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So the other day i was having people over my house to chill and drink a little. It was my bestfriend,my boyfriend and his brothers and another friend of mine.I got really tired so i went up to my room and fell asleep and they all continued to chill downstairs. Yesterday,my boyfriends brother told me something went on.My boyfriend finally told me that he and my best friend were so drunk were sitting all over his lap and she was trying to get him to touch her boobs and rubbing each others legs and shit and flirting etc.I was pretty mad. He cried to me and told me to forgive him and said he loves me and etc. etc.and he felt so guilty and he told me because he cares about me blah blah.I told him i wasnt gonna break up with him because they didn't kiss and i realize accidents happen and second chances are worth it...but my best friend hasn't said a word about it to me and thinks i don't know,which is pretty horrible on her part. My boyfriend told me he'd never talk to her,look at her,etc again..but he told me to let this time go and reduce drama. what should i do? she has done this to me two times previous ! and ive kept her..maybe im the dumb one. (link)
you're not dumb, you just look for the best in people. i'd say give the boyfriend a second chance, dumb the friend. one time is a mistake, 2 times is a pattern, 3 times is a bad friend.

i am 16 and a soffomore girl. theres two guys i kind of like one is 15 the other is 18. are either of thoes like wrong? i want an older guy because im sick of immature ones. the older one is in the sport that is my passion with me but the younger one is in theater with me and goes to my school. which should i go for? and any pros and cons would be greatly appreciated :) (link)
age differences really don't matter that much, don't worry about that. the thing that i would be worried about is that the 18yr old will be graduating soon and you won't be in the same school anymore. besides that, whichever one makes you happiest(:

So I recently found out that my boyfriend smokes weed. We've been going out for nearly a year. I guess the reason he hasn't brought it up before is that he apparently only does it rarely, if someone else brings it.

Anyway, when I heard this, I was slightly taken aback. For some reason, it really BOTHERED me. It still kind of does. I don't smoke weed, see a need to, or even care that it exists (plus, it's illegal..). So I'm definitely not its biggest fan. However, it's something I'd say at least 50% of the teenagers in my city do (my sister included). And it didnt' really bother or worry me to know that some of my other friends smoke it. Just him. Which is what weirds me out about this situation.

So...thoughts? Comments? What should I do about this? Why do I feel this way? Should I let this get in the way of our relationship? Etc. (link)
i think you should tell your boyfriend how you feel about it. he should have told you that he smokes in the first place, the fact that he didn't tell you makes it seem like he's hiding it from you. a serious relationship needs total honesty, you should know everything about each other. no secrets.

Well. right now its March 9th and ive liked this guy since October. My friend started liking him 2 months ago ALOT. even though she doesnt even talk to him. I NEVER told her that i like him becuase i kinda wanted her to be happy. But now i regret it.. and i like him ALOT.. but i talk to him alot and she doesnt. I'm 100% sure that he doesnt like her. I dont know what to do. I'm 15 and a female (link)
i understand exactly where you're coming from, i've been in this situation twice before. the best thing to do is to tell your friend exactly what you're feeling. it might be hard, and it might not end the way you want, but she has to know. it'll be better in the long run, and you won't regret it.

Hi there.

So I have fractured my ankle and have my foot in a really big ugly boot for the next 3 weeks before surgery.

I can walk and do everything normal in the boot, however I can't run!

I was wondering, what are some kind of exercises that I could do to keep me fit in the mean time. I've gone from exercising from 3-4 times a week to nothing and it's already been 4 weeks since I broke my ankle!

I just don't want to be really unfit for when I am able to play sport again!

Any ideas? Thanks :) (link)
when i hurt my ankle (and it's happened several times), my doctors always say that it's alright to ride a stationary bike, at a slow pace of course. but i wouldn't do anything involving your ankle without asking your doctor first, everyone's different. you can always do the old favorites, crunches, leg lifts, etc. hope i helped(:

I've seen the commercials for the Shake Weight. (The device that's supposed to help tone flabby arms.) I was just wondering if it actually works! I've heard it's had good reviews but you can never be too sure. (link)
my best friend has one, she keeps it by the tv and whenever the commercials come on, she uses it. so far, it actually is working for her. whether it's worth the money or not is up to you(:

This guy that I've been talking to recently started texting me more and more. He asked me to go to the club last night to see him perform. He seemed like he really wanted me to go, so I went. He was pretty wasted, but he went around, grabbing my hand/holding me, introducing me to all his friends. I ended up sleeping over his house (ONLY CAUSE I WAS TOO DRUNK TO DRIVE)! and he tried to make some moves but I denied them because I don't believe in getting "intimate" too fast. The next morning, I left his house, and he texted me immediately! He asked me to hang out again today. I'm horrible at reading guys so I don't know if he really likes me or if he's just trying to get into my pants. Help! Thanks guys! (link)
it would seem to me that he likes you, if he's inviting you to see him perform and texting you all the time. but if you really want to know, you should try to be sober when he is, that way you know that whatever he does is all him, not inluenced by alcohol or anything else. but from what he's done, i'd say go for it(:

I'm 16, female, weigh 150 lbs., and am 5'7 (67 in.). I am an all year round athlete in lacrosse and swimming. I eat fairly healthy, I run a 7:40 minute mile. I just got my physical to play lacrosse yesterday and my weight and height were 150 and 5'7. I was totally fine with this because I have a lot of muscle and saw it as being normal for an athlete. That night when my dad saw the form, and my weight, he freaked and told me I was really over weight and needed to get down to 130. My dad has been on me about my weight since I was 10, but I felt like at least this was unnecessary. I have a lot of insecurities about my weight and continue to struggle with a little bit of a bulimia problem.

just tell me if you think I'm wrong and need to lose weight or my dad is wrong.

thanks. (link)
you are definitely 100% the right one. there is nothing wrong with your weight, it's healthy. you're an athlete, you're toned, and in great shape. a toned body is more beautiful than a skinny one anyday. guys find muscle attractive, you do not need to lose weight. your dad is being ridiculous. you have no need to feel insecure, and you should only ever worry about losing weight if your doctor tells you to. if your doctor sees that you're healthy and beautiful the way you are, don't ever resort to things like dieting or binging. if you want to be healthy for swimming and lacrosse, you need a balanced diet, not starvation or deprivation. please don't listen to your dad, your body is YOURS, and if you're happy with it, then what he says should not matter at all. please remember that you're beautiful, and don't give in to the pressure around us to be thin as a rail. i'm a 15yr old girl athlete, i understand what you're going through. but muscle is beautiful, and your weight is NORMAL.

I like nick jonas. But so does my friend and she heert me really bad because I love him soooooooooo much and she does not know how much I really care. (link)
you have never had a conversation with nick jonas, you've most likely never even seen him in person. you don't love him. don't worry about it.

My mom has told me for years now that I need to eat breakfast and that it's the right way to start my day. I understand that and I understand that it's suppose to help the brain function properly throughout the day. She also told me that it helps to keep my metabolism up and in a healthy range for my body.

Every time I try to eat breakfast in the morning I get sick though. I feel like I'm going to throw up and vomitting is NOT fun, especially right before school! I tried eating just toast or cereal and not heavy foods like greasy eggs and bacon but it doesn't seem to make a difference. My mom eats oatmeal in the morning but I haven't tried it but I doubt I would feel any better from eating it instead.

What is wrong with me and why can't I eat breakfast without getting sick? It's terrible so I just don't eat it at this point which means I go like 4 hours after I wake up before I eat anything. Is there anything I can take to make the nausea go away when I eat breakfast or anything I can do to keep myself from getting sick? (link)
i know what this is like, i used to be the same way. your mom is very right about eating breakfast, and not only does it keep your metabolism stable, it keeps your blood sugar regulated. it's not good to go from dinner to lunch the next day, your blood sugar can get really low and make you cranky, tired, give you headaches, etc. there's nothing wrong with you, but you should really try to eat at least an apple and a granola bar or a handful of almonds or pecans. that way you get your sugar and some protein. even if you feel like you're going to throw up, unless you actually do, try to eat something. once you get in the habit of eating that early in the morning, the feeling should go away. at least this is how it is for me. hope i helped(:

17/F. So i just recently started dating My current boyfriend, its been almost a month now. But the problem is my ex is still "in love" with me. I havent told my ex about my current boyfriend because I think it would hurt him too much. Would it be better if i just told the ex, and not spare breaking his heart.. again. Or would it be better if I just waited til my ex has moved on and got over me before telling him? As of right now, me and my current boyfriend are pretty low key, and only people who see us together or kiss know.. so its not likely that my ex will find out from someone else, and i want to be the one to tel lhim.. im just scared of he will react.. because i know itll hurt him deeply. Any advice on what to do would be greatly appreciated! :) (link)
you should definitely tell him. if he doesn't know about your new boyfriend and you keep talking to him, it definitely seems like you're leading him on. and if your new boyfriend finds out that you're talking to your ex who still 'loves' you, and haven't told him you have a new boyfriend, it could raise some red flags. the way i see it, your ex is your ex for a reason, it's better to keep things good with your new boyfriend than worry too much about your ex's feelings. hope i helped(:

hi 14f bf 16 xD

well yesterday i was talking to my bf I said I was going to change my hair. I told him I was going to make my hair wavy and where some makeup. He said "Me no like ;/ " and i asked him what did he meant and he said " I love your hair the way it is and You don't need make up." He said i don't like the girls with the make up that makes them look like clowns, i dont like the bright lipstick, a little eyeliner is fine but you don't need it. soo i like wearing makeup but what makeup should i do that he would approve of? I don't wear it often. Thanks!
i think it's adorable that your boyfriend said that, he obviously loves you for you, and sees how you're naturally beaautiful! i would say that he's 100% right, no girl needs a lot of makeup. yes, it's nice to wear some, and it can make you feel pretty, but i think he gave you a perfect reason to not worry about it. you're beautiful already(:

So my ankle cracked while doing some fitness training. I had a scan which showed I now have floating bone in my ankle.

My GP booked me in to see a specialist. The specialist has booked me in for surgery in 4 weeks time. (the injury is already 2 weeks old)

I have an appointment with the specialist tomorrow as he has not yet seen my ankle. He only booked in the surgery due to what the report of my scan said.

Thing is, I can walk on my ankle fine. I don't get any pain from walking nor moving it around. I can stand and balance on it with no pain at all.

Question is. Do you think this could be an old injury and I have just badly sprained my ankle? I have rolled my ankle many times before. I just really hope I don't need surgery.

Thanks :)

i have always had ankle injuries, and i've been told everything from use crutches, to wear this brace, to you need a cast, to you need surgery. many doctors have different opinions on ankles, it's a common yet strange injury. if you did sprain it badly, you wouldn't be able to stand or balance on it. a sprain is when the tendons and ligaments loosen or tear, and the little muscles are weakened. i think you should get a second opinion, and wait awhile before you rush into surgery. hope i helped(:

Okay so, Ive been dating this guy for a few weeks and things have been great. We are seriously perfect for eachother. He lives 30 minutes away but he told me it didnt bother him, and I have no problem with a long distance relationship.

Well the past two days he hasnt talked to me once, and then this morning he broke up with me. He said it was because the distance was an issue and it sucked that he couldnt see me very often. I reluctantly agreed and accepted that out relationship was over, but we both decided to still be friends.

So tonight he texted me and started being very sexual. He told me that he wanted me, and that it was a bad thing that he wanted me because we werent dating. While we were dating we'd send flirtatious text messages, and thats exactly what he kept doing tonight.

I am very confused. Should I just forget about him? Is it a possibility that we'll get back together? Any advice is appreciated. (link)
i've been in this exact situation, it isn't fun. 30 minutes can be a make-or-break kind of thing. don't give in to his 'flirting', he probably just wants a girl to be there for him when he wants, but disappear when he doesn't feel the need to have you. that's not fair to you. i'd ignore him, and like the last answer, tell him where to stick it.

Can someone please tell me how to let a guy know you want to kiss? I don't just want to grab him and kiss him, that is what I want him to do to me! So how do I get him to know that I am ready for him to kiss me. Alot. :) (link)
when you guys are hugging, just peck him on the cheek or maybe a tiny peck on the lips. tease him a little, that'll make him want it more(; if you don't want to be that blunt, then when you get close to him, look at his lips and sorta bite your lip. when he sees that look, he should get the hint. hope i helped(:


last monday, february 15, i went out with a girl. I knew she liked me and this other guy who is older then me i think 10th grade. After the movie we kissed, nothing else. So when i get home i text her and she texts me. At the end i tell her night and i'll be thinking about her. She said night and same. Well Tuesday comes, i send her a text in the morning same time i do everyday usually. No reply, i go to school, thinking she was busy.

Later that day i send a text after school. No reply. So i called her later that night. No answer, fully rang, 6 times went to Voicemail and i didn't leave a voicemail i never do.

So now its today, Feb 17. Didn't send anything till this afternoon well actually early evening. The text said that i was sorry and it was ok that she didn't like me because i like being her friend and we've been friends for awhile now. My friend told me that she didn't wanna go on a double date this weekend. He knows because we were gonna go so it would've been her, me, my friend and his date who happens do be this girls best friend. So he told me she didn't like me because her friend said it to him.

Thats when i sent the text, sorry this is getting long haha, So she replied asking who my friend was because i said his name. I asked her if she wanted to talk on the phone. No reply. Sent her another msg no reply to that either and i called her again, rang full amount again.

What does this mean? Like i know she doesn't like me now more then likely. But im still confused on it.

Anyhelp would be appreciated thanks :) (link)
first of all, i'm sorry that this girl led you on, you seem like a really good guy. don't take it as a hit to the ego or anything. she shouldn't have kissed you if she doesn't like you, that's messed up. it's not fair to you. if this girl is going to be like that, she's not worth your time. don't push it, just be her friend. hope i helped(:

my boyfriend wants to kiss me and ive never kissed anyone before and im 14. he understands when i pull back but i can see him hurting inside and that annoys me that i let him down so much. he asked me if its just that im unsure or whether its to early for me but my answer is always i dunno. i really want to kiss him but 1: im not sure how and 2: i dont wanna do it wrong
like i said i really want to kiss him but im just uncertain about it all. hellppp???????? im just not sure how to and i would rather be alone with him but its a bit hard theres usually 3 othr ppl ther and he says they wont c but i dont mind if they c there my girlfriends and they know that i always chicken out with every boyfriend i have had. i just freeze sometimes. im not sure but its weird cos i do really want to but yeh. im just glad he is so understanding :) (link)
a first kiss is something you shouldn't plan, it should happen because you want it to happen, and only when you're ready(: take things slow, start with a peck. if you just lean in like halfway, he should know what you're after, and help out a little. i know it's scary and you're worried you're going to mess up, but it'll be fine. i pinky promise(:

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