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Hey. I love giving advice. I enjoying giving advice about the sexual things, I've been thinking about getting a degree to be a sexual education teach or, or a sex therapist. I my second best would be friendship[s] and relationship[s]. I am 21yrs old. I have a pit bull named Zip. I work at a middle school as a nutriton assistant. I have 4 god children, 1 boy, 3 girls.

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so i been on the shot since january 09 and every since then me & my boyfriend has been having unprotected sex allll the time and everytime i go to get a pap or get the shot the pregnancy test comes up negative but lately ive been real sleepy and feeling sick not actually throwing up but i feel super sick then i goes away. ive been also real emo the past few days like ill just be sitting there and feel like crying for no reason. my tummy isnt really getting bigger cause its already a little pudge but all i wanna kno is whats the chances of me being pregnant or am i just going through a depression? also i dont have my period since i started the shot and after my most recent shot in july i stopped spotting. well thanks in advance =]

I am also on the shot. And first off your not suppose to have your period while on the shot, some girls or didn't I had a period of the first 2 months when I started, sometimes I spot and other times I want get nothing. I've been on the shot since Nov 08. Now on to the prego thing, I doubt your pregnant, me and my Fiancee have been having unprotected sex ever since I've been on it, and well he actually goes in me, and I have yet to get pregnant, but that doesn't mean you might have the chance, most likely if you have been regular on getting your shot, and also getting it in the correct time, you should be okay. But snag(buy) and prego test from the store and take one just in case. Also, if you end up not being pregnant you need to speak with your doctor and see if those could be some side affects your experiencing because of the shot. I have notice I've been a little more moody since I've been on the shot, but I haven't had any sick feelings. You could be also going threw a depression, witch could be a side affect if that is the case. I hope I helped in some way. If you have anymore question or want more on and answer I have giving you, feel free to ask. Good luck with everything. :)

Haha. It turns us both on.
But its weird. Idk.

And another question.

What turns your man on?

Name everything with detail please? :] And if you don't want it public. Then message me. :]

And yea. I like to here about kinky stuff. :]] tell me somethings? :D

Btw I'm 15, f. I'm from floridaaa :P

hm. lets see. I see nothing wrong with you getting turned on watching him do that. Actually some guys get turned on watching girls do the same. So yall should pleasure your selves in front of each other the arousal will be so un-real.

hm. Sometimes I'll do a little tease. Like walk around in boy shorts and bend over in front of him acting like i'm doing something else...that gets him sometimes.

Wow. Idk all guys are different about what turns them on. You just have to try all sorts of things out and see how he reacts to it.

You can go to some web sites and actually look at things you can try and do. Actually I find the cosmopolitain magazine very useful it has all sorts of tricks and treats for about every issue and I have used some of them on my mind and most of them drive him crazy to where he has to have me....

Now let me pull the "responsible" card. Your 15, if you haven't already had sex I would like to advise you to wait. I lost mine when I was about your age and I wish I never did every day. So make sure its someone you feel will consider your feelings during the "act". I wish I had waited. But if you already have and are for sure this is something you want to do, please be responsible about it. Protection & Birth Control...K?!

Hope my advice did some justice of what you where looking for....
I love kinky stuff to, so what I do is Google a lot of things [positions, turn ons, toys, etc.]

ok. when my girlfriend and i are making out in bed and things she sometimes puts her leg in between my legs so that her upper leg is pressed against my crotch. i was just wondering what thats about or what it means or anything?

I do this to my boyfriend when ever we start making out. Sometimes its cuz I want him to go further and actually have sex. Other times I just want to feel his penis getting bigger with out actually putting my hands down there.

But don't think she wants to go further if she does this, ask her if she wants to before you try!

ok so im on birth control and have been for a while and i have never had any problems, every month my period comes 3 days late then 3 days early, it alternates every month and never lasts more than 6 days. Well this month it came 4 or 5 days early and has lasted a week and a half and i dont know why or what it could be from, and certainly dont know what it could mean?? please help me im so confused and kinda nervous about this.

If you have had any type of stress that could have a lot to do with it. You might think your not stressed when you really are. If your taken the pill & you just so happened to miss it onces that could also have some sort of affect on it. Also, when i used the nuva ring, when i had sex the day be4 i was suppose to take it out, it would take my period a little while to start. so sometimes sex can trigger your period to delay. I wouldn't worry about it, the smallest thing could set your body off track.

i am a virgin but i really want 2 have sex,but i cant find any 1 2 have sex with wat shud i do have sex with a random person or just keep masturbating 13/f

whoa! you need to wait to have sex. i lost my v-card on a one night stand (5yrs ago i was 15) & i still to this day & i wish i had waited till i found someone who cared about me. So just keep masturbating. plus the more you masturbate the more you know what you will want when you are ready to have sex. =]

okays sooo, ive been on birth control for like two years now, and i have never known the answer to this question, ive tried to ask my ginocologest but she didnt really answer me.
butt.. when your on birth control, can the guy like cum in you and you wont get pregnant. Like im not stupid me and my boyfriend still use condoms every single time and were still going to, but im just kinda curious casue if not then what does birth control do?

Well for me [im on the shot] my boyfriend goes in me & i haven't gotten pregnant since ive been on birth control [knock on wood]. But a few of my friends have gotten pregnant even though they where on birth control. So its more of a yes or no thing, to me i think it depends on the bc and how its used.

So ive been taking birthcontrol since thursaday..
saturday i didnt take it..

this morning me and my husband had sex. and the condom broke.. we're not sure if his sperm went inside..

can i still get pregnant even though ive been on birth control for a couple of days? :[

I don't take the pill, I'm on the shot. But I started out on the pill, then the nuva ring, now the shot. Between each of those I wasn't taken birth control, so every time I saw my doctor he told me to give it at lest a month be4 the birth control kicks in [that includes the pill]. So yes you could probably get prego.

i really like the nuva ring, cuz you only take it our for a week witch is the week you will have your period. but you gotta get a new ring every month, i get the debo shot and i really like it cuz i only go every 3 months, & im pretty much payin the same i paid for the nuva ring, but only every 3 months. But they say u don't have period during the shot, but i have had a period with it...i have only gotten the shot twice so i pretty much just started it....

okay me and my boyfriend had sex twice, were both sixteen. everytime i give him head or something he lasts like a minute before he tells me he is about to cum then we wait a second or two till it goes away and make out or something and when we have sex its like 6 thrusts then he is about to cum or he does cum. how can i help him last longer? i want to get off when we have sex. please i need advice!

I had this problem when I was 16 with the boy I was dating, so what I got him to do was when ever he thought or was close to just stop & just kiss, nothing heavy just a slit pause in the action. It might take a while for him to build up be4 he can actually last longer....also don't give him head be4 yall do it see if that helps too. & then he can try masturbating be4 he comes over so he already has one relief. but if you really wanna get urs, then get on top do the work to get urs & then let him go...

So i know the only safe sex is no sex. but me and my boyfriend have been dating and it's pretty serious. we both really want to do it, but i'm so paranoid about getting pregnant! even with a condom! any advice? I'm 15, i'm not ready to be a mom haha.

Just like helpinghand247 said, if your not ready to be a parent then your not ready for sex. But I can't say much though, I lost my v-card at about 15 with no condom & that was the dumbest choice I ever made. But if you really think you are ready to have sex, condoms & birth control, if your not on birth control SOME health clinics have em & you can get the pill from there. BUT birth control is not 100% like NO SEX. Same with condoms. Just know the risks & things like that be4 you have sex. But no matter what USE A CONDOM!!! AND PLEASE make sure he is the one you want to lose it to....

So yesterday (Sunday) my boyfriend and I were fooling around. Things got very heated, but there was no actual penetration. Both of us had our underwear off, however, but his penis only made contact with my vagina for a few seconds, when he was massaging my clit with it (not the actual hole). There was no precum at the moment, I had wiped it dry beforehand. I'm wondering if there could have possibly been any remanents on the head of his penis, and if there is any possible way they could have made their way into my actual vagina and gotten me pregnant. Like I said, there was no wetness, and he did not come. I'm just terrified. Please help!!

Most sperm dies once it hits air. But those things are VERY tricky. But unless he was in you i doubt you are prego. Just play it safe, if your scared of every getting prego right now use a condom if you think there is any way of you getting prego. Everyone wants to have fun and fool around, but think a head and be prepared.. =) but still have fun!

so that my boyfriend doesnt "go" in me, he tells me when he is about to orgasm and he pulls out... but i feel stupid not doing anything after that point so my question is should i touch him or give him head after he says that? guys answer...

thank youuuuu
f/20 fyi

I'm a girl. But I'm going to tell you what I use to do. You can either give him a hand job, but I personal think it would be better if you gave him head, BUT you have to be comfortable with him going in your mouth on that case or just have a signal [tap on the shoulder etc] for him to let you know when his about to go and keep the motion you had going with your hand [thats if you use your hand during head (up&dwn on the shaft)]

well i was flippin through the channels and dr. ruth was on and she was talking abotu hand jobs. when you do that to someone does the semen like shoot out straight up or come out slowly? i was just wondering cause i had to leave to go somewhere before i finished watching the show.

It depends on the guy, either they are shooters or oozes. It has nothing to do with the "motions" of the act. It really just based off the way the guy cums. Look at it like this, if you squeeze a tube of lotion it just oozes out, if you squeeze it fast it shoots out. [im not sayin the motion does this, its just an ex of how the cum comes out]. but like i said its about the guy, but either way, your going to get it on your hands!

[16/f] I can’t seem to get any pleasure out of masturbating. I touch my clit in various ways but it doesn’t really feel like anything special. Is there something wrong with me?

No, I'm 20 and I still can't pleasure my self at all. Maybe once in a blue moon I hit a spot that turns me on, But I do believe that its not for everyone, and I honestly don't think its for me, Maybe once your old enough to get a toy it might change, it did for me when I got one, But there are some spots that you will find your self that will just send that sensation through your whole body, so don't just play with your clit trying going fully inside and see if you can find the spot.

I'm a 13 year old female and i've been getting the urge to masturbate.
-am i too young to masturbate?
-does it hurt?
-how do i do it?
please help me! i dont know anything bout it but i've just heard of it.

I don't think you are too young to masturbate. Your just I guess you could say "maturing" in your sexual feelings faster, its a normal and actually healthy thing. I was your age when I started wanting to feel that type of pleasure. There are many ways to masturbate, i think the only way it will hurt you is if you actually put a masturbating toy inside of you (vibrator, dildo, etc.) so just start out with the finger masturbation until your vagina is lose enough actually insert a masturbation toy of some sort, but you are to young to perches such a thing, so that's the only down fall on starting to learn about your bodies sexual needs, but the plus side is, you are learning what your body will like when it does become time for you to have actually sexual intercourse, witch i home is many years from now!

Okay, so I've always considered myself to be straight since I have never had a crush on a girl or anything like that. I don't have the same feelings for girls (sexual tension) as I do for boys. My relationships have always been with boys, and I've never thought of a girl as anything more than a friend.

However, sometimes I like to imagine myself having sex with women. Sometimes a threesome or more. Something about the naked female body intrigues me. Female porn turns me on. I've often wondered if I'd ever sexually experiment should the right person come along. But I don't really want to be bisexual, since I'd never have a relationship with a girl. So am I still straight?

To be honest, I'm 20, and I think about having relations with a girl. I call it bi-curious. I have never physically done anything with a girl, besides kiss, but I think everyone does that. Ha. You are considered straight, well in my eyes, but there are lots of girls who think and do get "turned on" by watching other girls, I think that's the one thing we have over males, we can get turned on by the same sex and still be straight. I look at it like this, we don't get called bi or lezbo if we check out other girls, just like guys don't get called whores for sleeping around with different girls. So it equals out. You are just comfortable with your sexuality to actually think of another woman like that. I have never personally had a 3some or anything like that, but if your mind wonders to a point that you want to do that, don't do it with your boyfriend and another woman, cuz I have herd that can cause some sort of problems in the long run.
But don't think having thoughts like that makes you bi-sexual actually there is no true reason why anyone should be labeled like that, it is 2 humans expressing a sexual act with each other.

My boyfriend and I are planning to have sex sometime soon.. within the month. We are both 16 + virgins and we are going out to buy condoms together. I'm also on birth control, have been for nearly 5 months and I'm excited for sex.

Is that strange of me? I'm actually looking forward to it and I feel really comfortable about it too. Most of my friends didn't feel like this before their first time.. so i feel out of place.
:/

your mature and your in love. its good that you feel this comfortable. but you might start to get shy when you get closer to the actual act. just like being excited and ready for a dance or something, and once you get to the school you get butterflys and start to get nervous. so if that does happen dont worry about it. you have been with him for awhile. so things are good between yall. but keep in mind, be safe everytime after your 1st, always have a condom. dont feel outta place, your being your self, they should just accept that. =]

Okay so today my bf fingered me for the 1st time and i wanna give him a handjob or blowjob but im really shy about that stuff. like i dont know how to start it, i mean i dont just wanna be like 'hey pull down your pants' lol but yea im not sure how to let him know i want to and get it started. Please help

tease him a little. when yall are kissing and such start rubing his penis [[one the outside of his pants]] then start messing with his pants like your going to take em off; or his penis out. give him the cute lil flirt smile and start to go down on him. you'll drive him crazy trust me =]

i have had sex with two guys in alittle over a year, but i did it about like 15 times. i think thats alot. is it ? i dont want my vagina to keep getting looser because guys think thats gross. what can i do to make it gradually get alittle tighter. will not having any sex for awhile help ?

you can do the excrise to tighten it. it's like your holden ur pee. some people can do this really easily and some have to get the right spot to tighten. and not having sex for a while will help. i've had sex a lot ((with one guy)) and i'm still really tight bC i do the excrise and go awhile with out having sex

i have been going out with my boyfriend for about 4 months and all we have done is make out so far. i would like to go farther and im sure he does too. what is a good way to bring it up?

my guy friend in 4th period read this and wanted me to help you out he said:::
"when you are making out, slowly work your way down his stomach, then grab his penis, and start stroking it for about a min or 2. & if he likes it keep going."

he will get the picture! =]

ok well this really isnt about sex but i didnt know what it was really classified as..

anyway well on Valentines day a guy and i were talking and walking around town in the dark. Well we stopped in the park and were sitting on the stage, he asked me if i'd flash him. I told him no a million times but then he was like ok well i will kiss you if you do it. Well it was like my first kiss and i really wanted it soo well i agreed, We kissed and after i was thinking about it and said i dont know if i can do this soo he stuck his hand down my shirt and pretty much took my boob out and looked at it ((awkward (SP?)moment))then he put it back and then we got up and well we were just like glaring at each other in the eyes and well he kinda came at me real fast and kissed madeout with me.
He told his best friend about it and well now im scared the whole school will find out and i will be called a slut..
do you think that makes me a slut or a whore or anything like that.
I regret it soo much!
he also told me that he cared about me and was thinkging about going out with me..and would tell me the next day but he didnt and now he wants me to do even more and i really dont wanna do it
what should i do.?
and does what i did make me a slut?

no it doesn't. but if you don't want to do anything with this boy then don't do it. stick up for your self. if he says he wants to have relationship with you and hasn't started yet. he is lieing he is just trying to get in your pants. so tell him you don't want to anything with him cuz your not in a relationship, & if he does ask you out then tell him you want to wait till your comfortable to do anything with him, if he respects that then he wants you for you, if he doesn't he just wants to get in your pants and feel you up.//but don't ever think you are a slut bC of something you did. girl life is rough, even if a roomer does start that you are, just keep in mind that your not, you know what happened and you know you didn't let it go to far.

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