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My mom..
My mom was an alcoholic, everyday she would drink. DUring christmas even more, just because she hated using all of her money and was afraid we'd be moneyless after christmas. On 12/23 I came home from school, all happy because it was the last day and now I have a 2 week vacation, and I came home to my mom being drunker then hell! I was sick of it and I went upstairs because I didn't want to talk to her. About 2 hours later my dad got home and yelled me from upstairs ( I was sleeping ) .. he said that we had to go to the hospital because my mother had passed out.. she had overdosed on anti-depression pills and was drinking ALOT of alcohol at the same time. when we got to the hospital we waited about 30 minutes and they came out and told me my mom was dead. I can't stop thinking that this is all my fault, like if I would've stayed downstairs maybe I would've stopped her from OD. I've been to a psychiatrist about this, but nothing seems to be working. What should I do?? Thanks for any help in advance! (sorry its so long)
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It's really really not your fault... at all! How could it be? It's not like you said, "Mom, get as drunk as you can so we can take you to the hospital." I still can't believe that happened. I'm so sorry. My grandma drinks... A LOT! And it really scares me. Even if I tell her to stop, she won't. It scares me that she might pass out and die but I've tried and I can;t say I haven't. She's an old woman and right now, drinking is bad for her system. My point is there is nothing you could have done about, sweetie. Nothing. If you told her to stop and she didn't, then you can't say you haven't tried. Because, sweetie, you've tried your best. If your mom was willing to give up her drinking for you, that's great but obviously she didn't knowing that you wanted her to. Hun, nothing you can say can stop her from drinking because no matter what, she would still be drinking if she was alive. It's not your fault at all. You tried and you loved her and you cared and that's what you need to tell yourself. O.K? Be strong. Fight. Don't hold back. Best of luck hun.
~~~Kayla~~~
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Oh my god, I am sooooooooo sorry. Your mom should have checked herself into a rehab =/ And this is NOT your fault. I know you're thinking "what if what if" but this isn't your fault sweetie. And look on the bright side, your mom is watching over you and she is watching out for you and she is looking at what a wonderful daughter you are. Just don't think this is your fault. Your mom is not with you physically but she is there for you mentally and spiritually.
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Hey babe im so sorry about what happened but dont blame yourself. I know how you feel my dad is an alcoholic and my dad almost died twice. Now my dad doesnt live with me because my mom cant deal with it but please dont blame yourself. If you went downstaris you could of got hurt because alcohol can do a lot of damage to a person and to another person. I worry about my dad all the time. I live in Florida and He lives in Atlanta. You could talk to your friends about it ( your really close friends) or somebody that you really trust. I hope everythin goes well for you and dont ever think its was your fault and you should not blame yourself. My dad was the same way he would buy a 10 pack on saturday and drink it all and then go out and buy another pack. So dont take it to hard you might miss her but you wont miss her drinking i promise. Well I hope i did everything i could. You can IM me at hotlilbit131. Take care luv ya.
oxoxox,
Cheyenne
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WOW honey don't blame yourself it soo wasn't your fault! You can't stop any alcoholic from drinking and if you wouldnt have gone upstairs, she could have hurt you too. Aww you can ask me any questions you want sweetie ... IM to talk HuGznKiSSeS7074 luv you hope it helped xoxo
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Hey hun,its not your fault!It's hers she shouldn't have been drinking.Don't take this out on yourself. Do you really think she would have listened to you if you told her to stop?Trust me babes,its not your fault!!!Feel free 2 ask me anymore questions!XoXo Nicole~! i hope i helped!
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I am really sorry to hear about this.Dont blame yourself it was your fault. She had a sickness, it was good that you stayed away. You could have been in danger. I hope you feel better soon.
Hope I helped,
MonkeyPunk22
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Hun i am soo sorry about your mom... but dont blame your self for this at all... I dont no what it is like to have my mother die (thank god) but you couldnt help it. Your mother had some problems and she was taking the anti-depressants but hun you couldnt stop this. If you did stay downstairs yes maybe she wouldnt have died that day but i'm sure she would have just od some other time... dont blame you self for it at all. Its ok to miss her. and i kno you do i would too. but i am sure she wouldnt want you to blame your self for this.
I hope everything gets better for you.
If you ever need to talk to anyone you can im me at xojaymilynnexo...or email me at lildevilchic35@yahoo.com
Much love...xox...
Jaymi Lynne
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Oh my gosh! First off, I just want to say how sorry I am about that. It must be tough to lose your mother. But honestly, there is nothing you could have done. This is not your fault because who chose to drink? Who chose to take the pills? Your mother did. So none of that is your fault. Did you ever put a gun to her head, or a knife to her throat and tell her to do it? If no, then hunnie, this is not your fault. Please don't worry. There is no solution to this. I suggest you stay in the counseling and maybe things will get better. I'm sorry I couldn't help much. I hope things get better for you, and again, I'm really sorry about your loss.
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Tina
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Hi.
Sorry 'bout your mom. Listen, it's not your fault that your mom died. So don't blame your self about it. Time will soon pass by and your mom will be in memmories.
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awwwwwwwwwww im so sry that must be really hard on you but you have to remember that none of this was your fault and that your mom did have some what of a problem you couldent have stoped her she would have had to go to alot of drs to get every thing right with her i hope when reading this and some of the other advice given that you will relise that you could have done nothing.If you still feel like a little part in you is being blamed for this then im me or just talk to me on my column thing and i will be more then happy to lision to you and respond back
-*Tori
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It truly isn't your fault, because yuor mom obviously wasn't happy with her life, and shes in a better place now, happier, but missing her family. She did this to herself for a reason, and I don't blame you for not wanting to talk to a drunken person. It will be hard moving on, but now that you've experienced this kinda thing in your life, join the millions who are out there to prevent it=)Best Wishes
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None of this was your fault..im so sorry what happened but you couldnt do anythign to prevent it! I like to think that everything happens for a reason..so this was meant to be. Eeven if you were down there and she didnt do it this time..i think it would happen eventually. Your mom did this purposely..its not like it was an accident. Please dont blame yourself..theres nothing you could've done..it was your mothers problem
-melissa
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Honey,
I want you to take a deep breath and say "None of this is my fault." I want you to believe this. Your mother sounded like an extremely depressed woman and no matter where you were, she would have the same fate. You definitely should speak to someone to sort out your feelings and try to work on them. I am very sorry this occured, but you can work through this. Maybe they can put you temporarily on some anti-depressants for the time being (e.g zoloft...prozac...effexor) Please talk to me or write me back any time you need any help.
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its not your fault! dont ever think that the death of your mom was your fault, you didn't know that she od'ed on anti depressants, but you knew that she was drinking (like usual) so it wasn't a big deal to you until your dad came home, but this isn't your fault, dont think it is. the only person that could have stopped it was your mom. im sorry hun. x0 Renee
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its not your falt that she died...you dont like to she her drunk and you thought she was so you went up stairs..i can understand that you think it is your falt but it isnt..but i think the best thing to do is be with your dad since this is a tough time to go through..sorry i couldnt help more
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Wow Im really sorry about your mom. But no this is not your fault at all!!! She drank every other day and just because you were home doesnt mean you could have stopped her; it was her fault for doing that. She overdossed her self. Sure if u would have stayed down stairs you might have got her to the hospital quicker but she still probably would have been dead. Just relize that you couldnt do anything theres really nothen you could have done!! Sorry..hope i helped
x3 spiCy xo hoTt
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