Member Since: December 10, 2003
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I'm not worried. . . I don't care what my friends think. If they could accept me then, they should be able to accept me now! I don't even think they are realy my friends. . I mean sure they sit with me at lunch, but in class they never really talk to me. . One of my friends talks to me all the time though. I moved so all my old friends are in different schools. My mom doesnt care, I asked her she said why not you didn't have to ask me! Also if people could talk to me and hang with me then, why can't they now? Im the same person just because I chnaged the type of clothes and a little bit of how I act towards things?? When you become punk you dont change you, you just chnage ur whole lifestyle. . Like you reborned and your a whole new person, but you still do the same things you sued to do! This may seem like im answering my own question, and that Im not even asking you a question. . but I just wanted to let you know. . I will never be a poser! Posers are people who have know clue what they really are, they do what everyone else wants, they try to be the ebst, they try to be things that they cant and they dont even want to be what they are trying to be, so they are always confused!
PEACE:::::::::\m/:::::::::PEACE
BrItTaNy *Im not a wanna be, im what I wanna be* (link)
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I don't know you, so I can't ultimately tell you whether the punk scene is really for you. But I do know that when you look "different," people are going to target you for abuse---when I had a mohawk, I regularly had people I didn't even know shouting stuff at me, calling me names and insulting me, even spitting on me. And if you don't have an in-your-face punk attitude already, and are worried about what everyone thinks and that people aren't going to like you any more, it is going to be very hard for you to deal with that. Because there *are* people who won't like you if you are a punk. It's dumb and it's not fair, but it's the way it is.
Good luck whatever you decide.
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okay so me and my boyfriend just met a month ago and we're already having sex. I really enjoy it but i think it s too soon! what should I do?
Love,
Horny Baby (link)
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If you think it's too soon, then it may be for you. There is no set period of time you have to know someone before you have sex; it is entirely what you are comfortable with and ready for. What you need to do is tell *him* how you feel, not us.
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I wanna be what i feel like being! But if people start rejecting me, my life will be horrible I wanna be a punk is that a bad choice? I already aske dmy mom she seems fine with it. .and well I want that change! but should I not do it, 4 my friends? (link)
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Okay, maybe I shouldn't be answering this, since I am old and definitely not "cool" anymore. But on the other hand, I was punk in the early '80's when it really meant something, and I can tell you a few things about it:
If you have to ask your mom's permission to dress the way you want, if you hang out with people so superficial that they are going to reject you because they don't like your hair...then there's no point even trying to "be punk:" you just aren't. And if you try to be, then you're a poser and a fake, and people *are* going to make fun of you for it. Sorry, but punk is about more than your hair or your clothes. It's an attitude and an outlook on life, and if you're that worried what other people think about you then you don't have it.
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I am a 29 year old married woman with three kids. I just found out that I am pregnant and my husband and I have agreed that I would have an abortion because we couldn't afford to have another child. We are already struggling to raise our three kids. I am so confused and depressed right now. I am scheduled to have my abortion next week though. If I continue with this pregnancy that means I would have to stop working and money is really tight right now. We are actually living pay check to pay check right now. The other side of me wanted to continue having this child. And it really hurts me so that I have to do this. My family and his family would be so dissappointed if they learned I'm preganant and I doubt that they would be willing to help. If you were in my shoes, would you do the same thing? Am I wrong in doing this? (link)
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You are 29 years old, and that's a little too old to be expecting pat answers from strangers about something this important. Having an abortion is a painful experience. I am strongly pro-choice, but I can still cry about an abortion that I had almost twenty years ago and wonder if I did the right thing (I think I did---but that doesn't make it hurt any less). As I am sure you know, this is a very loaded issue, and I don't think you can count on other people to give you good advice, simply because they are going to give you answers that reflect their own belief systems, and not what is best for you and your family. Only you can decide whether you can emotionally handle an abortion or adoption, and weigh the pain of the loss of a child against the hardship that an extra child will impose on your family. You are going to have to live with this decision for a long time, one way or the other, so don't let anyone pressure you (including your husband)! And once you get through this...I encourage you to talk to your doctor about finding a more reliable method of contraception---you don't want to have to go through this again!
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