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make me love my boyfriend!
what do you do when you realize you don't love your boyfriend?
this sounds horrible but im so lost
my boyfriend is so completely in love with me but i dnt feel anything for him... at all
i used to but it's been 6 months and he's lied to me so many times i just get disgusted by him now
and we've broken up 4 times and everytime lasted about a week then its back because he apologizes real well and promises to be better, it really destroys him when we break up and i never want to hurt him. breaking up never works, we always get back together! we were best friends for about a year before we ever started dating so i care for him but i don't love him, im sure of it.
i talk to him, he doesnt get it. the thing is we are so perfect for eachother but i don't feel it with him.
can i make myself love him?
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Alright, if he will lie to you, then he does NOT love you. It doesn't matter if he says he does. Look at his actions! If a guy is truly in love with you he will not do those types of things to you.
And he promises to be better, but keeps lying? 4 break ups isn't acceptable in my book, nor is it in anyone else's.
At this point, I would say it doesn't matter that your break ups "destroy him." He does not truly love you and it probably only "destroys" him because he just likes the fact of having a girlfriend.
Please please please break up with him for one last time. Don't worry about hurting him. He's hurting YOU. You shouldn't put up with this.
This time, when he tries to get back together, DON'T give in. Tell him that it is final and never ever give into him. Teach him a lesson, that you're not going to put up with that, and that you deserve better.
And I'm sure the true guy that is perfect for you will not do these types of things to you. Don't force yourself to love him. End it. You deserve better.
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You cant make your self love anyone your heart doesnt wanna love. Hes hurt you by lying to you one to many times in the past. I mean I know its going to be hard to break it off and keep it broken off. But what you can do is break it off and talk to him about it. Talk to him about how you dont wanna be togther anymore. But you still wanna be friends with him. Friends are better then enemys right? You cant force your self to love anyone just like you cant force someone to love you. Being in this relationship when you dont want to is hurting no one but him. Honestly I would break it off, and tell him how you feel and how you cant be in a relationship with him after hes hurt you by lying all the time. Tell him you just want to be frineds. Hope I helped. If you need anything else leave one in my inbox<3
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If he's lied to you loads and you feel nothing for him in a love sense there's nothing you can do, you'll never have that spark again was it's just to late. Surely if he was that madly in love with you he would have stopped lying to keep you? My advice is to talk to him and say you value his friendship too much to destroy it through a relationship that seems to break up every 5 seconds. Make sure he knows you'll still always be there for him when he needs you but you just feel you'd be a better and closer friend to him if you weren't his girlfriend. If you are 'perfect' together maybe that just indicates that you'd be great as best friends rather than boyfriend/girlfriend:)
I hope it works out for you:)
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do not stay in a relationship only because the other person seems to need you. This will only be at your expense and misery. Besides the type that get weird whenyou leave and are needy may become stalkers or abusive. If you really feel you must stay for his feelings then, I would wait until the next time he messes up and break it off. And then stay broke up.
Love is natural, you can not make it.
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If you really do feel there is nothing there anymore then you are only hurting yourself and him by actually forcing yourself to stay in a relationship that will eventually lead to just more hurt for both of you. Unfortunently just like you can't help who you fall in love with you can't force yourself to fall in love with someone. If you really want to try and help things then maybe a small break away from each other might help as well as give you a chance to think about things or maybe even having a romantic night out or something like that (something you both used to do when you both started seeing each other).
The thing is though that you mentioned he has lied to you a lot, that is a really bad thing for a relationship as it tends to eat away at the trust between the couple until it gets to the point you just can't trust the other person at all and you start to second guess everything they say or do. I believe once it gets to that point the relationship starts to take a very fast dive downwards which is probably what has been the flashpoint of the downfall and the cause of why you feel the way you do.
I think you should think things through and decide what it is YOU want. It's really nice that you do care about your boyfriend as well and that you don't want to hurt him but being in a relationship just for that reason is unfair to you and it's unfair to him, imagine how he will eventually feel when he finds out you've been with him so and so long and you never felt anything for him all that time? I won'tlie and yes it will be hard on him (as well as on you) but that's something you can't prevent. Relationships walk hand in hand with getting hurt, it's a part of the deal.
"The hardest thing about growing up is that you have to do what is right for you even if it means breaking someone's heart. Including your own."
--Author Unknown.
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