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Hey. Pretty much all you need to know is that I love giving advice. And no question is too out there, as long as it is serious. So ask away! =]
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OKEY WELL WHERE TO START LETS SEE..UMM iM 17 && A GiRL && i HAD SEX FOR THE FiRST TiME LiKE A WEEK AGO ON TUESDAY && iT WAS WiTH MY EX. NO WE WERENT DATiNG AT THE TiME..BUT WE JUST HAVE A VERY CONFUSiNG RELATiONSHiP [MORE LiKE BEST FRiENDS] [JUST A LiTTLE SEXUAL LOL] BUT YEAH iT THAT WAS ALL FiNE && ALL. BUT THEN LiKE FRiDAY ONLY 3 DAYS LATER i HAD SEX WiTH SOMEONE ELSE. [iT KiNDA JUST HAPPENED] && i FEEL REALLY GUiLTY ABOUT iT. BECAUSE i LOST MY ViRGiNiTY[SOMETHiNG THAT i HELD DEARLY] && WiTHiN ONE WEEK i HAVE ALREADY HAD TWO SEX PARTNERS. i JUST WANT TO KNO iF THAT MAKES ME A WHORE. SiNCE LiKE NiETHER ONE OF THEM WERE MY ACCTUAL BOYFRiEND. && NOW THE SECOND BOY THAT i ''DiD iT' WiTH DOESNT EVEN TALK TO ME [HE AVOiDS ANY CALLS OR TEXT] iM TOTALLY CONFUSED. WAT SHOULD i DO. && DOES THiS MAKE ME A BAD PERSON?? PLEASE ANSWER HONESTLY. THNX. =]]]]
Okay. Well it seems to be pretty common for good friends to have sex, and if your okay with that being your first time then that is great! Now about being a "whore", i would definitely disagree. For one, you're 17 and bound to make mistakes because of being sexual. I know exactly how that is. And for two, if you are able to admit that what you did was wrong then you are for sure not a whore. A whore would look at that situation and feel proud. You don't. You're only human. And it's great that you realize that it was a mistake. Now about this boy, idk if you just met him or what, but it seems like he may have just wanted you for sex and sex only. But i dunno how your relationship has been with him in the past, so thats a tough one to answer. Boys really don't make sense sometimes. But just know you are by no means a bad person. You simply made a mistake. As long as you can forgive yourself then it will be okay. I hope this helped!
My boyfriendsgonna say the three big wordss to me!
I'm pretty sure that I love him, but what are some things that you could say back? Like if he says "I love you," and then I say "I love you too" he'd think I was just saying that cuz he did.
Or what if someone said I love you and you didn't love them back what would you say in that situation!?
You can answer only one if you don't feel like doing both I won't rate down =]
well i dont have experience with not saying anything back, so sorry. but with the saying i love you back... i think a really cute and simple way to do it is for him to say it and then u give him a litte kiss and smile and say "i love you". just like he did. my boyfriend did this to me and i melted. its simple but soo cute.
okay, so there is this guy that of my friends were talking about and he seemed really nice.. and they were like omg you and him would go good together and they said he would deff. like me...
...so i was talking to other people about him and i found out he is my ex's neighbor and they hang out a lot and my ex told him stuff about me (they said it was good stuff that he told him but idk)
and everyone is saying that him and i would make a great couple and everything but...we've nvr met sooo...
do i try to hang out with him and get to kno him or do i just forget about him?
---he's the same age as me but he's not going to my school next year---
thanks!!!
get to know him! you have nothing to lose. and if your ex is saying good things about you, chances are he doesn't mind. if thats even a concern of yours. as long as u are interested in potentially being with someone then i dont see why not! i would suggest hanging out with him and other friends too. you dont want it to be awkward, especially if your not interested in each other. i hope it goes well!
how do i ask a girl to hook up with me? like what is a smooth i guess pick up line? example scenario would be at a party, and i have been talking to and flirting with a girl the whole night.
okay. well, no pick up lines. as a girl i know that most of the time they are very cheesy. and not all girls are into that. so i'd be safe and not do that. just stick with something simple. girls appreciate simple things. like "you look really pretty". something like that.
and about the hooking up.. most girls wouldn't want some guy to ask them to hook up. that comes with time. some girls less time than others. just laugh a lot at what she says and compliment her. and you should be "hooking up" in no time.
right this is guna sound weird but do you realy like some one then start seeing them then you love them??? and what is love??? please help me out
let me put it short and simple.
you know when you love someone.
there are no questions or concerns. you just know.
if someone asks you if you love someone and you say "hmm well i dont know i guess so.." that isnt love. love is when you can say "yes" and be 100 percent sure about it.
i know its hard when you want love and wanna know how its found and when youll have it. but itll come. and youll know. and itll be wonderful. thats all.
hope that helped.
i like this guy im not sure if he likes me but i want to ask him out i get really emmbrassed infront of popular guys because some are mean.
i have 2 things:
1. make sure you have a pretty good feeling that this guy is into you. you don't wanna end up looking foolish.
2. make sure if u do decide to go for it and ask him out, that its not in front of a bunch of his friends. guys, especially "popular" ones, tend to act different around their friends so who knows how he'd respond even if he did like you. if its just you 2 alone, you will most likely get the real honest answer out of him
i hope this helps a bit! good luck
I have a few stained teeth. Like.. there's red-orange ish scratch like marks on my teeth. Stained.. I had braces for like 3 years and my teeth were a bit stained where the glue stuff was.
How do i fix it without getting it bleached professionally [I don't have the money]
I don't smile because of it.
I would love to start smiling again.
well you could try whitening toothpaste but i know this may not work too well.
i have heard many great things about crest white strips. they're not too expensive and i heard they work miracles on teeth! there are other inexpensive bleaching methods too like that stuff you brush on your teeth that comes in little bottles. it may taste kind of bad but it gives results!
ok so like every other story theres this bot and well i THINK i like him. he is my best guy friend tho and sometimes its hard to see him a more then just a friend but we flirt alot and he does these clusty embarressing things that r really cute and i feel so comferbal around him its like even the embarressing things just feel fine. some of my friends think he likes me but i just dont maybe its because im afarid of losing and amazing friend. so many people thought we were going out and we couldnt figure out why but one of my frieds told me we hang out and act like a couple! im so confused sometimes it feels like we are a couple and sometimes were just friends. im afriad if i tell him and he doesnt feel the same are friendship might be weird and odd please help me should i tell him or wat exactly should i do? please HELP!!!
Okay. It sounds to me like this guy likes you. If you are not 100 percent sure though, just test him a bit. Try scooting closer to him when you're talking or touching his shoulder when you laugh.. you know all that stuff. If he responds well to it, its a sure sign hes into you. This way you don't have to worry about feeling weird around him.
You said your very comfortable around eachother and this is probably the number 1 most important thing when it comes to a relationship. And if you think that you see him as something more than a friend, there isn't any reason not to go for it. You could just bring it up as a joke casually. And see how he repsonds to it. If you're more comfortable, you could mention it seriously, but only if your totally sure that he likes you in that way.
i hope that helped! goood luck
okay so my crush whatever you wanna call it well best friend since 1 st grade friend
i told him i liked him and he said he likes me to alot...
so i said i like you you like me does this mean anything?
and he said "taylor... im really sorry i like you alot probably more then you like me but i have a girlfriend an i dont want to leaveher... im sorry"
and i said its okay an i left
well we are still friends he said he thought i looked pretty today
but i wanna be his girlfriend his only girl but it just hurts how he feels the same way but wants to be with another girl
what should i do
an dont say "move on" because i cant okay
i've known him since 1st grade an liked him since fourth an i cant just forget about someone like that
from,
extremely confused girl
Alright. There really isn't anything you can do other than talk to him. Tell him that he's messing with your emotions and you're confused. Say that if he really likes you then he would do something about it. He needs to know that he can't go on with one girlfriend and one girl who he likes a lot, telling her how pretty she is, etc. This will just mess up everyones emotions.
You need to let him know that if he truly likes you he would end it with this girl. Most importantly, you can't let him think that he can keep messing with your head. Tell him that its now or never. This way, if he acts on it, you'll know that he really cares.
hope i helped. good luck
i've been going out with this adorable junior for 4 months now. at first, i never thought it would work out because im the freshman girl who is shy and has never been with a guy before. but since the first time we met he took my heart. things have been going great, but im afraid he dedicated himself too much to me?
To me, it just doesn't seem right. He's Mr. Popular, quarter back of the football team and like abercrombie model looks; and im just the freshman girl. we've gone as far as oral but in the past month i've really wanted to have sex with him. i ask him all the time about it but he said he doesnt want to. (He already had sex before by the way.) He said he doesn't want to take the thing away from me that is most precious unless i love him.
You dont understand though, like i WANT to have sex with him so bad, but he doesn't want to take it away from me at such a young age unless im sure i love him. He tells me he loves me but it's hard for me to say "i love you" back and really mean it.
Does he not like me anymore? It's just he's so nice and i know for a fact he never cheated on me before or is seeing another girl. Should i drop the whole sex subject?! PLEASE HELP!
Okay. Well in my opinion, are are one extremely lucky girl. You are with a boy who cares about you and not just having sex. In highschool, this is RARE.
Don't push this. 4 months really isn't as long as it sounds. you should be able to enjoy being with him without having sex. ESPECIALLY since you said that you can't say you love him back.
It seems that he likes you so much that he will say i love you and mean it and will wait until you know that you both love eachother for sure. If that isn't perfect i dont know what is. It sounds like you're pretty special to him if he insists on waiting. This doesn't mean he doesn't like you. It means he REALLY likes you.
Don't let your hormones get in the way of something this great. When you know that you love him, then you can make these kinds of decisions together. Just please keep in mind that you have soo many more years ahead of you. Please don't rush it!
i hope that helped.
I asked the other question about gymastics! I have another question...
Do you know of how i can do the hurkies? Or whatever it's called. Where one leg goes staright and stuff. I'm really new to this, and i'm a sophmore but i really want to make the team and to make it i have to have a backhandspring so i have been starting to go to gymnastics. i'm not that great, so if you konw how to do one; any tips on that?
:) it's a standing back handspring.
anything'll helpp!
hmm im actually not familiar with all of these gymnastic things. i know toetouches and splits because im on poms and we do those all of the time. i think i know what a hurkie looks like and i can try to look up some stretches and/or muscle toners for them. if i can find anything ill get back to you!
i just recently started tanning in a bed and do u know what the difference is between a lay down and stand up bed? and when they offer the lotion what good does the lotion they offer at the tanning salon do anyways?
in a lay down bed you are laying down. these are the most typical. however, i feel that when i use these i don't get the greatest tan full through. i love love love the stand up ones! you just go into a little circular bed and stand in it. it may feel a bit weird the first time you do it but it gives great results throughout the whole body.
i personally don't use the lotion just because its like 40 bucks a bottle and i think thats kind of ridiculous. its just supposed to open up your pores so that your skin can take in the tan for better results. i would suggest that if you will be tanning for a long time, like a month or 2 or more, don't get the lotion. you will see great results without it. however, if u have a short amount of time to tan, like only a few weeks, i would consider using it for fast results.
I'm really bored.I like to try new things and start fun projects like combining archietecture,photoghraphy and sculpture into a single art work.I just want to have fun.Please could you think of something fun for me to do.Any suggestions are appreciated.
you could make a cool collage for your room with pcitures of your and your friends and family.. that symbolizes your life. or you could make one for a friend. those are always the best gifts!
hope that gave u some ideas.
Lets say you post questions on this site and you get the answers you love, however, a family member reads the advice and disagrees with what was written but you love the advice would you just ignore your family member and go by the answers you received on this site. Thanks.
There is a difference between advice you love and want to hear and advice that you need to hear. Many people on this site tend to sugar-coat their responces.
For example: My boyfriend broke up with me a few weeks ago but i still like him. Do you think he could possibly still like me?
What you want to hear would be: Yess of course there is a chance! I'm sure he'll ask you out again in no time! Just be patient!
What you NEED to hear would be: There is always a chance, but i'd imagine that if he broke up with you and hasn't mentioned anything about it, he isn't planning on getting back with you. Don't get caught up on this one guy. It's a mistake so many of us make.
Understand? A lot of time the advice we need to hear isn't what we want to hear at all. And chances are if someone who knows you personally has something to say, it is worth considering.
I really hope this helped!
Do any of yall have any new cingular phones? i looked online but i dont really like how some of them look. they are like.. all black. but if anyone has a cool one let me know! im gettin a new phone!
i too have the razr. they're always coming out with new colors for it and new covers which actually look really good. the only complaint i have about it is that the battery doesn't last as long as i'd like. but as long as you charge it every night it's a great phone!
15/f
This guy used to like me about three years ago. I was ridiculously stupid and immature back then, so I didn't act on it. I even thought it was gross that he liked me. But after I rejected him, I started liking him. And I haven't stopped since.
My interest in guys went way down, and I started questioning whether I was straight or not. But now I'm starting to realize that I think it's just been because I've liked him all of these years. I haven't had any classes with him since he liked me, and I haven't even talked to him since. I'm also A LOT different and more reserved now than I was then, so I don't even think he'll like what I am now. I don't even like what I am now, which is not attractive to guys, I know.
What do I do to either a) get him off of my mind, or b) get him to notice me?
I only see him pass me in the halls and such.
Thanks so much to whoever read this whole thing. I'll rate 5 to whoever answers.
ill put it simply.
this sounds so corny and oversaid.
but i really truly believe that you have to be happy with yourself before being happy with anybody else in your life. you need to think to yourself: who do i want to be? and act on it. once you learn to like the person you are then it's time to find the person who will accept and love you for who you are.
i always believe that if you have real feelings for a guy you should go for it. what do you have to lose? find out what his aim screen name is or if you both have myspaces send him a comment saying long time no talk, something like that. even something subtle like giving him a little smile if he looks at you in the hall. hopefully he'll get the hint that you want to become close with him again.
hope this helped!
ok well this story is kinda long so i apologize. anyways well this guy and i were getting along great together. it started in my art class when i didnt even know he existed but he was aware of me. he would try to talk to me and i would but i wouldnt be crazy about it. but then he started to grow on me. and i started to like him. so i would talk to him he would talk to me, he would tease me, play with me, walk to class with me, actually walk with me alot, stare at me, and he did this thing where he would always ask me to do favors for him and i would smile and kinda soft yell thing and said no and so he kept doing that and it would be like, "can you get my shoes or books?" ect and then one day in the lunch line he asked me for another favor and i thought maybe you should say yes and i said yes and he said nevrmind and im like what tell me and he told me he just wanted to see me mad. so this went on for a while untill one day all of a sudden he stopped talking to me. ignored me and everything. he walked with me to class but as we were walking it was just silence and we would always be talking about something. i would try to talk to him and hed ignore me and i didnt know what was up. so i tried to plan what i was gonna do with him everyday to try to get things back to normal but they didnt work. so i said i give up and gave up on him. and so i wanted to get over him really bad because i was feeling pain becuz i missed everything we would do. so i thougt the best thing to do was to get mad at him. so here and there he talks to me but i ignore him or talk in a mean tone. but today which kinda shocked me he started flirting with me a little bit. he was blocking me from going up the stairs and i was happy but i didnt show any smiling. my emotion was kinda like leave me alone i dont wanna be bothered with anyone right now. ok so here is the whole question. am i doing the right thing or should i start being nice to him letting this being a wake upcall telling me there is still hope? or should i keep being mean to him??? and why do you think he stopped all of this?? that someone heard my best friend and i talking and told him. and then if i should be nice to him how do i talk to him again?? thank you so much and sorry this letter was so wrong. thanks again:)
i feel that you two tend to be too sarcastic towards eachother and don't get your real feelings out. i would be nice to him, and not make jokes as much unless he seems to want to. just don't be jokingly mean because this can always be misinterpreted. i've learned that the hard way.
i'd smile at him and start to slowly talk with him again. if he sees that you're willing to talk to him then he'll put in his own effort if he likes you.
i hope i helped! good luck
I was wondering if anybody knew anything about hypnosis and if it works for public speaking and even if you don't know anything about it do you think it would work.
i personally don't know much about the art of hypnosis, but i know that it doesn't tend to work on most people. honestly i think it's a load of bs. but thats just me.
i feel that the only way to really get over the fear of public speaking is to get pracice; do it in front of family members and friends. that's what i do when i have to talk in front of a group of classmates who im not necessarily comfortable talking in front of.
hope that helped somewhat!
Dancing is Fitness right? okay so my "friend" wants to freak with her bf and she dosent know how so of course she asks me. and so how do you freak dance? ha serously my friend wants to know and i wanna seem smart and answer her but im pretty innocent and i dont know
A sexually suggestive form of dancing that includes grinding the hips and pelvic area.
i found that on www.answers.com
it's pretty much another word for the term "grinding".. pretty much just dancing very sexually and close with your dancing partner, thrusting back and forth and all that jazz. you can do this facing them, or with your back to them which is more common.
hope that helped!
any advice on how to get a split, fast?
i need one by april.
and a toe touch, i need that by april too.
does any of you know how to make one quickly? stretches for it. PLEASE know what you're saying when you answer, it'd sure help.
alright for splits, i'd pretty much say what the other 2 told you. just stretch every night and blah blah blah. it does work.
but make sure that for toe touches, when your stretching your middle splits, TURN OUT YOUR LEGS. hopefully you know what this term means. instead of simply sitting in the middle straddle, turn your feet out so that you feel a deeper stretch throughout your legs. itll be harder to stretch but it is essential for your toe touches. i learned this the hard way. i had my middle splits alll the way down and had the worst toe touches. i learned that it was because i had a really bad turn out.
another GREAT way to work on a better turn out is to sit with your legs apart,turned out, but not nearly as far apart as they go. place your hands tightly around one leg, palms down. one hand on each side so that you are turned slightly on an angle. (this is done one leg at a time). now lift your leg without moving any other part of your body. its going to be hard the first time you try it. do around 10 reps and as you get better, move your legs out further and further.
lastly, it's important to have strong quads in order to have a good toe touch, so do quad stretches such as squats. these give amazing results!
okay i know that was long so sorry but i hope it helps! good luck.