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16/f
I like two guys. They both know I like them. They've both said they like me.
They are good friends.
They live a few hours away from me, and I am going to meet up with them soon.
How do I play this one?! I don't want to cause any rivalry between them, and I don't want to hurt either of their feelings.
But at the same time, if it looks like something could work out with one of them, I don't want to miss the chance, because its very rare that I'd get to see them! Any ideas? (link)
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If you truly do not want to hurt anyones feelings then don't! You do not want to be the girl who causes a problem between friends. There are so many ways that can backfire on you! To handle this situation maturely, I think you have to think of what is the most beneficial outcome for all parties involved-not just you. If you actually care about both of these guys, and you know that choosing one will hurt the other, then you just don't choose. Just remain friends with the both of them and find a guy closer to home to spend time with.
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I asked earlier about my ingrown toenails. Another question I have is if I have it on both feet will the dr take out both at the same time or do you think they will take out only the one that is worse? (link)
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I had the same problem several years ago on both big toes. The doc took them both at the same time and I had to hobble around with ugly post surgical shoes and spent a week on crutches! It was worth it though, I haven't had ingrown toenails in over 2 years!
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OK, my question is simply this: How do you get a guy outta your head? Now, believe it or not, I am 30 years old! I have a huge crush on this guy that I possibly can't have, but, he is all I think about constantly. How do ya just get over it & stop liking someone? Thanks. (link)
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Do what I do: BUY SHOES!!! Seriously, what makes this guy unobtainable? Do you feel he's out of your league? Is he married? If he's single, go for it! What do you have to lose? The absolute worst thing that could happen would be that you discover that he doesn't feel the same way you do. If he doesn't, then you'll know that you have no choice but to move on. You cannot make someone like/love you, so don't get into jumping through hoops to get his attention. Just be straightforward and HONEST, HONEST, HONEST!!! I cannot stress how imprtant honesty is. You don't have to gush over him like a 12 year old school girl, just let him know you'd like to take soe time to get to know him better. If he's like most men I know, he'll be flattered and probably be willing to give it a shot.
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okay this is kind of complicated but here it goes, i was talking to this guy online for awhile. me being 17, and him telling me he was 18. my feelings for him were becoming strong, and we decided to meet up. when we did, he wasn't the person he told me he was. he was actually 36 years old!! and told me that he also had 2 kids!! but that their mother was out of the picture. putting the age difference aside... even though he had lied to me about a lot of things, i had already fallen for him, and forgave him. we haven't been seeing each other anymore, but still talk, and had planned on getting together when i turned 18. PLEASE DON'T JUDGE THIS DECISION. that's not what i'm here for. when i found out he had a 14 year old daughter, i searched for her on myspace and found her. i requested her as a friend, and after looking at her page a few times found out that she has a STEP MOM and a STEP BROTHER that also live with them! i was so heartbroken. i still haven't told him that i found out because i don't want him to know i was "snooping", even though i think that is something i deserve to know. so now, a normal person would probably be thinking "how can i get rid of this freak?!" but i am so in love with him that all i'm thinking is "i hope he chooses me and gets rid of his wife in may!!" i know i should stop talking to him, but its soo hard. i fell in love with him before i knew about all the lies and now it's just too hard to walk away. what should i do??? (link)
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How can you possibly be in love with someone if you don't know who they really are?!? This is really simple-every single thing this guy has ever told you is a LIE, so you know he's not trust worthy. He's willing to jeopardize his family for a fling with a 17 year old girl, so you know he's selfish and irresponsible. And, he's almost old enough to be your father! Why would anybody want to be involved with someone like this? This guy is after one thing and he's playing a game with you because you're young and naive. I'm sorry if it sounds harsh, but it sounds like you need a serious reality check here: If someone loves you, they tell you the truth! What you're in love with is the idea of someone who will "give up everything" to be with you. This is the real world honey, that rarely happens. There is a huge difference between real love and this fantasy life you want with this guy. True love is about honesty, loyalty, and responsibility Wise up! Stay away from this, date guys your own age and enjoy your youth. You're only young once and you don't want to waste it on this clown who obviously has some serious issues.
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I met this guy a few months ago and straight away we knew we were going to be really close mates. A month or two later he told me he loved me and that he knew he had a girlfriend and he loved her but he couldn't help loving me as well. Things happened anyway and a while later him and his girlfriend hit a rough patch and mutually split up (her idea) Anyway, he asked me out and we had an amazing few weeks, but after a long talk i realised he still loved her and told him i wanted him to be happy even if that meant losing him to her again. He is back with her now and we are still very close mates. .. But he is the only guy for me...I really think i am actually in love with him, but i want him to be happy! thats all i care about!
Please help me!
Lovesick Rock-chick
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You've just given this guy permission to treat you as a doormat. As long as he knows you will be there waiting in the wings, he'll come in and out of your life as he pleases. If you're giving him 100%, why are you willing to accept just 50% from him? Sounds like a serious self esteem issue. Don't you feel like you're good enough and deserving of a man to love you and only you? You should. I say let him go! How great a guy can he be if he's cheated on his girlfriend with you?
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16/f
okay so theres this girl kayla and me and her are best friends right? well weve always been close with this other girl tiff, but now we've been getting closer with her and i dont know..it doesnt feel like me and kayla are as close anymore... it feels like they dont want to hang out with me as much.. (but maybe thats in my head? and maybe im the one with the problem idk...) but what are some things to .."put a spark back into the friendship?"
anything helps.
thanks. (link)
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Talking is always good! Tell Kayla how you really feel. There is nothing to be embarassed about, because she's a good friend, right? Just tell her how much your friendship means to you. Maintaining ANY relationship (friends, family, boyfriends) takes a lot of work and communication is key. If she's a true friend, she will take your feelings into consideration and work with to make sure you remain friends.
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im super flat,its not even funny. how do you get bigger boobs, without getting plastic surgery and such. is there anything natural you can do?
and please don't say i should just accept myself, and live with it. (link)
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Outside of wearing heavily padded bras, there is nothing you can do to increase the size of your breasts. That is based totally on genetics. Unless you come from a chesty family, chances are you will not ever have large breasts naturally. You can do exercises to increase the size of your pecs, but that will give you a more masculine appearance. If you're not interested in plastic surgery, perhaps you should just be satisfied with the way God made you.
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15/f
i have this friend that i admire. she always makes me laugh and shes just amazing and shes always been there for me. ever since this school year started she made so many new friends, and i kinda got jealous so i didnt really pay attention to her because i wanted to see if she would do anything. she still acts really nice to me when the few times i actually do see her. im just kinda sad cause i dont see her as much as i used to and im afraid of being replaced by someone else. am i doing the right thing by not paying attention to her? if not what should i do? (link)
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Very simple solution: Talk to her. If she's truly your friend, she'll understand where you're coming from. Just tell her you understand she has new friends, but you miss your relationship. If she's "amazing" she will certainly take your feelings into consideration. If not, then find other friends who care about you as much as you do them. You sound like a sweet girl, you deserve it.
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long story short i use chewing tobacco and my gums are receeding and i need to find a product to help cure this. does anyone know of a product i could buy from likea cvs or walgreens or sumthing like that, also is there anything else i can to to help my gums grow back (link)
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The crappy thing about using tobacco is that once yo ulose something to it, you never get it back. Your gums will not groe back, but if you stop now, you can prevent further damage from occuring. Also, take better care of your gums and teeth. See a dentist or peridontist regulary and be sure to brush and floss daily.
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when guys say how big their penis is do they say how big it is with or without an erection? (link)
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It's usually an imaginary measurment anyways, so I'm not sure which one they're dreaming of! I'm 32 years old and my experience, any gut who has to go around talking about what he's packing usually isn't packing that much!
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i want my hair to grow faster how can i make this happen?
any ways would help..besides-dont say wait,vitamins,or get trimmed. i know all these (link)
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Unfortunately, there is nothing you can do to make your hair grow faster. The rate at which your hair grows is all about genetics. If you come from a hairy family, then you should be fine! If not, the best you can do is to make sure your hair is as healthy as possible. Vitamins are a good start. Try an herb called Horsetail-you can buy it at a health food store It's great for hair, nails & skin. You have to take it for several months before you see the effect, but it's worth it. Also, drink plenty of water. Staying hydrated is good for you and your hair.
I know you don't want to hear this, but you really should have your hair trimmed regularly to keep it healthy. Split ends are your worst enemy. You may also want to avoid any chemical processing of your hair (perms, coloring) ad this brakes the hair down and makes it more prone to breakage.
Someone else suggested brushing-bad idea! You should actually brush your hair as little as possible. Especially when it's wet.
Hope this helps!
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Is it normal for a 12.5 year old in 7th grade that is 5'0 to weigh 104 pounds? P.S. This is not about me, this is actually about my sister because I'm concerned about her. She might not seem overweight, but she looks kind of chubby in the stomach area and such. If so, what are some excercises to lose this babyfat? Thanks! (link)
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Your sister is 12 year old-why should she be worried about changing her appearance to suit you? She's a child and other than running, skating and riding bikes or just attending PE everyday in school she should not be involved in any extreme diet or exercise routines. She'll have plenty of time for that as an adult! Unless a doctor has addressed her weight for health related reasons you should leave her alone. I think the problem her is you, not your sister. What are you hiding from in your own life that causes you to project your own insecurity onto her?
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My ex & I speak once in awhile. I'll be great for a few weeks, getting over him and not contacting him, but then he'll call me out of nowhere. We'll catch up, laugh about our memories together, and he slips in a few i miss yous. Then, he won't call for another few weeks. He hurt me badly but hearing his voice feels amazing. What am I supposed to do? The minute I feel like I'm moving on, it's like subconciously he knows and brings me right back to where I started. Do I tell him how I feel or will that sound pathetic? I feel like saying I want it all or nothing at all, but I don't want to lose him completely. (link)
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You can't lose something that you don't have to begin with. Sounds like this guy is using you as a quick ego fix. If he wanted to be with you he would. There is nothing "subconscious" about his ability to hone in on your vulnerability. If it's over, you should simply stop answering his calls. People cannot treat you badly if you don't make yourself available. If you give him the "all or nothing" ultimatum, he'll know that you still want hom DESPITE the fact that he keeps tugging at your heart strings. That would ultimately gie him more power-don't let him have it. He doesn't deserve it.
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I really don't even know where to begin. My boyfriend found out two months ago that he was potentially the father of a two year old girl. He took the DNA test and he is the father. We have been together since a couple of months after the child was conceived. I have a 6 year old and we have a ten month old together.
The mother of the little girl was arrested for drug use and the child was put in temporary custody of the grandmother.
My boyfriend wasn't even in a relationship with this girl, it was just a very stupid mistake he made. Now they are trying to get him for back child support, as well as current support and medical bills since she got assistance from the state. Our children currently get medical coverage from the state so I don't see why he should be responsible for this other kids medical bills.
He has wanted to give up his rights to the child since we first found out about it. At first I tried to get him to do the right thing and try and get custody, but the more I think about it the more angry I get. I feel betrayed and hurt about this and it has me very depressed. I am trying to be strong for my children but I don't know what we should do. I love my boyfriend very much but I don't know if I can deal with him having a child with someone else. Just the thought of it makes me want to strangle him. If he had known about this child before I entered into a relationship with him I probably wouldn't ever been with him.
I sometimes think it would be best for him to try for custody for the sake of the child, but at the same time I feel I would have a strong hatred for her. Besides the emotional issues I'm not sure we could financially. I'm so tired of feeling like I am being torn apart inside. I just don't know what to do.
I'm really not a bad person, but I just can't figure out if I should stay with him or just leave. If I stay I don't know what we should do about this whole mess. Should I let him try and sign over his rights to her and just forget about it? He wants our lives the way they were before we found out any of this. I do too, but should we try and get custody of her even though it could ruin our relationship?
I really need some advice first of all to help myself feel better and not be so angry at him and the child(even though I know it isn't her fault, I feel like it is because she was born) Then I need advice about what we should do as a family. I would really appreciate some unbiased advice. Thanks (link)
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First and foremost, you and your boyfriend should engage in safer sex. Make sure no other children get thrown into this mess you have created for yourselves. Secondly, if your boyfriend fathered this child, he should have to pay child support and reimburse the state for any money paid for his/her welfare. Why should my tax dollars go to take care of people who are irrepsonsibly bringing children into the world? I'm not being judgemental, just realistic. We all make mistakes. I too had a child out of wedlock and was a single mother for 10 years I went to work, sometimes worked two jobs and scraped and saved every penny I could to make sure my child didn't have to go on welfare. It's hard, but definitely worth the sacrifice.
I don't think it's a good idea to bring that child into your home. You seem to have quite a bit of resentment toward the child when you should be angry with your boyfriend. The child is completely innocent here-she didn't ask to be born.
As far as staying in the relationship goes, I wouldn't want to be with a man who didn't take care of his children. I think the both of you need to grow up quick, get jobs, get your kids out of the welfare system. You don't want them to grow up thinking this type of lifestyle is acceptable. At the rate our economy is going, it may not even be available for much longer. So wise up and take care of yourself.
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How can I get my weight back down. I am at about 193 now. I was a laxative abuser and purger. When I was doing that, I got down to my low 160's from 220 pounds.. Now that I quit using laxatives and purging, my weight's been comeing back up. And it's really hard to diet to lose the weight now? Anyone have any clues? (link)
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There is only 1 way to lose weight and stay healthy-diet & exercise. Given your history, I think it's a good idea to consult your doctor. As for me, I gained 50 lbs with my pregnancy and was desperate to lose the weight. I limited my caloric and fat intake (no fried foods, very little red meatm smaller portions, only baked snack foods and whole grain breads), drank an gallon of water everyday (no soda or juice), ate plenty of fruit & raw veggies and exercised for an hour a day. Nothing crazy, just a 30 minute walk with my dogs and 30 minutes of very basic exercises with light weights. It took a few months, but I finally got there and was able to keep the weight off until my next pregnancy. I know the gallon of water sounds crazy, you have to work yourself up to that point. You should also make sure you're taking a multi-vitamin. This is a far better plan than the fad diets because you're not really giving up the foods you love, you're just eating less of them. Hope this helps!
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well i am 13 and i hate my older brother. he always gets me in trouble and he never gets in trouble instead i do. my dad treats him like royality and me like the ugly duckling. what should i do i cant stand him anymore he even broke my new skateboard i got for christmas! should i fin another place to live (link)
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I know exactly where you're coming from! I have 6 younger brothers and sisters and I thought of running away plenty of times when I was your age! Unfortunately, running away never solves anything. There are sevral ways to approach this situation. Talk to your parents. Tell them how your brothers behavior makes you feel and also tell them how it maked you feel when they ignore his behavior, Also remember that fighting never maked things better. The Bible says, "Do unto other as you would have them to do unto you". So try being kind to your brother, even when he misbehaves. Over time, you may find that he will be more kind to you. Hope this helps.
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