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fingering
15/m
my girlfriend wants me to finger her, but i have no idea how. can someone explain it, someone with experience and preferably a guy? and please don't lecture me that i'll regret it or tell me to google it.
thanks a lot
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Hey-
I checked out that website that the last person gave you, and I'll admit that it looks a bit intimidating for a first timer. Let's start with something a bit easier.
Always start easy. Kiss her, just do normal stuff before hand. Then start to work your hand toward that area, slowly, massage her on the way there. Now me personally, I like a lot of clit stimulation, so try rubbing that quite a bit (slow, then fast, then slow again) But I dont mean like totally fiercely of course. They get sensitive quite easily so make sure you aren't going fast for more than about 10 seconds. Now, you can put 1 or 2 fingers in her and massage her there but that doesn't do much for myself or my friends, from what I've heard. So concetrate on the clit. That's what will get her to orgasm. Try different ways of rubbing it (like with your palm, knuckles, etc.) I like when my bf uses knuckles of 3 fingers on my clit and rubs it in a circular motion (put your knuckles right down in the center of it, if she wants to move you she probably will, or you can ask.) She'll probably tell you what she likes best (and that's really how you'll learn.) When shes orgasming do two things: one, keep 2 fingers inside her, it's better when the muscles have something to contract against. Two, keep rubbing her clit. Don't do it soft, that won't help. My bf keeps rubbing my clit pretty hard (but not fierce) when I orgasm and that's when it feels best.
After orgasm she'll be really sensitive, most likely, so stop rubbing her clit after she orgasms. At that point, get down to her level and hold her tight in your arms. She'll need a few minutes to relax. Then, kiss her, massage her, let her calm down.
(oh and sorry im not a guy but i thought i might help!)But I must remind you, all of this is what i personally like best, but this is generally a good way to start and this is what most girls enjoy and get the most out of.
Good luck, and dont be afraid to ask her what she likes!
<3 Mel
Edit: don't forget to hold her! Try to be somewhat close to her, don't sit a million feet away. The closer you are to her while its happening, the better it will be for her. And you can do other stuff while you're fingering, like feeling up and kissing, but keep the concentration on the fingering.
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I wouldn't dare lecture you, fingering isn't much of a big deal in my eyes. But copy and paste this link, they have some nice techniques:
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