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College confusion
Yeah, usually I give advice, but I figured I'd ask this time. Two of you have already seen this question, but I thought I'd just put it out here for the rest of you to help me with.
Okay, here it goes. I've found my DREAM college. I mean, this is what I've been searching for since, like, ninth grade. I'm almost certain I'd be accepted there.
Problem 1 - CalArts is in Southern California. Now, I live in michigan and my mom doesn't want me to go that far away.
Problem 2 - The tuition. $22,190. My dad doesn't have a job, my mom can't work, and I don't have a job yet. Even if I did, I wouldn't be able to make that much by next year. However, I do have books written, and could publish them, but even with that I'm not sure I'd be able to make the money.
Problem 3 - my parents both think that the only reason I want to go there is because my boyfriend's going to a college down there. That's not why I want to go.
So essentially, I'm wondering what you guys think. Should I try to get into a college my mom doesn't want me to go to, even though it's my dream school AND if I went there, I'd probably have somewhere to live? Help me out...
-Siren
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If it's your dream college go, you could get a scholorship
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If you worked hard enough, you should be eligable for any scholarships. If not, apply for some. Good luck at college!
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Sounds like you know exactly where you want to go and your heart seems really set on going there. Tell your parents that is where you want to go..within time they should be able to realize it and accept this.
To get the money: Do you already have money saved up or not? If you do then thats great and you should continue saving up. If you can you should get those books published. Also try geting a job at a resturant. Preferably a nice one because along with the pay you get good tips.
Hope I could be of some help!
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ask Shay shay
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Taking Problem 2 first, you should begin by speaking to a counselor from the Financial Aid office. They're used to answering questions from students in exactly your situation, and they can help you come up with a workable solution.
Where's the "somewhere to live" that you think you'd have if you went there? Would it be with your boyfriend? Because, if so, that may have something to do with your mom's reluctance -- and honestly, I can see her point. As a college freshman in a completely new environment, you don't want to be relying on your boyfriend that heavily -- no matter how good your relationship is, that's a *lot* of pressure to put on it.
In order to get around your parents' objections, you need to find out exactly why they don't want to go to school that far away. (Is it the travel expense? Do they think art school is impractical? Do they just hate California? Are they worried they won't be able to take care of you the way they're used to doing? Etc.) Whatever their specific fears, try to come up with a way to address them. But ultimately, no matter what they think, this is your decision, and not merely because you're going to be financially responsible for it.
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I'd go. There's always scholarships and student loans. Yeah, being in debt sucks, but this is the opportunity of a lifetime. Plus, you can get jobs grading papers or something on campus and that'll help. (The pay is like six bucks an hour, but hey! It's money!)
I can understand your mom's concerns about not wanting you to go that far away, but it isn't like you'll never come back. One of the bonuses to not being able to go home all the time when you're in college is that you become a lot more self-sufficient.
Best of luck to you.
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I would go, but serch out a back-up choice that you love just as much incase you either can't afford to go to CalArts or they don't accept you.
However, with the money situation, I would serch around for some low rate personal or student loans. do you have any other relative thaat might be willing to help? I'm not really up to speed on american stuff, but is there any knid of goverment instituion you can apply to?
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Well, hell yeah. Go! Listen, your parents may be mad for a bit but they're going to have to get used to you making your own decisions sooner or later. If I were you, I would first apply and try to get all the financial aid and scholarships I could. If you still lack money then just move on out there anyway, see how long it would take to gain residency
There is no shame in taking a year off to write, shop your book around, save up money, hang out with your boyfriend, soak up the California sun. Now if you don't want to take off of school completely, there are other options. Take some electives at a cheaper school in the CalArts area, a school that will let you transfer them. Or, you may try taking a couple of correspondence classes from any accredited university just to get you started on credits. I would go!
Vina
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Two? Isn't that against the rules?
Bleh.
1. Eh...it IS far...but if it's your choice, and you cannot make another...go for it.
2 - Wow...can anyone, except for the rich, make that kind of money in one year? You can go about the house, find things you don't want/need and sell them.
3. - Sit them down and tell them WHY you want to go. If they don't believe you...bleh.
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