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hey im 16 and im a male, girls.....this one is for you, is a guy being to nice to you a good thing or a bad thing, nice to a point where hes a real gentleman, opening doors for you, wlaking you to the door step, paying for your ticket and maybe sometimes dinner, depends on the occasion, is that a turn on or turn off about a guy, i thought it was a turn on??? (link)
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A definite turn on. Don't listen to that girl that rambled on and on below. There are less and less good guys in this world. If you treat a girl well and act like a gentleman, you will find the good girls that you will want to be with. Don't give in! There are so few of you left.
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I have the most wonderful beautiful girlfriend who I love, I wonder what are some good ways I can show that to her. I already have some creative dates planned but we're both loaded down with work, since I'm not out of school for summer yet, so we wont get to do those anytime soon. I also wonder what her favourite ice cream is (link)
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the small stuff counts the most
keep doing what youre doing : )
her favorite ice cream is chocolate
hahah
with oreos, if available.
ps. she has never gotten a flower. birthday, perhaps? : ) remember, its the small stuff that counts! pss. she doesn't want to run you broke either.
psss. she likes when u randomly tell her you love her.
ok bibi i love you
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17.
male.
this is long; forgive me.
so.
i started dating my current girlfriend, julia, back in september. a month later, i went to six flags with a bunch of my guy friends, a bunch of her girl friends, but not her; she had to work. one of her friends, emily, was very obviously flirting with me, and i told everyone that i was not flirting back.
emily and i were talking on facebook the other day. she told me that she had been purposefully flirting with me back then and that she had feelings for me.
remember how i said that i didn't flirt back?
i did.
and i know; it was wrong.
back then, i legitimately thought that i should have waited on asking julia out - it had only been a week since i even met her when i did - and maybe given emily a bigger chance. i told myself that maybe that would have been the right thing to do. but i gave it some time, and then i fell in love with julia, and we're still dating.
however, what i feel right now is tearing me apart. emily told me she still has feelings for me, and i honestly wish i could say i didn't feel the same way; we've spent a ton of time together and, although she says we're just "best friends," i feel like she keeps trying to be more than that.
let me clear this up:
i would NEVER cheat.
i could never do that to my girls.
but i have no idea what i should do.
julia and i are really close, and i truly do love her; she's fun, hilarious, beautiful, and everything else that makes a girl perfect. but emily has totally slid into my life and made me wonder if julia and i are right for each other.
thanks for reading/advising/etc. (link)
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Sorry you have to go through this situation. I have too. First, I would make sure that you aren't interested in Emily for the wrong reasons- you wouldn't want to regret anything (plus, the grass isn't always greener on the other side). If you're truly in love with Julia, I would wait a couple more weeks and see how you feel then. Also consider these: one, why are you doubting if Julia is the best girl for you right now, and two, what do you see in Emily that's drawing you to her? As much as I wish I could give you an answer, you really have to consider these things. Maybe if you are really skeptical about your current situation, you should try Emily. But also remember that some girls may not be ok with dating their friend's ex.
What I always do is go with my gut. Sometimes, you have to take chances to get an even greater reward. Figure out if she's worth losing Julia and all you've gained with her since September. But if you're unhappy for any reason, I would end it. It's not worth going through life unhappy. But if you do, try to remember the good times you had with Julia and reflect kindly on the past.
Anyway, I wish you the best of luck.
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16/m
Well i have had several girlfreinds and well it usually never works out for me, im never been in a relationship that last longer than 2 or 3 weeks, i dont know what im doing wrong am i picking the wrong girls, or bugging them too much or am i too quiet i really dont know,
I really need help i met this other girl and i really like her and she likes me but im really scared that im going to screw up im not going last with her, i dont want that i want this one to work out fot once any help at all o appreciate it : )
Also im a really nice guy sometimes people take advantage of me but my one big porblem is i worry too much, like if i see sonething and i think its wrong i think the worst even though its not true. sucks but i cant help it.
Thanks once again and any help id apreciate it (link)
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i'm sure that if you're nice and respectful to these girls, you're not doing anything wrong in your relationships. maybe you just weren't finding the right girl.
the way you talk about this new girl, makes me think that you really like her. that's great! maybe you finally found someone where a relationship can last because of your compatibility. my advice would be, ask her out as soon as possible if you like her that much. show interest. let her know that you like her! a girl doesn't want to have to guess if you are interested (this holds true while you are in the relationship as well).
as for during the relationship, be respectful, courteous, sweet, and outgoing. you said you might be a little too quiet... but if you are certain that this girl likes you, you must have done something right when you met her! continue it then. if her interest for you is that certain, it shouldn't be hard to develop a good relationship with her.
my number #1 piece of advice would be to be respectful though. you sound like a nice guy from your question, but i still need to say this. my past relationships have ended because of the way the guys were treating me. If you two fight, remember to stay calm and listen to her. If she's upset, be nice and try not to make her more upset.
also, don't let her take advantage of you. again, it seems that you two clicked, but watch out for any signs of disrespect coming from her or from you. no one deserves to be taken advantage of, and that's the quickest route to a breakup.
as hard as this may be, try not to worry. she's obviously interested in you! go after her and make her yours before it's too late! just keep being yourself and keep doing what you're doing, because she likes you for it : )
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17/f
I don't think I want a boyfriend. I'm very busy with school. I don't want the commitment. I don't want to trust someone like that right now. I know either we'd break up within the next year or it would be even harder moving away in September for college. I'm perfectly capable of getting a boyfriend. My parents really want me to have one, I think it worries them that I don't.
Am I just putting up a wall to avoid getting hurt or am I just better off being single? Is it advisable to lose the excuses or are they valid enough to remain single? Who knew this was such a big deal. Thanks for the advice! (link)
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Girl I am going through the same thing. I feel like there aren't any quality guys out there, and I like working hard for school so I'm indifferent about it right now.
If you are having fun, and enjoying yourself, then don't worry about it. I recently got out of a year and a half long relationship thinking that I would hate being single... but I absolutely love it! You can always worry about relationships later in life anyway. For now, I would say- work hard and enjoy!
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okay so my crush asked me if we could hang out together just the two of.....and he knows i like him i told him so.....but him and his gf just broke up like two days ago but even before they broke up he knew i liked him but anyways
i just wanna know what we could do were gonna be at his house so what are some things we could do???
ya see hes not all torn up about him and his breakup so can you someone tel me what i could do to like you know tell him that i wanna be more than just friend????
specifics would be great and like things i could say or they way i should act would be awsome!!!
please and thank you!!
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I know you probably don't care, but I'm just suggesting you spin it around and spend a few seconds in his ex's shoes. They just broke up 2 days ago.
Now I was stupid awhile ago and went out with my best friend's ex (3 weeks after they broke up.) Now that my relationship is over with him, I'm finally seeing how much it hurts to see your ex being interested in other girls too early.
I know this has nothing to do with your question but it's a suggestion.
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I have had a crush on my best guy friend since 5th grade (I'll be in the 11th grade next year)... We went to the Sadie Hawkin's Dance together last year and I don't know if I should ask him again or what because We had lots of fun and he was teaching me to dance... What should I do? (link)
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Ask him! Ask him! Ask him!
And when the time comes tell him how you feel!
Only thing I would suggest though- if you're ready to tell him, make sure you know what to say, because the last thing you want to do is ruin your friendship. And be ready for "rejection"- if he doesn't feel the same way you do. If that happens though, I hope you all still are friends, but if not, who knows where your relationship may end up leading!
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What are some things college's like to see on a resume(other than good grades of course)? Any reccomendations as to what one might add in order to make a good impression? (link)
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From collegeview.com:
1. Academic ability = includes class rank, type (public v. private, etc.) and strength of classes (honors, AP, etc.)
2. Letter of recommendation by teachers/advisers that know you well
3. essay = includes spelling, grammar, accuracy, ability to follow instructions
4. tests = SAT and ACT.
Other things I've heard:
5. interview (if you live nearby)
6. varying extracurricular activities (and this does not mean just sports! They like lots of activities, but you also have to have a focus- something you're good at and you enjoy.)
7. leadership positions
Most of all though, I wouldn't do these suggestions just to "make a good impression." Universities can tell if you truly enjoy what you're doing. For example- in your essay, write about something you're truly passionate about and they will be able to tell. And don't do extracurriculars just to make your resume look good! Enjoy them, learn a lot, and have fun!
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Well I just recently took an test for Pre-Calc on a section that's supposed to be an introduction to AP Calc. I failed the test but I understand the material and I even did the problems over after getting it back and got them right. My question is, will knowing the material but not doing well on that test jeopordize my chances of getting an A in AP Calc BC? Any study tips or advice for AP classes? (link)
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Well it's not truly the "A" that matters in an AP class- it's the exam. This one test isn't going to jeopardize your future at all. I'd suggest getting a tutor at your school who took the AP last year to give you some advice for what you may see on tests and the AP exam.
If you know the material well, then it's either a matter of 1. not knowing what kind of questions there are on the tests, or 2. making silly arithmetic mistakes (which are unavoidable.) So I would strive to keep your grade up but most of all worry about the exam. Remember, if you're not doing well, you can always visit your teacher and ask questions!! They have taught for the AP exam for many years probably and know what will be on it.
Good luck!
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Whats going on?
ok me and this guy started talking 2 weeks ago, we started talking on aim and on the phone, we would talk to eachother for 6 hours a day on aim and we would sleep in 5am i kinda had a crush on him he's funny and nice. and we were flirty too in a way, and one day we were sharing secrets all the time and he said tell me something that i dont know and i said umm im a natural flirt and he was all haha i knew it and he became a little quiet and he began to talk again, and next day he was okay but he becoming quiet again and he signed off at 2am but he usually stay on till 5am and the next day again he texted me saying "wheres my lunch? haha im at mcdonalds" cause we bet on it and then after that he didnt talk to me on aim like he ALWAYS do cause he always im me right when i get on but now he wont anymore is there something wrong? whats going on?
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To put it simply, he's losing interest.
I just had this happen to me too, over a longer period of time, and I understand where you're coming from.
It's hard to overcome rejection, that's what I'm trying to do right now, but it truly seems like he's losing interest in you and there's nothing you can do about it. You can't force someone to love you or want to talk to you.
As hard as it is, I have been waiting for him to IM me and call me (he hasn't yet.) It may take a long time but I'm going to wait until he wants to talk to me again. It's hard at first but I suggest that for you too.
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im so frickin nervous i screw it up with every girl and i really want to keep this one but its too nerve racking cause ill be ahead in the game then i screw one little thing then its all downhill and i just turn into a big douchbag, i dont know what to do to keep her interested (link)
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The problem isn't you... it's THEM. Obviously you haven't found the right girl for you yet. Sometime, I promise you, you will find the girl for you and she will love you for who you are.
As a side note, though, if you're being disrespectful, ex. calling her names or that type of thing, don't expect to be keeping girlfriends. We girls don't deal with that stuff.
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has anyone here attended the university of pennsylvania, or know someone who has? i would love to go there, but i am well aware that it is one of the most prestigious schools in the country and extremely difficult to get in. i'm at the top of my class and involved in quite a few clubs. unfortunately i havn't done any community service which is most likely a problem. what kind of activities were you involved in during highschool, what were your gpa/class rank and sat scores? my class has about 200 students, so i know i have to keep my class rank up. does having a smaller class make it harder for me to get in? any help will be appreciated, thank you! (link)
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According to MSN Encarta:
Average GPA: 3.83
Average SAT: 1413
Average ACT: 32
According to USA Today:
21.2% acceptance rate
Unfortunately college acceptances are "random," if you will. There is no set activity, GPA, or test score that will guarantee an acceptance. Admissions also vary year to year because of differing applicant pools.
In general, I would try to get in a bit of community service and leadership in your clubs. I would also make a commitment to such service. In other words, don't just do it once or twice, but maybe at the same place biweekly. Colleges like commitment.
With the leadership issue, try to be president of an activity, or hold another leadership position. Universities want students who will stand out. I highly suggest getting into NHS or being a National Merit Scholar. Most students who attend universities such as U of Penn will be in either or both of those. In addition, universities want well-rounded students. They want those who participate and excel in varying extracurriculars.
By the way, I would never consider 200 students to be a "small" class. I go to a private school and mine has 60.
Actually, having a "smaller" class (for a public school, that is) will make your class rank stand out even more, in a good way.
You can do all of this but you still aren't guaranteed admission. By no means will any or all of these suggestions get you in. My best advice would be to actually dedicate yourself to your activities. Don't do them just because they will look good on your application. Have fun doing them and learn a lot! Colleges will be able to see if you enjoy what you do!
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Sorry a little long . please read though
Ok , well me and my boyfriend have been dateing for 11 months . And i cant stand that woman , seriously im not over reacting by no means . She is only nice when its convenint to her and when she feels like it. She pushes her husband around and her kids . My boyfriend got one bad grade on his report card and he's been grounded for 5 weeks now , & today is our 11 month anniversary and she wont even let us see each other at all today , not even for a damn little bit , she is the most horrible person i have ever met , even my whole family doesnt like her . I cant take her bullshit anymore . She doesnt like me and i just know all she wants is for me and him to break up . Iv cryed so much because i couldnt see him today . what do i do ? (link)
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Well I'm not exactly going to answer the question as detailed as the others, but today happens to be my 11 month anniversary as well!
Go March 9 07!
I would agree. Confront her with respect. Have your boyfriend there too though, to handle things in case they get out of control. Whatever you do, keep your cool with her, don't get angry or that will give her more reason to be mad with you.
Good luck... just remember, she's not leaving, so try to deal with her. I'm going through the same thing, not in the magnitude you are, but I somewhat understand. Just really try to not let it bother you, as hard as that may be. Concentrate on how much you love your boyfriend!
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My boyfriend and I have been dating for half a year. He had put me through a lot of crap... All my friend's have told me to break up with him but I never wanted to:( He is starting to get mad at me because I am not always all over him( kissing, hugging and doing other things) He has told my friend that if I dont change then he will break up with me:( I don't want that to happen because I really like him. So I told him that I will try to be all over him and stop being to shy. He has given me another chance but if i blow it this time, he said it will be over:( I really don't want that to happen! So please do what ever yeah can to help me! (link)
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He's using you. If the entire relationship is about THAT to him, then he's a jerk.
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i`m a 16/f.. almost 17. i have sex with my boyfriend, and we use condoms, and he even pulls out. my parents have no idea we're having sex & would completely flip out if they knew. i want to go on birth control - because i have really long periods & because i get very very bad cramps. will birth control help with those? & also, if i tell my mom i want birth control for just cramps, and the doctor asks if i`m having sex - what should i say? if my mom is in the room, i don't want to say yes.
so, what should i do? also, does birth control make you gain weight? (link)
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yes, it will help with cramps and long periods.
also, at the doc's, you can ask your mom to not be in the room. im pretty sure that the doctor can make her leave (if necessary.) but everything you tell the doc is confidential. but don't lie to her. if the doc asks you, say yes. this may affect what type of pill she puts you on
yes, it does make you gain weight. you may need to experiment with different types of pills or patches to see which don't make you gain weight.
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me and my boyfriend have been together for a couple weeks
but weve been talking for like 2 months. i trust him and everything but should i have sex with him?
or should i wait?
im not a virgin so its not like my frist time.
what should i do?
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In my opinion, a couple weeks isn't long enough to determine if you truly love someone.
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i have been dating this guy for over a year & i love him alot and don't want to be with any guy besides him. but, i look at other guys - i talk to them, flirt, etc... and i think it would be fun to kiss one of them, hook up with one of them.. but i don't want to be with them, i just want to be with my boyfriend. i want to be like, a slut for a day, but not a slut.. but i still want my boyfriend.
what should i do? (link)
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I'll keep it short:
If you truly love your boyfriend a lot then you won't cheat on him. At all. Period.
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what do you do when you realize you don't love your boyfriend?
this sounds horrible but im so lost
my boyfriend is so completely in love with me but i dnt feel anything for him... at all
i used to but it's been 6 months and he's lied to me so many times i just get disgusted by him now
and we've broken up 4 times and everytime lasted about a week then its back because he apologizes real well and promises to be better, it really destroys him when we break up and i never want to hurt him. breaking up never works, we always get back together! we were best friends for about a year before we ever started dating so i care for him but i don't love him, im sure of it.
i talk to him, he doesnt get it. the thing is we are so perfect for eachother but i don't feel it with him.
can i make myself love him? (link)
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Alright, if he will lie to you, then he does NOT love you. It doesn't matter if he says he does. Look at his actions! If a guy is truly in love with you he will not do those types of things to you.
And he promises to be better, but keeps lying? 4 break ups isn't acceptable in my book, nor is it in anyone else's.
At this point, I would say it doesn't matter that your break ups "destroy him." He does not truly love you and it probably only "destroys" him because he just likes the fact of having a girlfriend.
Please please please break up with him for one last time. Don't worry about hurting him. He's hurting YOU. You shouldn't put up with this.
This time, when he tries to get back together, DON'T give in. Tell him that it is final and never ever give into him. Teach him a lesson, that you're not going to put up with that, and that you deserve better.
And I'm sure the true guy that is perfect for you will not do these types of things to you. Don't force yourself to love him. End it. You deserve better.
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15/m
my girlfriend wants me to finger her, but i have no idea how. can someone explain it, someone with experience and preferably a guy? and please don't lecture me that i'll regret it or tell me to google it.
thanks a lot (link)
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Hey-
I checked out that website that the last person gave you, and I'll admit that it looks a bit intimidating for a first timer. Let's start with something a bit easier.
Always start easy. Kiss her, just do normal stuff before hand. Then start to work your hand toward that area, slowly, massage her on the way there. Now me personally, I like a lot of clit stimulation, so try rubbing that quite a bit (slow, then fast, then slow again) But I dont mean like totally fiercely of course. They get sensitive quite easily so make sure you aren't going fast for more than about 10 seconds. Now, you can put 1 or 2 fingers in her and massage her there but that doesn't do much for myself or my friends, from what I've heard. So concetrate on the clit. That's what will get her to orgasm. Try different ways of rubbing it (like with your palm, knuckles, etc.) I like when my bf uses knuckles of 3 fingers on my clit and rubs it in a circular motion (put your knuckles right down in the center of it, if she wants to move you she probably will, or you can ask.) She'll probably tell you what she likes best (and that's really how you'll learn.) When shes orgasming do two things: one, keep 2 fingers inside her, it's better when the muscles have something to contract against. Two, keep rubbing her clit. Don't do it soft, that won't help. My bf keeps rubbing my clit pretty hard (but not fierce) when I orgasm and that's when it feels best.
After orgasm she'll be really sensitive, most likely, so stop rubbing her clit after she orgasms. At that point, get down to her level and hold her tight in your arms. She'll need a few minutes to relax. Then, kiss her, massage her, let her calm down.
(oh and sorry im not a guy but i thought i might help!)But I must remind you, all of this is what i personally like best, but this is generally a good way to start and this is what most girls enjoy and get the most out of.
Good luck, and dont be afraid to ask her what she likes!
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I just want to know if anyone else has felt like this and it actully came true. Okay so we both feel like were going to be together forever. And well I do love him and he loves me. Okay so we were best friends for a while befor we went out and well we have been going out for like almost a year now. Well everyone says the key to a relationship is conversation. And we defintly have that. We tell eachother EVERYTHING. Even if its gross or embarassing. WEll basicly we do want to be married in the future .I love him so much :] . and we dont ever think about breaking up and nothing clothes comes to it. But anyways do you think we could be together forever? Like we both beleave we really will . And were 16 now. so im asking you if its possible and if anyone else has felt this way and how it turned out. SORRY THAT ITS SOO LONG . :/ .. THANKS THOUGH :] (link)
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i'm glad there are other decent teenagers on this planet! : ) my boyfriend and i have the exact same thing. we're 15, and we love each other, and we know we're going to get married.
sure it can happen. it happened to my grandparents and two sets of aunts & uncles. and i believe it will happen to me.
good luck!
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