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Im not good at relationships
16/m
Well i have had several girlfreinds and well it usually never works out for me, im never been in a relationship that last longer than 2 or 3 weeks, i dont know what im doing wrong am i picking the wrong girls, or bugging them too much or am i too quiet i really dont know,
I really need help i met this other girl and i really like her and she likes me but im really scared that im going to screw up im not going last with her, i dont want that i want this one to work out fot once any help at all o appreciate it : )
Also im a really nice guy sometimes people take advantage of me but my one big porblem is i worry too much, like if i see sonething and i think its wrong i think the worst even though its not true. sucks but i cant help it.
Thanks once again and any help id apreciate it
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i'm sure that if you're nice and respectful to these girls, you're not doing anything wrong in your relationships. maybe you just weren't finding the right girl.
the way you talk about this new girl, makes me think that you really like her. that's great! maybe you finally found someone where a relationship can last because of your compatibility. my advice would be, ask her out as soon as possible if you like her that much. show interest. let her know that you like her! a girl doesn't want to have to guess if you are interested (this holds true while you are in the relationship as well).
as for during the relationship, be respectful, courteous, sweet, and outgoing. you said you might be a little too quiet... but if you are certain that this girl likes you, you must have done something right when you met her! continue it then. if her interest for you is that certain, it shouldn't be hard to develop a good relationship with her.
my number #1 piece of advice would be to be respectful though. you sound like a nice guy from your question, but i still need to say this. my past relationships have ended because of the way the guys were treating me. If you two fight, remember to stay calm and listen to her. If she's upset, be nice and try not to make her more upset.
also, don't let her take advantage of you. again, it seems that you two clicked, but watch out for any signs of disrespect coming from her or from you. no one deserves to be taken advantage of, and that's the quickest route to a breakup.
as hard as this may be, try not to worry. she's obviously interested in you! go after her and make her yours before it's too late! just keep being yourself and keep doing what you're doing, because she likes you for it : )
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Always, always be yourself especially if your a nice guy. But do not let to take advantage of you or make a pushover out of you. It's not okay for anyone to do that.
Making a relationship work is about compromise. You win some and you'll lose some. But you always want to come to an agreement to make the both of you happy. This won't always happen but that should be your goal.
Making a relationship work is about communication. Always tell her when something is bothering you. Do not keep your feelings bottled up inside because the more you do it, the more it will bother you. Let it out in a reasonable manner.
Making a relationship work is all about honest and trust. Without that you really don't have anything. If you truly trust your girl you won't worry but don't be blind. Trust her but don't play the fool.
Hope I helped some.
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If you have had several girlfriends the problem is obviously not your looks, so it has to be something you're doing to push them away. I don't know you, so I can't tell you exactly what it is but here is the feelings I got when reading your entry...
When you first start dating a person things are supposed to be great. There isn't supposed to be any problems for at least a month, and then they should only be minor. Imagine you are a girl- You have just met this guy who really likes you. He's sensitive and pays you a lot of attention. Things are great. You spend hours talking on the phone, laughing, but also talking about serious stuff. You have never met any one like him your age before-he doesn't buy into all of that macho bull. It seems too good to be true, so you start dating because you feel like you have finally met the right kind of guy. Well, after about two days, he totally changes. You can tell that he really likes you, but now all he does is put himself down, or compare himself to everyone else, including your last boyfriend who you would rather forget. It is almost as if he is purposely trying to convince you to break up with him. Before you started dating, if you wanted to call him, you did, and he was always happy, but now all of a sudden if you don't call him by a certain time, he kind of gets an attitude like he is hurt or angry. He doesn't come out and say he's pissed, but you can tell by the way he's acting. You used to really have fun talking to him because he was so easy going, but now it is like there is so much pressure attached to everything. If you happen to be out with your friends, you can't even have a good time because you are thinking about what he is going to think. You might even have to interrupt the time with your friends so you can step away and call him because you don't want to get him upset, but then when you do step away to call him, he wants to stay on the phone and you want to hang out with your friends, so he gets upset either way. You are damned if you do and damned if you don't. If he would just relax and act like he did before you went out you would be so happy, but now it seems if that boy is gone forever, and you don't want or need the stress of being so responsable for someone else's moods.
Remember kid, relationships are supposed to enhance your life. In your effort to prepare yourself for the worst, you are pushing other people away. You got the girl, she likes you-which is why she wanted to be your girlfriend, so live, let live, and think about things from her point of view without always jumping to the negative assumption.
Also, I could be way off because I don't really know you, so if this all sounds like someone else and not you, please disregard.
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