I'm 23 years old and I live in Kansas. I have a job as computer support for a small, military based city.
I grew up in Kansas and moved to Michigan to go to college at Kettering University, where I met my husband.
I am a believer in Jesus Christ, but I don't like to call myself a Christian because there's so much...negativity associated with telling people that I am a Christian.
Gender: Female
Age: 23
Member Since: December 1, 2003
Answers: 22
Last Update: April 16, 2004
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Okay, this guy likes me... A lot. I don't really feel the same way about him. I like him as a friend, that's all. I've told him this, and he just can't accept it. He always comes up to me, and asks for my phone number. I'll tell him no, politely. He got so desperate, that he looked up my number & address in the phone book. He has it all memorized! It's so creepy. He even follows me to all my classes! He also tried to kick my crush. It's all getting so weird, and really out of hand. I've asked him to stop, and that just fuels him even more! I know what he's going through, cuz I used to be head-over-heels for this one guy, but I didn't go so far that I followed him, memorized his every word, etc. I want to report him, but he's really violent so I'm afraid he'll hurt me or something. He already abuses his younger sister, and I don't wanna be next. I just don't wanna get involved with this guy! HELP. (link)
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Go to the local police and file a report. (Going to the station generally guarantees that you'll get to talk to an officer so that things don't get easily confused.) Get your phone number changed, and make sure it's a private number so it won't get printed in the phone book. And start carrying some pepper spray in case he does get violent with you.
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i have a bf who is cheating on me and wat shold i do (link)
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Dump him. He's not worth the pain.
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I'm five feet six inches tall and I weigh nearly 180 pounds. I want to weigh 118 pounds again, maybe less. I have been eating a lot less but it seems like the weight just doesn't want to come off. I don't have a whole lot of time to exercise, but I try to squeeze in a walk around my neighborhood when I can!
I have 3 bottles of those Stacker 2 pills but I haven't started taking them yet. They're the kind without ephedra. Does anyone know if they work and if so how should I use them? Also I am on the antidepressant Lexapro and I heard this can cause you to lose some weight. Does that work?
Any other "miracle" cures you can come up with, well hey I'm willing to try. Just please do NOT tell me to go on the Atkins or South Beach diets! (link)
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I've been trying to lose weight myself, and like you, I don't have much time to exercise. I cut my fat intake down to 20 grams per day and it's working pretty well so far--I've lost eight pounds since I started about three weeks ago. You'll still need to try and get *some* exercise (you said you're walking, that's really good) but the best advice I have for you is to read labels closely.
Oh...and about the low-carb diet craze...according to most things I've read, complex carbs will lower your cholesterol and/or keep it relatively low. So I don't believe in the Atkins diet either.
Best of luck to you.
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my daughter is in love with this great guy he is in prison for something stupid he gave her a promise ring at christmas and all they got along great before he went away they were in seperatable all was in favour of a marriage or at least it looked that way problem is i heard thru his mom that he is thinking on breaking it off with her i have no idea why and it is driving me up the wall she has some idea that he is thinking and i told her that if someone else ask her out for a date go im highly upset by this because they have known each other for nine yrs and he could make her happy and she could make him happy what should i do besides kill him (link)
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It's really, really nice that you want your daughter to be happy. But seriously, this is between your daughter and her boyfriend. You'd be better off letting them worry about it.
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My friend's teenage brother died last night in a car crash.....what should I say to my friend? (link)
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The easiest thing to do would be to hug your friend and let him/her know that you're their for him/her if they want to talk. There isn't much you can say to make anything any easier, so just be there to listen to your friend.
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Alright, I am a lesbian, and I am currently dating a girl. Everything is great and wonderful between us. We are starting to become a bit more sexualy active...like just playing around and stuff. Well, she can get me to, um..feel good, but I can't get her. She said I "did fine" but you know that basicly translates into "it was alright, but it could have been alot better" When we talked about it..she said maybe practicing on myself would help...But I tried, and I can't even get myself to, um..feel good! Any advice, or even a website I could go to, that may help?? (link)
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I would recommend a website like www.sexuality.org. It has plenty of information.
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I have the hiccups. How do I get rid of them? (link)
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a spoonful of sugar or peanut butter works well.
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What is the meaning of life? (link)
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42.
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What do you do if you know a family member is having an affair and the wife has no idea why he is ending a 30 year marriage. Do you tell her or do you keep your mouth shut and let him hang himself? (link)
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I would say something. Many states will take that into consideration in divorce court.
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Hi, im 16 and wear a size 16/ 18, Though out my life i've been bullied and now i want to get my life back on track. I'm getting an exercise bike to use in the house and go to the gym for 2 hours a week. If and hopefully if i lose the wait how much sould i am to lose im a vegan so i ony eat friute and with the size i am it should just fall off so doctors say. But hoq much is dangerous. 10 lbs in a week? i really i want to be a size 8 in 6 montths for when i go to college i am good at exerciseing at the gym. Am i out of my reach????
please help if you've been in my sitionsion the advice is more then welcome. lots of love (link)
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Typically doctors tell you that losing more than 3 pounds a week is dangerous. I'm not going to say that pushing yourself is a bad thing, but don't overdo it.
Best of luck to you.
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long story: i was 16 when i got pregnant i couldnt tell parents cos they were very strict so i hid it for 7 months i was thinking about adopting him but when he was born i couldnt do it he was so lovely and my parents loved him too, when they asked me about the fether i said i didnt want him to know as he wasnt `the father figure`so i brought him up on my own for 6 years then i met someone else who i had 2 more children with he loves my son they get on well, but my son is 10 now and started asking questions like` whos my real father` ive said john but he looks baffled as if hes put 2 and 2 together cos he hasnt been with us 4 10 years, i just dont know what to say for the best, does he deserve the truth but i dont want him to have any relationship with his real father after all this time, help (link)
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First off, he has a right to know who his real father is. So tell him the truth. It won't be long before it isn't your decision to make for him. Also tell him why you didn't want him to have any contact with his birth father.
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I have a friend, let's call her *Marie. Well Marie told me today that she got fingered by her cousin, who's sixteen. She said she didn't want to do it but he just kind of laid on top of her and did it. She was going to call for her other cousin who would've stopped it, but she said he wouldn't have come because he thought they were fooling around and didn't want to disturb them.
She just told him to quit and he wouldn't, so I'm guessing it's 'finger rape', if there is such a thing.
Well now she said she had dark stuff in her panties. I think she said black fuzzy stuff. Like discharge. She said she still hurts from the encounter and I don't know how long ago it was. She said she REALLY wants to go see a doctor but she doesn't know how to go about it. Her parents are the strict kind, so if you told them you even kissed somebody they would have a heart attack. I'm asking for her because I am very worried and I have no clue what could be going on with her.
Thanks for helping. (link)
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It's rape. Rape isn't necessarily forced intercourse, it's forced sexual activity of any kind.
If her parents flip out about this, that's bad. She didn't do anything wrong. Please make sure she knows she didn't do anything wrong.
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How can i make a room feel calm
and want to work
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light shades of blue and green will help.
get a plant of some sort. probably one that doesn't need much sunlight, if your office is anything like mine.
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could u please inform me of the symptoms and the possible remedies of a kidney infection. (link)
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Okay, kidney infection:
nausea
fever
headaches (sometimes)
SEVERE pain in lower back and abdomen
the remedies:
GO SEE THE DOCTOR!!!!
drink cranberry juice
drink water
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Yeah, usually I give advice, but I figured I'd ask this time. Two of you have already seen this question, but I thought I'd just put it out here for the rest of you to help me with.
Okay, here it goes. I've found my DREAM college. I mean, this is what I've been searching for since, like, ninth grade. I'm almost certain I'd be accepted there.
Problem 1 - CalArts is in Southern California. Now, I live in michigan and my mom doesn't want me to go that far away.
Problem 2 - The tuition. $22,190. My dad doesn't have a job, my mom can't work, and I don't have a job yet. Even if I did, I wouldn't be able to make that much by next year. However, I do have books written, and could publish them, but even with that I'm not sure I'd be able to make the money.
Problem 3 - my parents both think that the only reason I want to go there is because my boyfriend's going to a college down there. That's not why I want to go.
So essentially, I'm wondering what you guys think. Should I try to get into a college my mom doesn't want me to go to, even though it's my dream school AND if I went there, I'd probably have somewhere to live? Help me out...
-Siren (link)
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I'd go. There's always scholarships and student loans. Yeah, being in debt sucks, but this is the opportunity of a lifetime. Plus, you can get jobs grading papers or something on campus and that'll help. (The pay is like six bucks an hour, but hey! It's money!)
I can understand your mom's concerns about not wanting you to go that far away, but it isn't like you'll never come back. One of the bonuses to not being able to go home all the time when you're in college is that you become a lot more self-sufficient.
Best of luck to you.
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Everytime I am on center stage, for playing an instrument, singing, acting, auditions, giving a speech in front of my class, whatever.... I get soooo nervous. My feet shake, my hands shake so hard it's hard to hold papers or instruments steady and they get really cold. Sometimes I get this nervous twitch above my lip. I don't know any way to get rid of it! And I can't just avoid the stage, because even though I get nervous, I really want to perform. Ugh.
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First, I'm not sure if you're looking at the audience, but don't do it. Or if you have to, look at a friend.
It also helps to eat lightly for a day or so before you're going to be onstage. The day of most performances I was in, I'd have a bagel (instead of bacon and eggs) for breakfast, a salad and a thing of yogurt (instead of pizza) for lunch, and a small dinner.
Take a couple of deep breaths and tell yourself you're pushing all the bad things out every time you exhale. It sounds weird but it works.
Hope things go well for you.
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I need to go out of town for like a week. Is it worse to give my plants tons and tons of water before I leave, just just give them the normal amount of water and let them wilt some when they run out and hope I can bring them back to life when I'm back? (link)
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You really don't want to over-water them. I'd just give them the normal amount of water. If you've got a friend who can water them for you, that'd be better.
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OK so here's what happened this weekend...
Friday; after work Jon came up to me and told me (with beautiful eloquence) that he fancied me.
Saturday; I went to meet him after work to talk to him.I was sufficiently confused that he guilt-tripped me into saying that I liked him back and getting his mobile no. etc.
Sunday; he asked me to meet him and we spent a couple of hours in town talking.
Monday;he asked me to meet him (again) and I said I had to much work to do.
Today; I will be seeing him and would like YOUR advice as to how to let him down.
He is a very sweet person but I don't like him enough to want to go out with him especially with the complication of working together.
HELP!
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I would tell him something like "Look, I think you're very sweet, but I've made it a policy not to date coworkers."
good luck. I hope it goes okay.
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I am a 29 year old married woman with three kids. I just found out that I am pregnant and my husband and I have agreed that I would have an abortion because we couldn't afford to have another child. We are already struggling to raise our three kids. I am so confused and depressed right now. I am scheduled to have my abortion next week though. If I continue with this pregnancy that means I would have to stop working and money is really tight right now. We are actually living pay check to pay check right now. The other side of me wanted to continue having this child. And it really hurts me so that I have to do this. My family and his family would be so dissappointed if they learned I'm preganant and I doubt that they would be willing to help. If you were in my shoes, would you do the same thing? Am I wrong in doing this? (link)
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I would suggest talking to your husband about this. I'd be torn about it too. If I were in your shoes, I hope I would consider the adoption possibility.
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My period is a few days later than usual...and no I know what you're thinking...Im a virgin so I'm NOT pregnant...I'm just nervous because Ive been sick and I don't know if that has to do with the fact that I am sick...or if its just normal because I'm kind of new to this....please help! (link)
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Being sick can, indeed, affect when your period starts. Stress can affect it too. And as a couple of people have pointed out, it isn't uncommon for things to be a little weird for a few months after you get your first period.
I'm sure you're fine. But I hope you feel better soon.
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