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Q: Are you insecure about your new relationship about your new boy/girl friend? Do you know if there cheating on you, but they might not or might be?
I don't feel insecure in my relationship.
I just feel too lucky sometimes, like I find him real attractive and so nice, and I'm like "He can't possibly be all mine, can he?"
he's not cheating, I trust myself to be able to figure that out.
I just think I'm lucky.

Q: I made out with another guy at a party where the guy that I was "talking" to was. We were in a fight, i was drinking and I made a huge mistake. So, I need help on how to get him back? Best from someone who's been cheated on and took the person back. Like, what worked. It happened friday night. He won't take my calls, or texts, or facebook messages, or the voicemails i leave. I want to do something that shows him how much I care (the deal was that night, I didn't know he liked me that much). Do i just need to give him time? HELP! I like him way more then I had originally planned, and I can't imagine the rest of my semester without him. Oh, and i'm a freshman in college if that helps. he lives in his frat house, and I am in a dorm. He is also a freshman.. thank you!
Defintely don't keep trying to get a hold of him. You're putting him in the spot where he has all the power and can chose to ignore you. If you're giving him time to cool off, then he might start to consider talking to you and since you were only talking, he might be more easy to forgive you.
And when you do talk again apologize admit your mistake, and tell him that the other fella didn't mean as much as you do to him,or whatever.
=)
Just give him time to get his head together.

Q: why are teen girls so obsessed with boys i mean all my friend talks about is this one boy she has a crush on and she has only seen him 4 times in her life and is already planning there wedding im tierd of all my friends talking about crushes so why are teen girls so obsessed with boys i really wanna know
Usualy girls who are insecure obsess over boys (but that's from my opinion) if she doesn't like herself, she might feel she needs this boy to complete her.
A lot of teenage girls don't feel secure in themselves, and think that the acceptance of boys will make them like themselves more.
Which isn't true, you have to like yourself before others can learn to like you.

Q: Im like a guy repelant, NO GUYS LIKE ME!
not one, becuase i dont hang out with the "popular" girls, that means im not worthy enough? I need some pointers on how to be les guy-repelant.
You aren't unattractive to guys, I'm sure.
Maybe you should try being more open and less negative. If you like a boy go for it, don't just mope because he doesn't realize how great you are yet.
Popular people have nothing to do with it, you can find boys anywhere, hell, I eat lunch by a dumpster with thirteen boys whose hair is longer than mine and like death metal.
And I still managed to find a byofriend, not even in my circle of friends.
It all depends on you being open with your crush, go for it, don't wait for them.

Q: Do you have to visit a Gynocoligist [sp?] when you get birth controll pills?
Well, only if you're sexually active, it's suggested that once you have sex you start to visit the Gynocoligist.
If you're taking birth control for another reason, like acne, or whatever, then no.
Only if you're sexualy active.

Q: Hi, I am a male in high school. I have like 60 songs on iTunes, while I know some people that have thousands. I really like listening to music, but I just don't have any idea how to be "aware" of it.

Some people know every new song that comes out from various artists that I have never heard of. They know every new artist and words to every song they have ( I may be overexagerating a little). How do I keep in touch with music and find new artists so I can talk to other people about artists and their songs?

I appreciate and am grateful for every answer given. Thanks!
It is all a matter of looking for it.
I have two places that I frequent if I feel like finding new artists.
last.fm (Just type it into google, the website will appear in the hits.)
and Purevolume. (Same deal to find it as last.fm)

Those places allow you to pick a genre and scope out some artists, either signed or underground.
Last.fm even lets you type in your favourite artist/band and it will give you artists that sound similar to them.

Hope I helped. :)

Q: i hate my weight so much! im 13/f like around 135 pounds or something im seirously annoyed i can never make a commitiment and i hate it ! i seirously do whenever i freaken go out to the stores it takes me a while! to buy something because of my size and its so embarassing
as for skool they have a store there which i see people eating food chips and really good stuff and i seriously dont knw what to do my mom wouold make me lunch but i get so hungry at skool and dont know what to do.. i have a treatmille at home so i could work out on that, my sisters are all skinny wit nice bodies and thyve been really trying to help me and my mom aswell they dont want me to miss out on stuff.. im seriously anoyed can somone help me please do you think if i were seriosuue about it id be able to lose wieght before this skool year ends
please i need as much answers as i ccan get please e
thankss u
Well first. You aren't fat at all.
I weigh the same as you,and aside from maybe being a tiny bit thick. I'm not overly concerned.
You shouldn't be this worked up over it.
But if you wan't to make a healthy change. Do just that.
Eat healthy, no more junk food on a regular basis.
Don't deprive yourself of something like a cookie every once in a while, it'll keep you motivated. And not having any will make you want it more, and thus you may binge.
Just jog on the treadmill and practice better eating habits, it'll go a long way.

Q: how do i get a guy to like me sooooooooooooooo much its like me trying to be hard to get.
Well, you can't make anyone like you, but you can always make yourself more attractive to them.

Just talk to them, joke with them,flirt with them. Y'know.
And if he starts liking you from that, then you can start playing hard to get.

There's no sure-fire way to get a boy to like you. You may not be his type.
You just have to keep trying.

Goodluck, sweetie. :)

Q: soo me and my bf have only been going out for a little more than week. we've made out and yeah i like him but when we made out i just didnt feel any chemistry. does that mean i dont rlly have strong feelings for him? i dont even think i really like him that much. should i break up with him or wait and see what happens? i wanna try to go for a month but idk if i should even bother. please give me the best advice you can. thank youu guys
I suggest you do try and wait it out a month.

When i first made-out with my boyfriend. I was like
"...uh."
But y'know, the more you get to know someone the chemistry comes.
You might not even know him that well, give it time, you'll find more things attractive in him.
I did, and I am madly in love with my boy now, we've been together almost a year.


Q: is it bad or wrong that i still sleep with a stuffed animal? Its a white tiger named Snowball. even though i share a bed with my boyfriend, if i dont have snowball i have a hard time falling asleep. is there something wrong with me? btw im 19/f if that makes any difference
There's nothing wrong with it, unless you NEED it like to function at night.

If you just prefer sleeping with it then it isn't a problem.

I'm 16, and I still sleep with my blanket Holey.

Q: how many of you girls shave 'down there'? what age did you start and why?


thanks!
I trimmed since I was like 13.

But I started shaving when I was like 15, because it makes 'doing stuff' less awkward.

Q: how old do you have to be
in Illinois
to get your nose pierced.
and how bad does it hurt
and for how long after does it hurt?

thnks
Well, I don't know about Illinois, but in Canada your legaly allowed to get piercings by yourself without parental permission at 16.
But if your mom agrees to let you pierce your nose then it can be any age.

I have my nose pierced, as well as my monroe.

And I thought that getting it pierced didn't hurt a bit, and it was a litle tender for a couple days, but nothing painful.
The only way a piercing is painful for me is when it gets infected. If you clean it and maintain it you shouldn't be huting at all. :)

Q: i have HUGE thighs, how can i loose them!? help=]
I have the same problem.
I feel my theighs are huge.

Lately (for like a month) I've been running very often, like an hour a day.
And I've noticed a difference.
So I suggest doing leg lifts and jogging

Q: ok so im a pretty pale girl. Im def not like white er nething its just that I dont tan very easily if you go to this websit and look at the row of midtine-Asian its the middle one, http://www.idigitalemotion.com/tutorials/guest/skin_tone/skintone.jpg

My graduation is coming up soon and im kinda embarresed to wear a dress cuz I think that im too pale(im VERY self contuous) And to all of the guys that go on advicenators is it a turn off when you see a kinda pale girl? THX FOR THE HELP!!!
Are you kidding?

Paleness is something I'd aspire to have, but nope.
I tan like freakin crazy.

I don't get 'turned off' by pale people.

Q: i wish i was rich...like more than anything...i really do...is there any way that i can forget about this desire? its killing me!
I don't know how old you are.
But I suggest getting your own part time job, this way you have extra income to spend on nice things like clothes and other trinkets. Which might make you feel better.
I come from an average family, but since I have my own job taht income goes directly to buying nice stuff for myself.

Q: do you believe "once a cheater always a cheater" ?

why or why not?
I don't.
I think that a person may just not be in their right state of mind.
I cheated on my boyfriend 5 months ago, I kissed another guy while I was completely hammered.
So in some instances I think that a once of is okay. but only once. And the person has to feel sorry. I cried for an hour, and I felt terrible.
However if I did it again, (which I would never) I wouldn't expect him to take me back again.
if a person is in their right state of mind and cheats on a continuing basis I would believe that this person will always be a cheater.

Q: Where can I find a job for a 13 year old. (besides babysitting) thankss xx
That's a tough one.
You can defintely find a job when you're fourteen
(my friend Anthony started at Mc Donalds and my sister at a groccery store,at that age (14))

Thirteen might be a little young...but it doesn't hurt to put apps in everywhere

Try McDonalds they are always hiring young people.

Q:

I've posted music questions before, and only got like, one or responses on them, so please, can i get a lot of replies?

i LOVE music, but it seems like im always listening to the same stuff. i hate rap, but heres some songs i like, so can you guys name some good songs?


tears don't fall-bullet for my valentine
calling all cars-senses fail
girlfriend-avril lavigne
only one-yellowcard
smile in your sleep-silverstein
& other bands like, rise against, +44, etc. but i only know a couple songs by each band.
so please?!!?
Well,
I found a really amazing group called
The Decemberists I suggest them. The best?

O Valencia
july,july
here i dreamt I was an architect
Sumemrsong

Other than that
Tear you apart-she wants revenge
fer sure- themedicdriod

Q: ok my boyfriend brushes his teeth everytime before he sees me, and i know because ill be on the phone with him and i can hear it. but, his breath stinks everytime! its weird it smells like old macaroni and cheese or something l0l. and thats y i dont kiss him a lot. and we fight a lot because i dont and he thinks its because like i dont love him as much. hes very sensitive so it would hurt him a lot if i told him, annd he'd get mad because i didnt tell him sooner, which is my problem with everything. what do i do?? and i dont no y but french kissing just isnt my favorite thing to do and he says he understands that but he'll still get mad because i wont kiss him. sometimes he'll hold my face n try to force me to kiss him. and last weekend i wouldnt kiss him so he pushed my face n my neck cracked like 10 times, but i think most of it was because i was just about to crack it because it needed it. but what can i do about his bad breath? i always have gum because im so paranoid about bad breath and so i give it to him sometimes. but then he'll be like, what are you trying to tell me something? and he'll laugh. helpp
Well firstly.
Sometimes with chewing a lot of gum it makes you mouth taste good,so that when his mouth doesn't taste AS good it tastes a lot worse.
(like if you eat something sugary before you drink coffee,the coffee tastes a lot less sweet.)

One thing I do with my boyfriend that really helps is to be chewing a piece of gum while kissing, and slide it into his mouth, but not like pushingly, make it kinda non-chalent.

Q: how long do you keep disposable razors for... is it only one time? or can you use it more than once... and if so for how long
You cna use a disposable razor as many times as you like
(it's only disposable becuase you cannnot change the blade)

There should be a white bar at the top of your razor.
I usualy keep mine until that bar starts to chip off, then I toss them.

That of use your own perception,and throw it out when you think you've had it long enough (or the blades don't feel as sharp.)

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