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Hate his mom ! [ want losts of answers ]
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Ok , well me and my boyfriend have been dateing for 11 months . And i cant stand that woman , seriously im not over reacting by no means . She is only nice when its convenint to her and when she feels like it. She pushes her husband around and her kids . My boyfriend got one bad grade on his report card and he's been grounded for 5 weeks now , & today is our 11 month anniversary and she wont even let us see each other at all today , not even for a damn little bit , she is the most horrible person i have ever met , even my whole family doesnt like her . I cant take her bullshit anymore . She doesnt like me and i just know all she wants is for me and him to break up . Iv cryed so much because i couldnt see him today . what do i do ?
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Well I'm not exactly going to answer the question as detailed as the others, but today happens to be my 11 month anniversary as well!
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I would agree. Confront her with respect. Have your boyfriend there too though, to handle things in case they get out of control. Whatever you do, keep your cool with her, don't get angry or that will give her more reason to be mad with you.
Good luck... just remember, she's not leaving, so try to deal with her. I'm going through the same thing, not in the magnitude you are, but I somewhat understand. Just really try to not let it bother you, as hard as that may be. Concentrate on how much you love your boyfriend!
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i have been with my boyfriend for 2 years. His mother (in all seriousness) has mental problems. she will babble, scream, not make sense, its terrible. she will lash otu at me and scream at me for no reason. so i can relate to you in the fact that we bot dont like our guys mothers.
my advice is to maybe sit down and have a talk with her. you are lucky because its hard for me to have a serious conversation with a woman who desperately needs medication. but anyway, perhaps a private and polite chat might help.
maybe after awhile she will realize you two are serious about each other and might loosen up a bit.
but it sounds like she has a very bossy personality, and unfortunately she may never change. but whats important is you and your bf are happy together. hopefully if you and your bf or maybe your bf and his dad talk to his mom, maybe she will loosen up.
so some tips to deal for now:
-try talking to her. either yyou, your bf, or both of you
-do something to break the ice like bake some cookies to bring over, buy her a small gift,etc.
-have him over your house more often
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Unless you break up with him, his mother isn't going anywhere.
He's a teen, which means no matter how irrational and mean she is, he needs to respect her and abide by her decisions.
It isn't your job to hate his mom. It's your job to support your boyfriend and try to make things better for him.
You aren't going to make things better by flipping out and sobbing because he can't see you today. That makes it worse for him, and things more strained at his home. Support him by listening, not by attacking his mother.
Take a deep breath and perhaps write him a sweet note in honor of your 11 months togeather, then look forward to your one-year anniversry, which is truly worth celebrating.
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When your boyfriend's mom is stressing him out, be there for him in a patient, loving way. Let him rant, comfort him when he needs comforting.
Otherwise there's not much you can do. No matter how much you or your family might hate this woman, she's still his mother. Whatever goes on between your boyfriend and his mom is between them, and ultimately his problem to solve.
Her behavior does suck, but nothing like yelling at her will get you anywhere. Try to stay calm, and see if there's any way you can celebrate your anniversary another time this week.
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