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Confused
15/f
This guy used to like me about three years ago. I was ridiculously stupid and immature back then, so I didn't act on it. I even thought it was gross that he liked me. But after I rejected him, I started liking him. And I haven't stopped since.
My interest in guys went way down, and I started questioning whether I was straight or not. But now I'm starting to realize that I think it's just been because I've liked him all of these years. I haven't had any classes with him since he liked me, and I haven't even talked to him since. I'm also A LOT different and more reserved now than I was then, so I don't even think he'll like what I am now. I don't even like what I am now, which is not attractive to guys, I know.
What do I do to either a) get him off of my mind, or b) get him to notice me?
I only see him pass me in the halls and such.
Thanks so much to whoever read this whole thing. I'll rate 5 to whoever answers.
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a foreword: you are a fifteen year old female which means you are still immature. this will continue for years, it is part of life.
as for guys and what they think is attractive; it varies. it is different for every male. some guys love mystery, some straight-forwardness. it is a spectrum that gives the great wall a run for its money.
i say do nothing. enjoy being young and single and not having to worry about anyone else. it will keep things less complicated. relationships are for when you get a bit older, that is one thing i have realized. there is no point in adding undue pressure in your life at this time.
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ill put it simply.
this sounds so corny and oversaid.
but i really truly believe that you have to be happy with yourself before being happy with anybody else in your life. you need to think to yourself: who do i want to be? and act on it. once you learn to like the person you are then it's time to find the person who will accept and love you for who you are.
i always believe that if you have real feelings for a guy you should go for it. what do you have to lose? find out what his aim screen name is or if you both have myspaces send him a comment saying long time no talk, something like that. even something subtle like giving him a little smile if he looks at you in the hall. hopefully he'll get the hint that you want to become close with him again.
hope this helped!
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Well here is what you need to consider. You have to pick one of those options before any of this advice will help.
First thing that I am going to say is that you arent "not attractive to guys," no matter how you look, some guy will like you out there. And looks arent everything, it's your attitude, so if you feel that you are going through a slump in your attitude areas then you need to think about what your good and bad traits are and express your good ones, and single in on your bad ones so that you canfix whatever is fixable.
As far as the guy problem, He probably has moved on, but chances are if you've moved on and tried to become a better person, then chances are he's matured as well. He probably has moved onto a place in his life where things are different and his perspective on things is also different so why don't you try to figure out if you are ready to be with a person like him, or maybe you need to work on some self esteem issues (that you may or may not be having, I don't know you, but we all have them sometimes, so maybe that is what is effecting your decision) and wait a little bit longer until you feel better about yourself and are confident enough to ask this guy out.
Whether he will go out with you or not wil depend on a few things. He liked you and it took alot of courage to ask you out, then you rejected him. Answer this question okay? Did you reject him the way you would want to be rejected or in that immature way you were talking about before. Because if you did it immaturely then it's probably not a good idea that you ask him out, because he'll just try and get revenge and end up hurting you. So what you should do then, is tell him that you are sorry for acting that why and playing with his feelings, and then get over him.
How to get over him, well for everyone that needs MOVING ON TIPS Here are a few:
Join a club or sport, this will alow you to make new friends (meet new and possibly date-able {boy and girls}) as well as work on self esteem issues that everyone has.
Go to away games with friends. Watch a sport that you want to get to know more, and meet people who are also interested in the game. As well going to away games lets you meet people you don't see at school everyday and get to know other people.
Don't let what (s)he said get you down. It doesnt matter what they said. You'll find someone better, and only when you're ready. Just because they have a new date doesnt mean you need one.
Whether you date the person you are getting over or not, it doesnt matter it can still be just as hard to get over them.
Surround yourself with friends and family as often as possible, and write about your experiences. Use creativity to express your feelings. Try to find closure by writing a letter to him/her and telling them how you feel. If you are moving on from something other than a relationship (such as death or something else alike) try buying a bunch of balloons and letting them go to symbolize letting them go (this does work for relatioships, but usually you dont need to go that far, ~!this may be the case for you, because if you ar trying to get over the chance of being with him, then releasing balloons can help you get over him!~)
- also, sorry for writing all of those tips so generally, but people have been asking me for moving on tips, so I thought I might kill a few birds with one stone, hope you don't mind.
If you want to get him to notice you, then you need to come you and say something to him, it's as simple as that. Tell him what you told us, that you made the mistake of rejecting him, and talk to him about how you have matured and changed. See what he says.
For the most part, the decision is all yours, but you have to listen to your heart and decide whether or not to take the step to ask him out or not. I hope that I gave you some ideas about what ou have to figure out. But I hope that you will rate my advice for what it is. I am not on this site to get all fives, and I want to honestly know if this is great advice or if it sucks and I need to fix it for next time. So please respond to this advice with feedback that is accurate. If I get a 5 thats great, but if not, I don't mind as long as it is fair. Good luck with ______ and I hope that you can make the decision that is right for you. Hope I helpped.
Love,
Angie91
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I would just try to become friends with him. You never know - he could fall in love with your personality instead of your looks. That's what you really want anyway. You probably aren't ugly and unless he's a jerk and likes you for the right reasons, he won't care.
I hope I helped!
M.
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hey! you sound like this is a rough time for you. boys defffff. suck sometimes but for you a) you can start to talk to other guys b)talk to him write him a note wave to him walk up to him at his locker be yourself the one he used to know
oh & im sure your beautiful! dont say that your not good looking a woman is beautiful no matter what.
hope i helped if you ever need help just ask me
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