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Question Posted Saturday October 23 2004, 12:35 pm

I am 14 and my boyfriend is 18 but we are madly in love ...so we had sex about a month ago and i havnt had my period....we were also protected with a comdom but you know they are only 85 % protective...so i have been looking online about signs of pregnacny and i seem to have none of the signs except of a late period...i told my boyfriend about it and he said to wait till the end of october and see if you get your period..so im gonna wait and then take a pregancy test....but theres a 50 50 chance i might be and if i am...im not shure wut to ..is there any way i can get by this with out my parents knowing ?? is there any way i can kill the baby before its nooticeable...?? ...can i i have an abortion with havniing my parents know and can i have it before it get noticeable? or is there any pill i can take that can kill ??...i know its wrong but i dont know wut to do so plz tell me...thanks!!
~*shadysladys001*~


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TheQueen answered Sunday November 28 2004, 6:39 pm:
now is end of nov so are you pregnet?

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xplayb0ycutiexx answered Tuesday November 16 2004, 1:44 pm:
Take a pregnancy test NOW!!! Take about 4 of them.. just to make sure the answer is correct.. and if you are pregnant.. there is no way u can get by without telling your parents.. do not even THINK about killing a baby.. u had sex.. its YOUR fault if you get pregnant.. If you are pregnant PLEASE PLEASE keep the baby or give it up for adoption please.. you did it.. so please be responsible and do the RIGHT thing.. don't murder the baby! its not their fault.. u created it..

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truadvice answered Sunday October 31 2004, 4:37 pm:
first of all take a pregnacy test asap and dont make yourself sick , second of all you must tell your parents if your pregnate and you , your boyfriend and them can decide if you want to keep the baby of not . third of all if you are pregnate and try to " get rid of "' the baby yourself you can be brought to jail for the murder of a fetus . lastly if you are pregnate your boyfriend may be charged with statitory rape because you are underage . please make the right desiction and tell your parents !!!

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HaPpYdUcK8989 answered Saturday October 30 2004, 12:50 am:
For one, Abortion is horrible. You didn't even say "abortion"! You flat out said "Kill the baby" which is so mean! And for two it is illegal to get pregnant in the US and have an abortion without informing your parents unless you are under the age of 18. So no. I'm sorry.

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kissablefunk answered Sunday October 24 2004, 1:43 pm:
u can get an abortion without ur parents nowing, but i think that because u are only 14 yrs old u should tell ur parents, or ur mom at least...i hope it works out for u
michelle

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SweetBabi answered Sunday October 24 2004, 1:12 pm:
well shadysladys001 your only 14 so i think yew should tell yur parents insteada keeping it frum them and have tha baby... and yes yew can have an abortion but i reallie dont recommend it.. either way yur parents are bound to find out so just have tha baby hope i helped !sweetbabi!

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briitneyx0 answered Saturday October 23 2004, 10:51 pm:
hey whatever you do don't kill the child, i highly doubt your pregnent but if you are just don't kill it, that's wrong! have it and if you seriously know you can't take care of it give it up? just DONT kill it!<3

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xostripped answered Saturday October 23 2004, 8:26 pm:
Girl, if you were old enough to have sex...you are old enough to accept the responsibilities of what you did. Don't you think that it's wrong to MURDER some living creature that could be inside you? Just because you were irresponsible. You should think about the consequences of things before you do them.

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rosie answered Saturday October 23 2004, 4:16 pm:
hey omg why would u even think of killing your own child i kno its not for sure yet but if u are ask the dad if he will take it but u have to tell your parents they need to kno well good luck but just dont kill it!!

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HeyErica answered Saturday October 23 2004, 4:01 pm:
OK dont worry 4 now!! even though u shouldnt be having sex its okay!! But i mean i dont think u should kill the child!! Dont let ur parents no unless your 4 sure that your pregnant!! Well i guess u could say ur bf is taking this really well because he hasnt dumped u or nothing!! But if you are going to have a baby please be responsible!!!~*~ :)- be happy dont stress over it

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xokaylanicoleox answered Saturday October 23 2004, 3:31 pm:
Yeah, well that happened to my friend too and she thought she was pregnant and she was freaking out! And another girl, I know, that happened to also, and she also thought she was pregnant and she told the guy and they were going to kill it .. either punch her in the stomach, or throw her down stairs, or something, but you know what? You are WAY too young to have a kid and I know that it's wrong to have an abortion, but at your as I don't think there's any other way without having it, if you are pregnant! Hope I helped! -Kayla

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Laura answered Saturday October 23 2004, 2:55 pm:
Sure, why not kill it? It's just a fetus, it's not a living breathing thing, hell, it won't feel a thing.

Oh, that's right. YEAH IT WILL. Just because you screwed up you're going to kill the consequences? God. I know SO many people in your same situation that had the baby and eventually got married to the father. If you don't want to keep the baby, adopt it out. Let someone else who wants the baby have it. Just because you screw up doesn't mean the baby has to suffer.

Now, I'll try to actually help. You can't take a 72 hour pill because it's been more than 72 hours. You can't have an abortion without your parents knowing because they have to sign papers.

~Laura~

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MaxwellsSilverHammer answered Saturday October 23 2004, 2:17 pm:
Listen people, we're not here to give her a fucking lecture on the morals of abortion.

"...can i i have an abortion with havniing my parents know and can i have it before it get noticeable? "

Yes, you absolutely can. Contact an abortion clinic for more information. Don't tell them that you had sex with an 18 year old man because that is statuatory/sagatory (same thing, I think) rape, which can get him arrested.

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mantika answered Saturday October 23 2004, 1:54 pm:
Do Not, I repeat Do Not throw yourself down the stairs. You could break your neck and die or paralyze yourself. My friends mom fell down the stairs when she was pregnant with my friends sister. My friends mom did not lose the baby, but instead the baby was born with brain damage. My friends sister looks normal in all ways, but is mentally challenged. Wait until the end of the month, if you still haven't got your period, then take a pregnancy test. If you are pregnant, tell your folks. You are more afraid of what your folks will say than you are of getting an abortion and risking possible side affects from the abortion, plus killing an unborn child. Your parents will understand more than you think, with your parents support, you can carry the baby full term and put it up for adoption. I am a mom and if my daughter got pregnant I would support her.

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MissEmmyBoo answered Saturday October 23 2004, 1:45 pm:
-I personally don't believe in abortions-
But, I really don't think you can have one without your parents finding out[it depends on where you live]. Or unless you do something illegal! But if anyone does find out your boyfriend will get in a lot of trouble so this is a really hard situation to get around since no matter what happens- it's gonna be bad. :/
*I wish you the best of luck and I'll keep you in my prayers*
-Miss Emster-

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Siren_Cytherea answered Saturday October 23 2004, 1:07 pm:
Oh my. You know, stress can cause a late period. How late is it? If you're panicking about it, that can make it late. I had a late period after the first time I had sex, because I was kind of panicked about it. (I wasn't on the pill at that point.) I'd probably wait 'til the end of october.
Unfortunately, there is no way for you to get an abortion without a parent's or guardian's consent. Whatever you do, DO NOT try to give yourself an abortion. It's really, really dangerous. If you are, in fact, pregnant, you need to tell whichever parent you trust most, or maybe even one of your relatives. You can't handle the whole pregnancy thing alone.
As far as the whole no signs of pregnancy, watch for morning sickness. That comes when you're six weeks pregnant, I believe.
You might not be pregnant. If you're not on the pill, your periods probably won't be regular anyway. I mean, before I went on the pill, my periods always came every other time 23 days, and 31 days. So don't panic. Your periods will be irregular for a damn long time, lol.
I hope this helps!
-Siren =)

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misunderstood64 answered Saturday October 23 2004, 12:59 pm:
Since when did murder become Okay in this world? that just makes me so mad. Don't kill you're baby, it's not right. I know it's hard but if ur screwing around with ur b/f whether you want to hear this or not a baby is a consequence. Are you gonna to kill every baby you make when u have sex? I'm not trying to be mean or harsh here but killing your baby will haunt u the rest of your life. I know b/c my mom had an abortion. She cries sometimes over it and is still greiving after 29 years...yea. Maybe you're not pregnant if you're not be careful! Don't get urself in this situation again. If you are brave it out live up to what u did. If you want to kill the baby go ahead but I suggest not. Good luck, I really hope u think this out carefully. If you have anymore questions drop one in my inbox.

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piink_x0_shad0w answered Saturday October 23 2004, 12:58 pm:
WHATEVER YOU DO DONT HAVE AN ABORTION!!! Thats the most horrible thing you could possibly think of and that shouldnt have even crossed your mind! You and your boyfrend should take responisibilty for what you did. You should either put it up for adoption or keep it, but dont kill an innocent life. You should of thought before going off and having sex with your boyfrend if you werent ready for the consequences. You should of thought first. But all i can say is take resposiblity for what YOU did. Good luck!

love,
Fatiima

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hyperaimee92 answered Saturday October 23 2004, 12:58 pm:
go to the doctor...call and tell him/her that its confidential..they'll understand..but u shouldnt kill the baby...but if thats how u feel then im pretty sure ur doctor can prescript a pill or something....hope i helped!!*-x-*Aimee*-x-*

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elizabeth111111 answered Saturday October 23 2004, 12:55 pm:
well if you are pregnant and you want an abortion you have to get your parents to sign papers, you cant just be 14 and walk in. you might not be getting your period cuz your nervous and thinking about it so much, that happens a lot. but no if it is positive you have to have your parents, soo they'll know. good lucks

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Irishchick24 answered Saturday October 23 2004, 12:52 pm:
DO NOT HAVE AN ABORTION! The baby didn't do anything at all for you to go and kill it before giving it a chance to live its life! Have the baby and give it up for adoption..I know it's not what you want to do but you shouldn't kill the baby.

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WoWsErS123 answered Saturday October 23 2004, 12:47 pm:
All i got to say is DONT KILL THE BABY! its not the babys fault! if you are pregnant then have the baby and give it up for adoption rather then kill it!

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xoxobabygirl answered Saturday October 23 2004, 12:46 pm:
wow they isnt really any signs to there.. but if you r throwing ^ that kinda means yeah ur pregnacny well just take da test like end of da month if you are.. and how long u been with ur boy? ok good luck love, ShOrTy.

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