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you can call me tori.
im fourteen- but know alot for my age.
im taken& he means the world to me.
i love helping people with their problems
and since i've been through a lot it's easy
for me to help& understand.
i have alot of fake friends.
im not even close to perfect.
i hate when people lable.
i like straight-up, outgoing people.
hating me isn't proving anything.
i love to smile.(:
hopefully i'll help most of you

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Well he cheated on me and had
has said a lot of bad things
to me! He made me cry all the
time. But now he has a girlfriend
and should i just move on or stay with him?

ooh whoa. you don't deserve that at alll !
if he cheated on you& made feel like shit
you need to be with someone who makes you
happy not upset. and now that he has a girlfriend i wouldn't even try it because he might just do the same thing to you again if you get back together. personally i would move on even if you love him you need to be with someone who makes you feel good about yourself.

So i had this boyfriend who i really
loved, and he loved me back but we
called things off but i still have
feeling for him but he hurt ALOT
in the past but he also made me really
happy! should just let go of him or
really and make things work?

welll it depends on how bad he hurt you& if you are able to handle it again. you need to have a talk with him and hopefully he will change for you because if you two really love eachother you will make it work, but i can't really tell you what to choose. if i was you i would try to make it work again. talk to him and see if his feelings are still the same& i hope everything works out for you hun

Welp i'm fourteen and I wrote to you before.But I used to have a cutting prob. but I haven't in a long time.It seems I still want to tho.I think it's because my one friend doesn't eat all the time and I hate that!She's already tiny-pff.But it seems to be a thing for girls to not eat anymore.I don't get it.She says it's wrong to cut..but it's not good to not eat when your already a size 2.She looks sick and pale.She can't cover it up;really.I talk to her but then she will bring up my prob.I want to help her.I think I do but then she ends up doing it over and over again.Ugh;can you help me help her? Thnks.

Well she's right cutting isnt good. i've had that problem before too& it's not good& i've thought about doing it recently. and her not eating probably doesnt help you because shes making it harder- she must have a problem though& you should tell her parents or have your's tell hers because that's not healthy at alll since i've also went through that too. hopefully if you tell someone close to her they will notice it too and get her into help. she really does need it& if she wants to stay healthy she needs to do it the right way. i hope you can get her help& i hope you help yourself too because cutting isnt the awnser- you two should try& help eachother out.

Ok so all my friends are shaving their legs and i use hair removal cream, the problem is i want to shave but it hurts kind of and i feel like im punishing my self for being a girl or something.
Should i just put up with it or what? im 13 so i pretty much have to but im blond so I can avoid it for now, help!!!

well first see if your mom is okay
with it& if she is and you still want
to go it then have her help you the first
couple of times you do it& use good shaving
cream. hair removal cream is good for now
if your that scared to do it because sometimes
i use it in spots i cant get when i shave.

So me and this on guy date for awhile but broke up. and we still act like we are together and wants to get backk together but im not sure what i want to do because he has hurt me in the past and i am afraid of getting hurt again. so should i get back with him or just forget about him?

i personally wouldnt go back with him if he hurt you& save yourself the pain. you have to ask yourself if you want to go through that again. if you are afraid of getting hurt you might not want to go with him find someone you know wont do that to you. because really why would you wanna do that to yourself agian ? i say you should try to forget about him if its easy enough; but maybe just be friends with him.

i like this guy and he says he likes me, we talk on the phone constantly and weve hung out like every day this week. well i kinda asked him out but he never answered. and hes asked me out in the past a couple times but that was like 2 years ago. we went to the movies and held hands and stuff and everyone can tell we like each other;we flirt like 24/7. hes even told me he would love to kiss me but doesnt wanna screw anything up. so how do i get him to finally get the balls to ask me out?

first of tell him that kissing you wouldnt screw anything up because you wouldnt mind it. when you talk on the phone or hang out; see if hes wanting a relationship now. maybe he thinks you dont want to date him anymore. make sure he knows you asked him out also maybe hes just nevous about it

14/female

My relationship with my best friend is falling apart. Last summer was the summer of my life. We had a huge group of friends; 6 of us girls. then we parted over the summer, and i became close with this girl.. and we went everywhere together. we were all each other had for a friend basically. then we entered highschool. of course we had problems with like friends and stuff, but then in the past couple months things have been horrible. ive cried the past few nights just because she is being really rude to me.. and i didnt do anything wrong. she says something is wrong, then we talk and she is fine.. then the next day its back to square one. im just really confused.. and i odnt know what to do with summer coming up. she has all her friends i dont fit in with.. and i feel really awkward with them. i just, dont want to lose her.. and our relationship means a lot to me. sometimes though, i feel as if she uses me.. and doesnt understand my feelings. [im really emotional].. idk, im not one to stick up for myself.. but i am thinking about saying something to her about it. i just, dont know what to do. and i really need help. so, i hope this wasnt too long and confusing, but thank you for reading it.

you should defanitly talk to her about it i know your probably nervous because you dont want to make matters worse than what they already are but you shouldnt hold stuff like that in. sounds like shes having some mood swings and maybe going threw a lot and now shes taking it out on you. thats why you need to talk to her and see what her problem is. tell her that your relationship means alot to you and your only trying to make everything better if she starts to get an aditude with you about it.

13/f
they did hagout she went w/ him and now he asked me to hangout and idk if i should be mad at him or not b.c he tells me he hates her and stuff but my friends tell me they are like all around each other all the time and idk he knows i still like him and all

yes you have a right to be mad. hes basically telling you what you want to hear so then you'll hang out with him. he does sound like the player type now, and you deff dont want to deal with that because i did before and i even screwed freinds over for him and it wasnt even worth it because i ended up hurt. i'd try to stay away from this boy even if you do like him, you can be his friend but try not to be anything more

so i have this friend and she is really retarded and i dont want to be mean to her or anything but how do i tell her that she needs a fucking life besides acting like a total dickkkk all the time!?!?!

fuckkkkkkkk offfff chelsea =)

i dated this guy and we broke up after like a week. i really like him. and he says he likes me. but he wont ask me out. his friend and my friend are dating and they've been trying to get him to ask me out but he wont. the thing is that i really like him. he's had a lot of girlfriends. people say hes just a player but i havent seen that side of him. what should i do?

well if you dated him before and he didnt seem like a player to you then you shouldnt worry about it. dont listen to other people whatever makes you happy; just do it. he might just want to figure himself out before he gets a girlfriend so thats probably why hes not ask you yet. and just because hes had a lot of girlfriends doesnt mean hes a player unless hes done stuff to prove he is. dont give up on him yet my guess is he'll come around

15/f
ok so this guy i used to date for a while is just now starting to talk to me again. and i just now started getting over him, cause he took my virginity and everything so it was hard to move on.
since he started talking to me im scared im gonna end up falling for his bullshit again.
and the other guy i like is in rehab and me and him are supposed to get together when he gets back but thats in 3 weeks. and i havent really talked to him since he left.
im just scared ill end up falling for my ex again, and i dont want to cause he went out with me for sex, treated me like shit and cheated on me like 10 times.

how do i avoid this?

you need to avoid him; if he calls you dont pick up the phone and also dont call him back. if you see him around and he asks you why you havent talked make the convo short and tell him your busy. dont agree to go on dates or just talk to him because then you might fall for his sweet words that he's going to use. you know that he hurt you so you have to remind yourself that you would never want to go back to that. well i hope i helped you some

13/f
so i like this boy and we like went on and off but we dated for awhile but we btoh still like each other and he like asked me out but i didnt say nothin then 1 of my friends told me he called 1 of my other friends to see if she wanted to hangout i mean i kno we aint datin but i dont think it is right to do that idk i think he miht be usin me or something but i like him so.... much

well i hope your friend didnt hang out with him or thats not really a friend. he still likes you& you still like him so let him know that. that might be why he asked her to hang out. show more interest in him and ask him to watch a movie or just come over and talk with you. and your right thats not okay to do- make sure if you two will date again that he is only going to be with you

Do capri's and flats go together or is that totally dorky? I don't like wearing flip flops to school. Thanks!

yes& if you wear a kinda dressy shirt that brings out the shoes. it'll look great(:

13/f
ok well there is this popular girl in the 7th grade lets call her erin. well we went on a field trip today and after we went to dairy queen and then one of my best guy friends lets call him billy got his hand stuck in this mailbox thing and i tried to get it out and erin passed by and was like ok you guys stop flirting and holding hands and i was thinking wtf and i walked away so she went out the door and there was a bunch of 6th and 7th graders sitting out there and then erin was like omg you guys samantha (lets call myself that) and billy are going out and they were laughing and stuff i heard from inside then one of my BFF's came inside and was like omg samantha your going out with billy and all that stuff and i told her no and every1's coming up to me and asking me that and i DO NOT like billy, not now nor everr and im soo sick of it this girl erin starts so much shit i hate her soooo effin much and i wanna get even, i DONT CARE if its wrong and its the end of the school year i wanna do something to get her back, she has a boyfriend if that helps thanks guyss

im not gonna lie; this "erin" chick sounds like a real bitch. and she probably only says shit like that because shes jealous of what you have with this kid because even if she has a boyfriend its possible she might like him. i've seen alot of girls do that. dont try to get her back because whatever your doing now is bothering her& she will finally get sick of it and stop. if not& you really have too just scream/yell at her and ask wtf is up.

Ok for years there's been dots on my arms and they aren't freckles.

It's only on my arm above my elbow and it's goose bumps but it will never go away and I'm always hot so it can't be that I'm cold.

Is it really bad? How do i get rid of it? Will I die?

I have bumps on my arms& legs also; they arent that noticable unless you are looking for them but i had to have my mom take me to the skin doctor& get cream for it. so its probably not goose bumps just a skin problem- so you wont die; dont worrry!

Ok, i am 13/f and i dont know if i should shave down there. What are all the other girls doing, shaving it all, some, or none?

not to be gross or rude but if you have alot of hair down there then it would be better to shave down there. dont shave it all though; just maybe the bikini line so when you wear a bathing suit you dont see any hairs.

Hi;i'm 14/f.

I need help.I feel the need to tell a friend to stop talking to this boy.I think it's to late.He's alittle older and tells her to sneak out so they can do ''fun stuff''.Hum..wonder what that is.I mean she tells me she won't but I know he could talk her into it.I know when he moves out or away she'll be heart broken.Then she won't eat;this is something she likes to do when she's upset.When I talk to her about it she won't listen and sometimes that makes me mad.I don't mean to talk behind her back but I can't help it.I want to help her.But now she says she LOVES him.I don't want her to get hurt and have to get even thiner.Ugh.What should I do?

well your not really talking behind her back you just trying to help. she needs to understand that your just trying to be a good friend and help her. you really need to get her to eat again; talk to you other friends and see if they noticed this too. or even if they dont sit her down and have a one on one talk& let her know that your worried no matter how mad she gets she needs to know this. he doesnt sound like a very good boyfriend it almost sounds as if he just wants to do stuff with her than puts stuff in her head. maybe thats why shes also upset; if it gets any worse you might need to tell her mom or an adult that she is close to go get help

Theres this girl I know& her names tori kellar& she's like suppper pretty. :)
& I loooove her aloot.

im not sure who this is but thank you.

hi, i am a 14/f
i need some help. okay well i like me best friends ex boyfriend& yeah he's adorable& stuff (; but i think she likes him because she still acts like it& you know when you can tell yeahhh; i can tell!& it annoy's my because she knows i like him n' stuff but idk& she EVEN has a boyfriend i can't stand it i mean her boyfriend is sooo nice to her n' stuff but idk, she just uhhh& i love her to death i mean she is my best friend but i don't want to say anything because there [were] dating n' not no more so i am trying too stop liking him because she likes him n' i know it& i am just tired of not likeing someone because someone likes them! it annoy's me so what should i do?? please help!

well thats first of all not right of your best friend to act like she still likes him when she knows that you like him& because second she has a boyfriend. she is probably just trying to make you jealous that she once had him so she still acts like she could get him back. and it happeneds all the time with girls two or more girls usually like the same guy; you just have to want to make yourself happy and go for it. dont keep giving up just because someone else likes him because chances are that boy coulda liked you. telll you best friend that she needs to make up her mind because she cant have her cake and eat it too.

I'm a teenage girl who is about 20 pounds overweight (5'2 1/4" and 154 lbs) and I always wear one pieces but I'm going to a resort in a few days and I would really like to try wearing a bikini because I feel liek I actually look better in one because it shows off these feminine curves that I have better.

Do you think people would stare at me because I'm not thin? (i do have the hourglass body type) When I sit down my stomach sort of has these rolls and it hangs over my waist... So that makes me uncomfortable...

I just don't know what to do. I don't want to be gawked at...

Also- what kind/color of a bikini should I get that will make me look thinner?

thanks

no they shouldnt stare at you& actaully if you have curves thats not a bad thing most guys like that. i dont think you are overweight either but it depends on how you feel with your body. but people should also understand that you are a teen so your body is still growing and changing. dont worry about the stomach thing mine does that all the time too. and if you are gawked at still ask them what they are looking at =) and a good bikini color would be maybe black or a darker color. good luck& have fun!

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