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Can I tell them they're rude?
Is it rude to tell someone what they are doing is extremely rude/disgusting? For example, a friend of mine chews with her mouth open, should I tell her it drives me crazy or just let her continue?
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This has happened to me before. My best pal always tells me, "I'll only be mad at you if I'm doing something weird or have something hanging out of my nose or between my teeth (you get the picture) and you don't tell me." She'll feel worse if you don't point it out because they don't always realize they're doing it. Mind, don't blurt it in front of her crush, but just say it while you're alone and be NICE. Say, 'Maybe you don't realize it, but sometimes you chew with your mouth open...I don't want to hurt your feelings, but I'd really like it if you'd try not to." It's better for you to point it out gently than for some creep to turn it into a schoolwide joke.
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if it bothers you tell her, nothing will change unless you say something
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you can just ask her politely to please close her mouth. if you guys are good enough friends, i dont think she'd get too offended
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Next time yu catch her doing it say, "Just so you know that guy was totally checking you out until you started chewing with your mouth open."
That should take care of that.
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Just tell her nicely that it bothers you. Say something like, "I don't know if you even notice it, but you sometimes chew with your mouth open, and I don't really like it. Could you please be more careful about not doing that?"
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Point it out to her when you too are alone and BE KIND. Say something like "Is your nose stuffed up?" And explain it to her PRIVATELY. Maybe it will make her more self-aware
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I would tell her..but be nice about it. If she's not a really good friend then just don't eat with her but if it's like your best friend laugh when you tell her.
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haha i tell my friend megan all the time .. cept now she does it so much im so mean when i say it cuz i continuesly say it! the 1st few times i asked megan.. please keep your mouth shut.. if it disturbs you.. you have the right to tell her to stop because she isnt the only one eating now is she? xoxo trix
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You would be doing your friend a favor to tell them. There is NO DOUBT that you aren't the only one that finds it annoying.
Just do it in a polite manner. We all appreciate advice that is given to us in a tone of "I am telling you this because I care about you and I don't think you realize how unattractive that is."
Then go slap her parents for not telling her that when she was five years old!
Vic
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No, I don't see anything wrong with telling her that it's against ALL RULES OF SOCIAL ETIQUETTE to do so. Hell, if you think it'll help, let her read this. Oh, but no, it's not considered rude to advise her of her ill-manneredness. By the way, did you know it is rude to ask a woman what type of perfume she's wearing? I only say that because alot of people don't.
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Definitely tell her, but you might find that she doesn't care.
I told a friend that it bothered me, and she said, well, tough, this is how I eat. I think she later realized that it is a nasty habit, but a very hard one to break.
Please be tactful. DO NOT stand up in the lunchroom (or wherever) and shout you're disgusting, chew with your mouth closed, stupid.
Take her aside and tell her as a friend. She'll appreciate it eventually.
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yeah, you really should tell her. maybe she doesnt even know she's doing it, you never know. you dont want her to embarass herself, she's your friend. you'd be helping her out. unfortunately, i have no tact, so i cant help you out on HOW to tell her. me, i'd just say "can you stop chewing with your mouth open, youre getting food all over my face!" dont be like me.
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i say tell her, nicely. Say something like "um, when people chew with their mouth open it makes me nuts" or something. in general i think it's fine to tell someone what their doing is disgusting/rude...but make sure u do it nicely and you dont do it where it could embarrass her.
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If it's a friend, I think it's your responsibility to tell her she's being rude. Better you than someone she's at a job interview with someday, right? Be honest, even if she's mad at you at first (which she shouldn't be), she won't be later.
If it's someone you're just having one meal with you might hold back. But if it's someone you know, you not only can say something, you must.
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