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What's the best way to be a bitch?
OK so here's what happened this weekend...
Friday; after work Jon came up to me and told me (with beautiful eloquence) that he fancied me.
Saturday; I went to meet him after work to talk to him.I was sufficiently confused that he guilt-tripped me into saying that I liked him back and getting his mobile no. etc.
Sunday; he asked me to meet him and we spent a couple of hours in town talking.
Monday;he asked me to meet him (again) and I said I had to much work to do.
Today; I will be seeing him and would like YOUR advice as to how to let him down.
He is a very sweet person but I don't like him enough to want to go out with him especially with the complication of working together.
HELP!
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Just say I DON'T like you, how hard is that?
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its hard telling someone you dont like them but really it cant go on take him to a place where not many people are and let him down nicly just tell him u just want to be friends
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say:look i like u as a friend but i only like u as a friend and i just cant go out with u im srry but i hpe this wont ruin our friendship or look i love u but im not in love with u i love u in the way a brother loves his sister and i cant go out with u maybe sometime in the future but as for right now i dont feel that way about u
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In this case, you have to be firm, tell him that you like him, but you dont LOVE him..you know what i mean? Tell him that he is sweet and a nice guy, but your not ready for a relationship or something..Dont be TOO hard on him, but make sure he gets the picture...
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dear HELP,
I think u should just tell him the truth!Just tell him that u dont think u should be dating him right now.but whatever u do dont use the it is not u it is me!GOOD LUCK
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Well first of all dont be a bicth to him. Just let him know your feelings. Tell him you'd rather be friends and that its hard with a work together relationship. That is if he asks you out. Dont go hard to get either guys like that.
-shay :-)
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tell him in your most sweetest and sorriest vioce "uh jon" "yes?" "well i am very sorry but i just dont like you the way you want me to but you are a good friend(if he is) and i want to still be"
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well that is pretty bad
i think that you could give him a chance and then if it doesn't work then let him down lightly.
1.don't talk
2.ignore
3.let him down
your welcome
jackie
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well u u should just say i dont want to data b-cuz i dont want to ruin our friendship
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Be casual when you are together. Ask if its ok with him if you guys just hang out and dont date. If he's such a sweet guy he'll probly be cool with it, although slightly hurt.
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" You know, Jon, I'm really flattered that you think enough of me to want to spend so much time with me. But, I really feel that it's going somewhere that I'm really not comfortable with. I do think a great deal of you, but I can't see this as going any further than a friendship and was wondering YOUR thoughts on the subject."
This does a few things:
1. Because of his unwillingness to look like a desperate fool, he'll agree with you. Letting you off of the hook.
2. It prevents you from being the "bitch" since, in essence, he AGREED with you ;)
3. It prevents him from trying to change your mind because he thinks it will make him look as if he's begging and he dare not risk that bit of information cascading through the workplace.
All in all, getting him to agree only serves to benefit BOTH of you...and diplomatically, of course.
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Do you want to be mean about it, or sweet about it??
Mean- U r the worst bf ever, I dont want to be urs anymore!
Sweet- Ur a great guy and everything, but I just dont feel us clicking, you know what I mean, Im not trying to be mean or anything, btu mabye we could just be friends, ,
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you did the right thing not seeing him again, he was getting to much false hope. Just tell him the truth, let him know he has lots of qualities you appreciate in a friend but that that is all you are interested in. Be truthful, he deserves that, as we all do. good luck
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1) Say: "I want, like, 10 kids. No, really."
2) Get a tampon. While you are talking to him (face to face, or course), play with it in your hands, throw it up in the air, ect.
3)Criticize every girl you see, talking about how great you are.
4) Start eating random objects.
Or, you could always tell him, "I know you really like me, and I think you are a great guy, but I don't think this is going to work out."
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I would tell him something like "Look, I think you're very sweet, but I've made it a policy not to date coworkers."
good luck. I hope it goes okay.
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If you're doing your best to let him down gently, I wouldn't call that bitchiness... if you consciously string him along for a few months and then shoot him down, that would qualify for bitchy-action recognition, avoiding that situation is a good thing.
Two principles:
i) gently... it doesn't sound like a :boot: :kerosene: :fire: kind of breakup!
ii) unmistakably, because people in general can be kind of clueless when it comes to relationshippy stuff.
These principles are of course easier to cite than to meet.
Something along the lines of "I don't think we were meant to be together" or "I think this is all weird with working together and all, we can still hang out a bit but I don't think we should be boyfriend and girlfriend" (only do this if you actually do feel like continuing to hang out a bit... unmistakably should trump gently in this case!) might be good. Don't expect that to be the end of it, but it may start things off on the right track to a nice clean-ish end to things.
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