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I don't want a boyfriend
17/f
I don't think I want a boyfriend. I'm very busy with school. I don't want the commitment. I don't want to trust someone like that right now. I know either we'd break up within the next year or it would be even harder moving away in September for college. I'm perfectly capable of getting a boyfriend. My parents really want me to have one, I think it worries them that I don't.
Am I just putting up a wall to avoid getting hurt or am I just better off being single? Is it advisable to lose the excuses or are they valid enough to remain single? Who knew this was such a big deal. Thanks for the advice!
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Girl I am going through the same thing. I feel like there aren't any quality guys out there, and I like working hard for school so I'm indifferent about it right now.
If you are having fun, and enjoying yourself, then don't worry about it. I recently got out of a year and a half long relationship thinking that I would hate being single... but I absolutely love it! You can always worry about relationships later in life anyway. For now, I would say- work hard and enjoy!
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honestly, it's completely upto you.
although i'm not as old as you, i feel the same way. i am perfectly capable of getting a boyfriend and sometimes i wish i had one, although when i think about it, boys my age (16) are very lustful and horny. they say they care and everything just seems really fake.
i, like you, am a very good student and feel like getting a boyfriend would just create more stress for me. it would also make a huge impact on my very good female friends (and i suppose male friends as well). i remember when my old best friend (she still thinks we are best friends) got a boyfriend a year ago. things were never the same, and i don't want to do that to my new best friend.
those are VERY valid reasons. do not be pressured to get a boyfriend if you already have your priorities straight. i am totally with you on this girl. don't give up on looking fabulous though -- if you wear make-up, keep wearing it. and dress nicely so people know that you're not just being a lazy fart. you don't have to prove that you're amazing with a boyfriend.
plus, while being single, you can flirt with any guy you want ;) and who wouldn't want that?! it's freedom and a lot less stress (e.g., worrying about a great birthday / anniversary gift, how to make him feel better ALL THE TIME, etc.)
you'll find the right guy when he comes. you're still young and come college, you'll be a different person with new priorities. i'm actually really proud of you that you're doing this for yourself. you're still an awesome young woman and there's always the opportunity to get a man in your life, so do not sweat it if you don't have / aren't interested in having a boyfriend now.
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