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I wannabe what i feel like being!
I wanna be what i feel like being! But if people start rejecting me, my life will be horrible I wanna be a punk is that a bad choice? I already aske dmy mom she seems fine with it. .and well I want that change! but should I not do it, 4 my friends?
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be what u wanna be, not what others wanna see. do what u wanna do.. not what others want u 2! dont change for u friends.. if they r really your friends.. then they will like u just the way u r..
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Okay, maybe I shouldn't be answering this, since I am old and definitely not "cool" anymore. But on the other hand, I was punk in the early '80's when it really meant something, and I can tell you a few things about it:
If you have to ask your mom's permission to dress the way you want, if you hang out with people so superficial that they are going to reject you because they don't like your hair...then there's no point even trying to "be punk:" you just aren't. And if you try to be, then you're a poser and a fake, and people *are* going to make fun of you for it. Sorry, but punk is about more than your hair or your clothes. It's an attitude and an outlook on life, and if you're that worried what other people think about you then you don't have it.
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Definition of punk:
1. Of poor quality; worthless.
2. Weak in spirits or health.
3. A young person, especially a member of a rebellious counterculture group.
4. An inexperienced young man.
5. A young man who is the sexual partner of an older man.
6. Prostitute
7. An aggressive young criminal
Don't change to fit a specific image. You will never be satisfied. You will find youself asking yourself, "Is this shirt punk enough? Will the punk kids think i'm trying to hard?" And then when you come to the descision that it's not punk enough, you will throw it out, all because you thought some kids who entertain the punk culture wouldn't like it. Not because you didn't like it. Because you thought they wouldn't like it. Is that what you want to be? And another scenario is: You're friends think that you "going punk" is weird. They ditch you. The so-called punk kids at your school saw what crowd you hung out with before you became a "punk." The crowd that made fun of them for dressing punk before it became popular. Do you think they are going to accept you as "one of them?" I know I wouldn't. So really think about this. Is it worth sacrificing your life, dignity, mind, and whatever else for some trend that will be out of style in less than a year?
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Well, it's okay to be what you want to be, because if that is what you want, then do it; besides, at least punk is unique instead of that wiger/wanksta stuff!
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Well it depends..if it means that you will have to sacrifice your friends,your reputation and well, your life, then i wouldnt do it..But a true friend wouldn't care what you do, as long as you are still YOU..I say go for it..be who you wanna be..Dont let other people boss you around and tell you what you should or should not do..Plus..I know TONS of people at my school that are punks, my friend is a skateboard punk, but she is still funny, nice and a great friend..Go for it, and if it doesnt work out, then you can always try to be something else!
And a bit of advice..Step onto this new style gradually not just like that..ya know?
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U SHOULD NOT DO NANYTHING LIKE THAT 4 ANYBODY BUT U!if u want 2 be a punk go 4 it
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well if u r doing it for your friends dont do it but if it is for u yourself and u really want to do it then i would
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be what u wanna be and if porpl start rejecting u 4 it then u r better off without those people trust me follow ur heart and u can never go wrong
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Well, if you stifle the urge to explore what it is you think you want, you'll only end up bitter and resentful. And if I'm not mistaken, that's not the type of friend anyone would want to have.
So go ahead. Hell, talk it over with your friends, first. You MAY find that they probably care less about it than you think they do and will offer more support than you ever imagined.
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First of all, be what you want to be. That much is obvious. If your friends would reject you for making a change, they're not worth a moment of your time.
HOWEVER, I must add a serious caveat: don't feel that you *need* to be "punk" or anything else that can be labeled so neatly. Make changes if you want to, but a dramatic overhaul to fit into a specific box that society has made will only leave you unhappy in the end, regardless of how the people around you react.
Be yourself. And good luck with it.
~Kei
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Be what you feel like being, then: or better yet, let your dress, etc. reflect what you are. Punk dress reflects punk attitudes, history, music, politics, needs, etc. Your dress should reflect your all-of-the-above.
There's no shame in borrowing from punk, or even aligning yourself with the punk way of seeing things, but life is a bit nicer if the symbols you wear go with the things you believe in... so do your research, do some thinking about what you want to say with your style, and act on it.
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You should always be who you feel you are.If people object to that then you probably won't miss them all that much.
Conformity is boring. The so-called 'coolest' people I know tend not to confrom in some way or other.
One piece of advice though- don't change completely overnight, take a more gradual approach.
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Be yourself. You don't have to fit yourself into the box of "punk" or any of the other labels, if the punk style is what you like then do it, addapt it and make it your own. Don't worry about what other people think, I did that my whole life then woke up one morning realizing I has wasted 25 years not really living. Your all you have in this world, don't let you down (as corny as that sounds)
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Ask yourself this: why do you think you need to be "punk"? Are you even aware of what the whole punk movement is about? It isn't a fashion statement. It was a socio-political statement, born out of a movement in the music scene. It was a lifestyle. And it occurred in the late 1970s.
"Change" if you must, but image is bullshit.
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Personally, if you feel that that is what you want to do, and your parents have no violent objections, then go ahead!
I know that losing your friends might seem something hard to bear, but remember that not all friends are worth keeping. Just because you are turning punk doesnt mean that you'll forever lose your true personality right? If your friends are truly friends, then, they would understand.
If they don't, then they aren't friends to begin with. just remember that. I've realised over the years, that being honest and true to ones self is more important than anything. In fact I'd say that it's vital in any strong relationship. If you can't be honest with yourself, then, how can you expect yourself to be honest with anyone else?
If you want to do it, don't do it because of your friends, do it because you want it.
If you have any other troubling problems, feel free to email me at teri_advice@hotmail.com I'd like to have your thoughts about this situation.
Good luck,
Actualtruths
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If you want to make a change, and your READY for a change, I say go for it. But when it comes to your friends...I think they are worried that by the way you dress might change who you are and your personality. They way you dress can change your attitude. Also the way you dress, people might get a different perspective and may not treat you the same or how you want them to treat you. As I said before if you WANT to make a change and your READY for the change then, go for it. Just don't change who you are, because if you do change who you are, you may have to start over on who you were or want to be.
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It is sad that we live in a judgemantal world, but Im sure nobody will reject you. It just that us humans are so afraid of what other people think. Like today a friend of mine had to wear her running shoes all day because her other ones were dirty. She was afraid someone would make fun of her, but nobody did because nobody cared. She was the only one that did. So what my point is you shouldnt care what they think even though they may not even think about it. So go for it!
-shay :-)
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