ashley's house- and we had been chatting with boys on AIM. I told Justine about it when I saw her- and for some reason, she FLIPPED. She wouldn't talk to me, and she ignored all my e-mails to her.
This year, I went back to middle school, and Justine had changed completely over the summer. She had all these cheerleader friends, and she was acting like she was better than everyone else. She even sits in front of me in my English class.
This is where the problem comes in. I don't want to be Justine's friend anymore- she is such a brat- but I do want her to act civil towards me (in English she is always sighing, like she hated being around me- and she tells people, when I can hear- that she hates me). What can I do to make her stop acting so immature???
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hey Miss.AIM changes.,
hey i am just like you lol. what i would do is. tell her that " hey i wanted to be your friend. i was nice to you. but then hey you started acting like a total stuck up Biatch! n now i am gettin sick of it! soo if your not ganna be my friend. i wont be yours*" say it calmer though if you do. lol. i have friends jus like that. lol.
xox manda xox
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ok yes thats true, she is being immature. you dont deserve to have freinds that act that way. and the whole thign about u hangin out with ur cousin-ok that was stupid. why would she get mad because you have a life outside of your world with her?? i think you should forget about her (sorry if it sounds harsh) but its true! i dont know what her deal is but its not worth trying to figure that out.
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You and Justine might never be close friends again, but you are right in thinking it would be better for all concerned if she could at least be civil with you. Try approaching her at a neutral time (when she's not with her friends and has no reason to be extra defensive) and just say as briefly as possible that you'd like to forget whatever happened (even if you still don't know what turned her against you) and get along.
If she does continue to belittle you though, it's important not to rise to the bait, as this might make her worse. If her behaviour gets any worse than it already is though, you'd be better mentioning it to a teacher at school so they can monitor the situation. Best of luck!
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Sometimes you can't change the fact that other people are immature but rather step up to the plate and be the one that defys it. I wouldn't stoop down to her level and do things like that but rather just confront her like a mature person would do and just say something like, "Justine, I get the point OK? You don't like me. I don't know what I did to make you not like me but could you just please stop." It will make her think twice and it might get her to stop. If it gets any worse I would tell a teacher or other adult to keep special supervison on her and you can tell them to keep it anonymous. Hope I was some help!
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Sadly,some people are just like that!There are no words to get them to grow up already!!I think she may have been jealous that you were spending time with your cousin,and you seemed to move on so quickly from your friendship with her!You seemed so happy without her,and it probably made her jealous and insecure and so instead of just dealing with it like a grown up,she chose to wig out and act like a brat about it!!If she's treating you this way,and she's willing to change completely just for popularity reasons,she's probably not the kind of friend you want anyway!!! I wouldn't worry about it hunnie,just let her go do her thing,and if she sighs or makes comments about you just laugh and shrug it off!You'll find better,believe me! ;)
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It seems to me that she got very jealous when you were hanging out with your cousin. She obviously did not want to tell you about that and instead, she acted immature and I think now she is trying to get you jealous by hanging out with "cool kids". I think you should confront her. Tell her that you don't understand what happened, that you don't want her to treat you like this, and you wish she would at least talk to you about what had happened. If she walks away and/or will not listen or respond, write her a note and ask her to please read it. Obviously something happened to her and she is keeping it in and dealing with it in an immature manor. Good luck hun! hope it goes well for you :)!
*FallenAngel*
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Alrighty. It is good that you don't want to be her friend because she does sound like a very bad one. Try talking to her when she is alone and tell her that you just want her to be kind around you. You don't care if your not friends but you can't have her treating you this way. See how she responds to that. If she still doesn't change then try talking to your parents about it or a teacher. Good Luck!!
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Yell at her in front of everyone and say something really embarrassing. Give her back what she does to you. Look good make the guys want you and be friends with EVERYONE except her of course. -aMaNdA <3*
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Honestly writer.. Sometimes people can't stop others from acting so immature.I know the right thing to say here is to be the better person and on't let it bother you. But I know that it REALLY HARD! Why don't you try seeing her out of school when shes with noone and ask her whny shes doing all this stuff to you. That way if shes around noone maybe she'll be less mean cause she doesnt have to show off in front of friends. You should do that.. or be the better person and just ignore it (even thoe i may even fin that HARD! lol) Good luck.
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Bitch slap 'eR!! Then tell heR to gRow up and shut heR hole! TheRe's NOOO Reason you should have to put up with heR shit!! Best wishes!! Hope I helped!! =D
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