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Hey I'm Sarah! I'm a freshman in high school and lovin it:) I like hangin out with my friends, playing field hockey, swimming, running, dancing, the beach, listening to music, and ya...pretty much everything! So leave ur questions here and I'll try my best to answer them. sorry in advance if i can't answer all ur questions, life gets a little busy sometimes. lata taters;)

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I have naturally straight hair, but I like to wear it curly. I just bought my first curling iron, and I think the heat is drying my hair out. Did I buy the wrong product? Or am I just using it incorrectly?
Lour

Any kind of hot tool can dry your hair out-curling irons, straighteners-whatever. Just try not to use hot tools too much bc constant use can keep your hair damaged for a long time. Also, make sure u use conditioner in the shower. There are even some types of conditioner that you can leave in your hair-don't put in too much though or it'll get greasy. I think Pantene Pro-v has this stuff you can put in your hair before using a hot tool to protect it-i'm sure other brands do too though. so good luck!
SaRaH:)

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Hey well i am like having all these problems with my mom and i love her very much but she just yells at me sometimes for like nothing and im really freaked out because she gets me mad and depressed i feel like killing myself or like cutting myself!

signed
Depressed little gurl

hey-moms do that, and maybe when she's yelling at you, it's for something? just try to think about it in her point of view. but don't hurt yourself because of her-don't hurt yourself because of you either-just don't do it because that's just a stupid thing to do. it's okay moms yell and if she's trying to discipline you then it's probably because she loves you.
SaRaH

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Lately, I've been feeling REALLY lonely. How do I tell my parents that, I don't want to be here anymore? I'm tired of my friends, I'm tired of my family, and I'm tired with the people around. I do hang out with good people who make good decisions--I'm not tired about that. But I don't feel completely happy with them. I sometimes feel a little left out, and I do blame myself for not being more "in the loop". But I don't have that many things in common with them. My parents are also good people. They give me the things I need and have brought me up pretty well. They really are good parents. I'm just sick of living here and being lonely. I feel like theres no one around. I recently just lost my "best friend". She was great, but I did realize that she wasn't exactly the kind of person I want to be friends with (she constantly reassured herself by making fun of other people, she was REALLY competitive @ EVERYTHING, etc.). Is there anything I can do, or anyone I can talk to, or IM? (Theres a lot of other things I'm upset about) Is there anyone who's been in a state of depression or anything? Because I seriously need to talk to someone.

1st of all-don't worry so much bc a lot of people go through this-you're not alone. It's OK to see the faults in other people-everyone has them, but just try to be more excepting to some of them-if it's just too much(for you to be friends/get along with them) then yeah it's okay to not be friends w/ everyone.
if you're sick of the situation you're in try making more new friends, try new activities-like if you're interested in music go join a music club etc.
everyone feels out of the loop sometimes and everyone feels alone & left out even more of the time. if it's really bothering you then i think it's okay to talk to your parents, they'll understand. hope things get better!-write back if you need anything!
SaRaH

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ever since i moved i've felt misserable and depressed... i moved to africa a little ova a month ago and left a girl that ment the world to me... i would do anything for her... but i might never get to see her again... all i can do is hope shes on-line when i am... all i want is to be with her and i cant... so idk wat to do but talk to her whenever i can... wat can i do to talk to her or even see her again? i'm not goin to give up or forget about her. shes the only thing keepin me alive...

That has to be really horrible:( but if you guys keep in touch than it won't be that bad. just write lots of letters telling her about your life, send pictures, call (if you can afford the long distance), e-mail her, anything you can, hopefully if she sees how dedicated u are to doing all this she'll respond a lot too. One of my VERY best friends, she was practically like my sister moved away a few years ago and i was devasted. but we talk online a lot and send e-mails and just keep up with what's going on in each other's lives and that makes it a lot better. So good luck!
SaRaH:)

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Ok, this summer my best friend and I had a fight and it ended out friendship. (it was a bitter ending, we havent spoken to eachother since) Anyways, everyday at school, she doesnt talk to me and her friend told me that she hated me. The thing is, I dont hate her back, and I wish she wouldnt hate me. I want her to know that I still care about her even though we aren't friends, and I want to see how she is doing. So I found her livejournal link and do you think i should leave a comment? What should I say?

Ya, that's a good idea bc then she can't ignore you or anything. That's really sweet of you to still care for her! so if i were you i'd just tell her just what you said: that you dont hate her back and wish she wouldnt hate you and that you still care about her even though you aren't friends. just leave it at that & if she doesn't respond, then at least you tried and left your relationship on a little bit better note than it was before. and if she does, then that's great and props to you!:) Good luck!
~Sarah~

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I have a long haired domestic black cat. I also have beige carpeting throuout my home. He leaves clipms of hair all over the house and not even vacuming seems to work in pickking it up. I am sick of spending hours on my hands and knees trying to get it off of the floor. Any suggestions?

I'm not really sure how you can get it out of the carpet besides using a lint roler which would take a loooong time, but if you brush your cat once a day and just put the hair in the trash it could help a lot! most cats usually like to be brushed too so it might benefit both you & the cat:)
SaRaH:)

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Well i'm a 16 year old girl, whose pretty,fun,and popular and I have alot of friends.But there is a problem that most people don't really see as a problem;i'm italian.Not everyone at my school, but a group of people constantly make jokes to me about my heritage.It all started on the first week on school when we had to write a paper about ourselfs (favorites,ethnic background,religion,ect.) so people could get to know us.well i put in there I was italian,and right after the class these girls came up to me and asked if my dad was in the mafia!what the hell is that about?no body has any respect now adays,and i guess it has to do with shows like the gottis and the sopranos(even tho i love them!) who give people the impression ALL italian-americans are like that,and that all italian-americans have dads like tony soprano.what should I do to get rid of this stigma and situation?thanks alot and I'll rate u a 5 if u don't act all bitchy about it!=)

geez, looks like they need to take a look at their family tree, i bet you they've got some italian in there & even if they don't, they really don't need to be making fun of you. if they have to spend their time making fun of your heritage...well then i feel sorry for them, just remember that you're above that and that you don't have to sink that low. And that's great that you've got pride in your heritage, keep that in mind too if they make fun of you. But if they don't stop, just ask them straight up "what's wrong with being italian?" i bet you they won't be able to come up with an answer & if they do say something like italians are mafia members or w/e tell them they need to get rid of the stereotypes and lay off. Just don't like completely blow up when they make fun of you because then they'll realize that they're getting to your nerves & they'll probably keep it up. So good luck & write back if you need more help:)
SaRaH

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what do u do when your friend is about to date a guy whos a complete asshole and that ALL of her friends hate? please help soon!

If your friend really likes this guy, then there's prbly not much you can do, but it'll help if you and/or her friends and people she knows and trusts just talk to her about it. mayb she doen't realize what a jerk this guy is. don't be rude about it when you talk to her though, she might think you're jealous or something like that. Just talk to her & hopefully she'll listen. Good luck!
SaRaH:)

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i have a bit of hair on my lower back, and its like blonde so its not gorilla, but you can see it...is that normal/really wierd? i always feel so self consious about it because im not a hairy person at all! but what do guys think about that? do they prefer a bald-body girl? hehe

Nah, that's normal, pretty much everybody has that. I don't think most guys would mind that esp. bc it's just a bit, bc it's just like having hair on the rest of your body, like the hair on your arms or your face. So don't worry about it!
SaRaH:)

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my friend told me she was raped by some guy at a party a few years back. i told her she should report it to the police but all she remembers was that he was black and tall (about the african-americain male population). and since it happen so long ago why say anything? no, she told me. and a few weeks ago she showed me that she cutting herself and stealing razors from some store. i feel like these are the kinda things you dont keep a secert about. what should i do?

Ya, you're right, those are definitely things you don't keep secret about. the raping incident can be reported, even though she doens't remember much, the time and date of the party could help investigators. But if she had reported it earlier, closer to the time of the rape it would've helped more, still, any kind of info can help. About the cutting, you can seriously hurt yourself doing that. show your friend that you're concerned about her & make sure that she's aware of how much damage she's doing to herself, don't make a bigger deal about than you need to around her though, you don't want her doing anything else. Be there for her and try to help her out with this but be aware that there's only so much you can do, if she still doesn't stop cutting herself, then it's probably time you talked to an adult about this, even if she doens't want you too, it could help save her. It's really good that you're so concerned about her, you're prby a great friend. write back if u need any more help!
~Sarah~

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I got my hair permed but its finally out. But now my hair is all frizzy and puffy what can I do about that? U use garnie frutics milk but it seems like it dont help

frizzy and puffy hair usually comes from not having enough natural oils & moisture in your hair, that happened to me when i did swimming in the winter everyday for a couple months & i was always in the chlorine and always washing my hair. I'd just say always use a cream conditioner in the shower (the milky-white colored ones are usually the most moisturizing), you can even put conitioner in your hair after u get out of the shower & just leave it in. Don't use too many heat appliances on your hair for now, that can fry it, or just use them every other day or sumthin. And you really don't have to wash your hair EVERY day if it's not oily, washing it too much takes all the oils out. Good luck!
SaRaH:)

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okay i think i may like a guy...the bad thing is he is a freshman and im a junior i know i said this to my self a thousand of times that i would never date a freshman but he is really nice, sweet, cute and all of the above things that guys could be...i mean what should i do...im really confuzed on this one can any one help me...

If you really like him and he really likes you, then I'd say go for it! Besides, when you really think about, it's only about 2-3 years age difference, which can be a lot in high school but it's not actaully that much. Even if some people like make fun of you for it or sumthin, you can get past that because if you love someone, that kinda stuff doesn't matter:) hope it goes well!
SaRaH:)

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Hey ok well theres this dance comeing up and i really want to ask a friend of mine if he wants to go to it with me but, i cant dance, and i mean i dunno if he is a good dancer but even if he isnt i dotn want to make a fool out of myself. Also, i dunno, maybe it would be awkward if i asked him toit and he said no...cuz we are really good friends, i just want to go with him lol as friends.

1st off-no one "can't dance"-you don't have to be a professional hiphop dancer or something to dance at a school dance- the purpose is just to have fun, so just do that and don't worry about how you look, just don't go TOO crazy:) About your friend, ya most likely it'll be awkward when you ask him but at least you've got the courage to ask & hopefully he'll appreciate that! just tell him you want to go as friends and that's all. have fun!:)
SaRaH:)

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OK-- I have a few midterms coming up. I already did one (English) and that's out of the way. I'll specifically focus on SS- since that's the next one to come up. Well, Im really nervous on how my grade will turn out on my Midterm. What are good study tips that will help me be prepared? What are ways to make myself crack down and actually study?? How can I make myself go in feeling confident?? There is a website that the teacher made with several 'midterm' quizzes, and I use that sometimes but it doesn't always help.

P.S. I really don't care for the teacher!!
Thank You!!

Hey, my exams are coming up too & what I started doing last year was this: 2 nights b4 the exam i review the material-just look over it & make sure I understand everything, then the night before the exam I really study and quiz myself etc. The better you know the material the more confident you will be. And it's okay not to understand stuff, just ask your teachers before the exam or go online & look it up, go to the library, ask your parents-ya never know what they might know lol.
I know exactly what you mean about cracking down and just studying-I can really be a procrastinator sometimes! I know that i can't concentrate for hours on 1 subject so i take breaks to get my mind off studying, like I'll just go watch TV or go outside or call a friend or something, then once i feel a little more relaxed i go back to studying. and for me, eating a snack while i study really helps! lol
It's good that you're concerned about your grades but just don't stress out too much, that can hurt you too, just don't let midterms engulf your life! Good luck & write back if you need more help!
SaRaH:)

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Okay I just can't seem to stop going on AIM instant messanger, updating my site, or going on advicenators!! HELP please!! I'm like addicted and I can never concentrate plz help thanks I rate.

You might just have a little bit too much time on your hands. Try involving yourself in other activites, like if you have hobbies, start spending more time doing them. If that doesn't help after a while, you might wanna start restricting yourself from using the internet, or just setting a time limit like 1 hour a day. Good luck!
SaRaH:)

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okay...(i'm 14) i really like this guy that one of my friends use to like (she said she was over him) and when i told her she kind of got mad and said that she still likes him... is she doing this just b/c i like him? IDK!!! Help plz!

Those kinda things can be really confusing:/, I know how u feel. Your friend might be jealous of you because she thinks you have a better chance with him than she did. If it wasn't very long ago that she liked him then most likely she still has feelings for him because it's pretty hard to just STOP liking someone all of a sudden. you prbly know what it's like when 2 friends like the same person, so just think aobut what it's like to have your friend tell you that she really likes the guy you're trying so hard to get over. Just don't pressure her too much about and if you need anymore help write back! good luck!
SaRaH:)

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i skate and have just gotten to the part where you are required to lift your legs high up to the side . ( you stick your arms out so you are in a T-shape , and you lift your leg up so that one of your hands are holding your feet , while keeping the leg you are lifting straight ) i can't lift my leg high enough . does anyone know any excercises that can help this ?

If you do dance, then that helps alot, I know ice-sakting and ballet are kinda similiar so practice kicks etc or just ask your coach to help you with that. and just really stretch you legs out whenever you're at skating & if you practice splits, even if you can't do them at first, that might help. But if you don't do dance, I know something that really helps, it's a ballet move called grand bat ma(not sure about how to spell that one lol) you could probably find it online. Good luck!
SaRaH:)

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well i have this friend that likes the same girl i do and me and that girl have been going out but i havint told my friend i dont know if i should or not lemme no as soon as possible.

I'd prbly tell your friend, because it's really likely that your friend will find out some way or another and then feel like you betrayed him by not telling him. Just try to not to brag about it when telling him. hopefully he'll respect you as a good friend for being honest and open with him! Good luck!
SaRaH:)

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hey Sarah! it's Caroline!!!! well, i thought i'd ask you a question since you're a great advice giver! okay, do you think i will find someone this year who i am compatible with? i'm lonely and i need to snuggle lol....hahaha...thanks for putting up with this ahead of time!

oh yeah...is there anyone in particular who you think has the potetntial to be in a long-term realtionship with me? lol

(((sorry my question is really weird lol)))


lotsa love!

Hey Caroline:)!...i KNOW that one day you will find someone you are compatible with, it could be this year but there's plenty of time left in high school and life. You are such an awesome person, i know that there is an awesome guy (or guys:))out there for you. Love could find you one day when you least expect it:) But ya i know exactly how you feel:/
anyways, well I can think of a few people that might work but I'll keep my eye out for ya;) and be your O.F.U. hehehe
I will expand upon the subjects of the second paragraph at lunh 2mrw;) later tater!
SaRaH:)

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in 1 year i have to choose between field hockey and soccer b/c the 2 sports take place at the same time!! I do not wantt o choose but i have to so what do u think i should choose or what woule be a good way to choose?
Thanks for the Help!!

Choose the one that you enjoy more and the one you want to play! You can always come back to the one you dropped later in your life. Both are awesome sports, have fun playin!
SaRaH:)

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