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i hjave this friend that i love very much but the things she talks about somtimes i dont beleve are truthful..i know if i confront her then she'll get mad and not want to talk to me and say i think shes a liar so whats the point but i dont like being lied to..what should i do?
i need help!
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ive got friends like that too..as of right now i was thinking of the same thing..all you can do is confront your friend and if she gets mad at you doing somthing like tryin to find the truth shes not a friend.
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good question .. it's not fun being called a liar or her thinking you're a liar. actually it hurtsz really bad :/ just sit down with her and maybe talk about those things. if it gets to the point where she gets mad move on to something else.
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Just tell her you dont want to hear about it and maybe another time.. just tell her how you hate sooooo much lies!!-trix
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well if shes ur best frend and u confront her to tell her what u think and she gets mad then shes not a very good frend.. frends are ppl to lean a crying face on thier shoulder.. or sum one to lean on wen ur hurt or down.. shell eventually get over it.. but tell her what u feel..
i hope i helped!!
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a good way to deal with this is to confront her but in a more jokng kind of way. for instance. if she says, " oh my god, Sally is not a real blonde" then you say yes she is and laugh about it. sometimes it works but you have to be careful because sometimes they are not always lieing! love, amanda
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i know this is something u dont want 2 hear but if this person is a good friend of yours u have 2 be honest with her and tell her how u fell she might be mad in the beginning but after a while she will realize that u werent caling her a liar u were just stating how u fell let me know how it turns out
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i have a friend just like this! ((well it used to be me)) lol but anyways.. but when you know shes lying say ik yer lying and i dnt like liars plzz stop.. i did it b4 and it werked.. although she was a lil' mad for a while... oh well
hope i helped
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Well, you do NEED to talk to her! It is the best thing you can do. <33
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Thats funny because i have a friend kinda like that too! but she doesnt get mad if i confront her about it ((not saying your problems are funny))...well you kno what i mean)) and the way i would go about solving this problem is to catch her in a lie! ((it mite sound sneaky but its the only way u can say something about it and knowing your right!)) plus whats the point of being friends with someone who you cant even talk to and is always telling you lies! but i can understand that u stil want to be friends with her so maybe theres a reason she lies...like maybe she feels like shes not interesting enough and she needs to lie to be more interesting! so make her feel like what she says u really care abut ((but not the lies becaus then she will think that the lies are workig)) so wen she is telling the truth even if its the most boring thing uve ever herd...ACT INTERSTED! if this doesnt work write back for more advice! xox Emily
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I have known several people over the years who were this way. Mostly, I just learned to smile and nod my head when it was clear they were not quite being truthful. Sometimes it was just exaggerating the story, other times, she would totally make crap up... years later, she tried to excuse herself of the lies, claiming that she was "wrapped up writing a story, and started spilling the story over into her real life", which again I didn't buy, but at least she acknowledged that she had lied (even if in doing so, she told yet another lie). I think for some people, lying becomes such a habit, that they start doing it all the time, regardless of their audience.
You don't necessarially want to out-right call your friend a liar, but you might want to changing the subject when she goes off on superflous tangents. Now, if she's lying about other people, and you know otherwise, you might try saying, "well, that's not exactly what I had been told..." and follow this with you know to be the truth about the topic. This way, you're not being accusational, nor are you being confrontational - you're just trying to find the real truth of the matter.
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I know what you're going through - had the same thing happen with a friend of mine. She said some things I didn't really think were truthful. You never know what someone is going to say. No matter how well you know someone, you can not predict what they are going to say. I say ask her about it. If she's a true friend she will not be mad, you are just concerned and want to have a friend thats truthful - nothing wrong with that at all. Goodluck! Let me know how it goes :-)
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