23/f, my partner is the same age. I don't usually ask questions in this category...this is a little odd for me...>.>
Tell me something - why is it that guys like "dirty talk" so much?
I'm not inexperienced, here. I've had a few partners, and in the past I just kind of got around it or refused to do the "dirty talk" thing. My new guy's into it, and I want to give it a shot. The problem is it's just so...cliche. It makes me laugh, which totally ruins the moment. I'm an actress - maybe it would help if I thought of it as a kind of role playing?
Even so, though, I never know what to say. "I love the way your **** feels in my *****"? "I love when you do that"? "I'm so wet"? I've seen porn; I get the general idea. I just feel like there's something I'm missing.
What's ridiculous is - as I said - I'm an actress. I can play any role. I'm also a writer. I have a myriad of characters and personalities under my belt and floating around my head, but none of them are comfortable with talking dirty.
What's even worse is that if I start doing that when I'm close, even just saying "I'm coming," or anything like that, my orgasm stops, and then I'm not coming, and he thinks I am, and I don't want that. I'm a lot less shy than I used to be in bed, but this still pushes me a little.
So how do I do this dirty talk thing without making myself laugh, or uncomfortable, while still turning him on?
Tips, tricks, advice? Help a girl out!
Thanks!
Most guys don't want it every time but once in a while should suffice. Try being a little dominate toward him and order him to do things. Smack his ass and tell him to go faster. You don't have to tell him when you're cumming and make sure you get your orgasm before you continue with getting him off. You can try telling him some fantasies you have during sex. If none of these things work, tell him you're thinking about some cute guy you saw at the mall and he'll probably want you to stop. I hope this helps and good luck.
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My boyfriend and I are thiiiinking about having anal sex. it's not a for sure thing yet and we aren't rushing each other. But when the time comes I want to be prepared. I have read about enema bags and all this other stuff I cant get. Is there any way to douche my anus with something I can get around the house?
Don't use a douche but buy an enema kit from your local drug or walmart store. It's fairly easy to use alone and if anyone asks (which they won't), tell them it's for your grandmother. After you use that, you can reuse (after washing) the bottle to use the next day. Fill it with warm water to rinse out the anus. If you haven't done anal before, I suggest you work into it slowly. Let him lick you and slip 1, then 2 fingers inside your ass. It's good to have a strong vibrator handy but your fingers will work well too. Have him enter slowly while you stimulate your clit. He will want to go in fast but it will hurt and you won't want to try it again. If you need any other help, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Me and my intimate other have had sex twice and he was first and only so far. The last time we made love he wanted me to go on top and I wanted to but I was nervous because I did not know how to move my body and did'nt know if he would like it. I did alright and we had a rythm for about 2 minutes but I lost it and then we both just kinda laughed and did something else. But I want to know how to pleasure him by riding on top but make me feel great at the same time(which I know how it works just dont know how to do it. If I lean back it will hit my g-spot more efficiently). So any tips what men like and how to make him feel good and give him a good show?
Thanks :)
It doesn't always have to be fast and hard. Slow down a little and grind against him a little. Squat down on his penis with your feet by his side and your hands by his head. Here's a little example on a porn website if you don't mind checking it out. I hope this helps and good luck.
http://xhamster.com/movies/389135/on_top.html
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Im 15 and my boyfriend wants to finger me. I want him to but im a little nervouse and scared. Plus when like rubs like my waist under my pants i get a little turned on and then i have like a lot of discharge and then get really nervous about it. What should i do? Should i talk to him about it?
The wetness is totally normal. You're turned on and excited and that's your bodies way of approval. You may want to check your b/f fingernails and fingers for any rough spots. It definately doesn't feel good when it's rough. The day you decide you're ready, wear some loose shorts, sweats or jogging pants. It won't feel good if he has to put his hand where it's super tight. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Me and my boyfriend are planning a threesome for the first time. I'm not sure what all I should do any advice for a first timer
If you haven't picked someone yet, go to a hotel bar near the airport. There are usually women traveling that don't mind hooking up for the night and you'll probably never see them again. I've had luck a few times with craigslist but voice verify and webcam if at all possible. Then you can meet for drinks and see how you all get along. I would recommend a hotel room for the first time, so they don't know where you live and can't stalk you or have any other problems that may occur. Make sure you talk to your man about boundaries and what you expect from him when the other girl is around. If you want it to be more about you and the other girl, let him orgasm early and he'll be on the sideline and you'll be having fun. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I really want to give this guy a blowjob but something is just telling me not to. What should I do?
It really depends on how long you've been going out, how much you care about him and how old you are. I know it's better to do that if you're not ready for sex and you want to keep him happy but sometimes the guy's just not worth it. You'll have to make that decision when the time comes but don't let some guy pressure you into doing something you don't want to. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I'm an 18 year old bisexual girl, and I'm a virgin. It's something that's always in the back of my mind and it does worry me - for years I have wanted to lose it. I wanted to be able to be promiscuous and not make a big deal of sex, but I just don't have it in me. I am not a naturally promiscuous person - I've tried, but I'm just not comfortable being that intimate with someone unless I am very, very close to them.
Now, here are some points I want to make. Firstly, I'm not someone who can't get laid. Not to sound big-headed, but I am considered attractive by most and get a lot of male attention (although I'm bisexual, I'm not out yet and don't tend to get attention from females). Secondly, I don't think there's anything wrong with being a virgin at my age. People should be able to have as little or as much sex as they want without being judged. However, I won't say I don't feel the pressures - I do, a lot. No one knows I'm a virgin apart from closer friends I've known since I was 13 or younger, I hide it from everyone else.
So, really, I know I should just be comfortable with it and wait till I find someone I am comfortable enough to have sex with. But here's the thing: I really want to have sex. I have such a high sex drive and it's something I constantly think and fantasise about. I want to start experimenting and having sex be a part of my life. I don't want to have to wait for someone I really, really like and who I'm really close to, because knowing me, that could take years.
But of course, the problem is, I know I'll find it difficult to have sex with someone I'm not close to (even if I'm attracted to them) and to tell them that I'm a virgin beforehand (I couldn't do it without telling them, because they'd either find out I was a virgin anyway, or just think I wasn't that good in bed.)
I guess my question is: what's worth it? Is it worth waiting and just being consumed by lust but not being able to have sex, until I find someone I'm really comfortable with? (And like I said, this could take years, I rarely fall for people seriously.) On the other hand, is it worth just getting it over with through an experience I might not enjoy, so I can start experimenting and having a sex life? And if you'd recommend the latter, how do I go about it?
I do have a lot of problems with physical intimacy which gets in the way of this, so if anything knows how I could sort this out, it would be greatly appreciated.
Thank you x
I can totally understand your situation. I'm bisexual and I had my first sexual experience with a girl when I was 14 but didn't have sex with a boy till I was 16. I think having sex with girls for the 2 years before, helped me when it was time to be with a boy. I'm not saying to go out and hook with some girl but if you could find a close friend that's bisexual, she could give you some good pointers. As far as sleeping with a guy, you'll have to decide if it's the right time or the right guy. Everyone wants their first time to be special but rarely it's all that great. I hope this helps and good luck.
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19/M
I have had sex a few times with my boyfriends, but I have never gotten the chance to take it. My boyfriend tried to get it in the other day, but he is very very thick and it hurt way too bad for me to take it. Is there any way for me to stretch back there so that it will fit in? We did use a lube, and plan to always use lube. I just want to try taking it, but it hurt so badly. Please give me some advice as for how to stretch myself out. Thanks!
Have him try to finger you first. The best would be if he could suck on you while he inserts a finger but you could masturbate if he doesn't want to do that. Have him start with one finger and let him work his way up to 3 or 4 fingers. This will let your anus to relax and be able to stretch a little more easily. When he's ready to enter you, have him do it slowly with just the head inside. When he does go inside, I would suggest stroking your penis, as this will distract a little from the initial pain. If it still doesn't help, they do sell anal ease, that sort of numbs the area and will be less painful. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Sorry this is a weird question but I've heard stories about guys doing a girl so much at once that the spermies make her belly swell up. Could this happen?
Yeah...it's called being pregnant. Other than that...no. A typical male only produces about 2.5ml of sperm per session and the number goes down a little each time if done in the same day. I hope this helps.
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Sorry if this is in the wrong category for Sexual Health and Reproduction.
So I am 15, and a male, thinking about having sexual intercourse for my first time.
I don't really have a private place to do anything sexual, and my girlfriend suggested a movie theater but I am not sure what could happen if we were to get caught. What would happen if we got caught? I told her i wasn't to sure about being in a movie theater. She said she would atleast give me head, but i still am not sure if we should even do that there because it is still a public place. What would happen if we were caught while she was giving me head? What are your thoughts about this?
A lot of theaters have hidden cameras to prevent people from video taping the movie, so even if nobody sees you, the camera will. Try to sneak a couple of blankets out and head to the park after dark. Find a dark spot away from the road and you can probably get away with a quickie before anyone comes along. My only other suggestion would be at your parents house in the basement. I hope this helps and good luck.
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What to do to have a great orgasm?
You should repost this and let us know if you're a guy or a girl.
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So my boyfriend lost his virginity to me and we've been together for two years. For some reason he spiked up the urge to have anal sex and kind of rushed me into it. i don't mind anal sex too much, it's just i dont want all of my 'nastiness' to be on him or fall when he pulls it out. how do i prevent that?
also, i know that the anus is tighter but i asked him why he wants to do it all of a sudden and he said just to spice it up. do you think that could be true or would there be a most likely underlying truth ?
also, how can i , as a girl get orgasmic pleasure from anal sex? sure it felt OKAY the second time and it didn't bother me too much but how can i get myself to find pleasure in it?
how do i keep him from wanting anal sex all the time and turn him back on to my vagina? i feel like it's being totally rejected.
i know i asked a lot of questions but im really curious. thanks :)
oh and one more...does the anus self lubricate? -male and female
I love anal sex and get my strongest orgasms from it. Of course, I do need to be worked up to it a little. Let's start with the preparatio. Go to to the drugstore and buy an enema kit and something to put warm water in to flush out your bowels. This should help to prevent anything getting on him. Have him go down on you and slowly finger your ass while he's licking your clit. Have him work up to three fingers, as that will help when he's ready to put in his penis. It's fine to have him start inside the vagina but once he goes for the anus, he shouldn't go back to prevent contamination of the vagina. I would highly recommend a strong vibrator or using your fingers to stimulte the clit. Have him place the head in and slowly ease it in a little at a time. If you really can't get enjoyment out of it, don't be afraid to tell him. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Ok, it's not like you think well maybe it is we really haven't gone on a date for a really long time and we did a few weeks ago, still no sex. I devote plenty of time to the relationship, still no sex. He did become abusive again a few months ago but I'm over it and have forgiven him. I guess I should have left then or something. Even when we do have sex which has now dwendled down to less than one time a week, I do not feel sexual if that makes sense. Before I enjoyed it, now it's like I'm going through the motions. Any suggestions?
I'm sorry to say but I think you need to find someone else. He shows all the signs that he's not in love with you and possibly that he's getting sex from someone else. You can try working things out or some type of counseling but I really believe he will return to his old ways. Find someone who appreciates you, will truly love you and will treat you right. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I can only have a clitoral orgasm. Is it possible for me to have an orgasm that is not generated by the clitoris?
Every woman is a little different but it is possible to have other orgasms. I've experienced orgasms from having my breasts sucked on, vaginal sex and anal sex. They usually aren't as strong as when I stimulate my clit but I can occasionally orgasm those other ways. I wouldn't worry about it and just enjoy having sex. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I am crying so bad as i right this i feel horrible right now, so my boyfriend looked at porn and i found out about a year and a half ago and i came online for help because i have such a low self esteem and i felt like i was not good enough when he did this. But when i came online everyone said it was normal well all the guys of course which makes sense for them to stick up for themselves ... then we started having less pleasurable sex but i thought at least we had sex and still i came online and asked if it it was normal but like always guys said it was supposedly normal...then he couldnt get hard by me at all..and we couldnt have sex and i did not why..and i was gonna break up with him, because it was the tenth time of his softness (by that i mean not being able to get hard) it was two days before valentines but on valentines day he asked me to see him since we've been together for 4 yrs almost an i agreed ...and we had sex and i asked him why he could and he said it was because he hadnt jacked off to pornography so we got back together and sometimes he got hard and sometimes he didnt but like always i looked up online and online it said it was probably stress and ect but not my fault and i tried to think i wasnt the reason for it i wasnt the reason he could not get hard because i have always been very depressed and suicidal and im afraid thinking that will just get me off the edge so anyway he stopped looking at it cause i got birth control and he could ejaculate inside of me and thought that was way better than jacking off ...i rarely have my period because of birth control but i had my period this week and he was jacking off my to breasts and ejaculating on me since i couldnt have sex but it baffled me that he could get hard everyday this week because i thought the problem was that he would jack off...but now i get it the problem was me because when he looked at porn then looked at me & couldnt get hard because the girls there are increadibly good looking and i admit im chubby i weigh 170 am 5 4 and i have 36D breasts and a normal size butt but a sort of chubby stomach and i just feel horrible because i asked him this and he said yes i think thats why..so this whole time it was me and i got to be honest i just feel like killing myself now that ive found this out..like i asked him so like after you saw them and then you saw me you didnt find me attractive? and he admitted yes but yet the whole time he couldnt get hard i would sob because i noticed like he would only get hard for a little while then i would try to get him in and he would get soft like after i took my clothes off and i felt horrible but he swore it was because he jacked off not because of me but if that was the case wouldnt he be getting soft now?! :( i just feel horrible cause i have horrible unreachable standards ill never be as good looking as them and i cant get this horirble thought of my head that the whole time it was me who couldnt get him up!!! :( :( :(
There is nothing wrong with you sweetie. I'm not quite sure if you want to stay with this guy or not but I'll give you some advice for him or any future relationships you may have. There is a possibility that he's having emotional problems or he may not be in love with you. That could be causing his inability to get hard. There is an over the counter medicine from vitamin world called Vigrex. My husband uses it occasionally and it works great. If you really want to stay with him or even if you want to make your next man happy, try watching a little bit of porn with him, even if you really don't like it. Find out what things he's into and maybe even experiment a little and try them out. Make sure he knows that you're willing to give a little for the relationship but he needs to do the same for you. The sex shouldn't be all one sided because you have needs just the same as he does. If this guy can't fulfill your needs and can't make you happy, it's probably time to move on to someone that will make you happy. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Um so well I had a dream 5 nights ago and it was about me having sex with a girl who lives next door to my grandmother. But my problem is she's 8 and I'm 13 and I want her so bad but I think it might be rapist so should I have sex with her or not and if so what can I do to make it happen because she likes me to (no rapist jokes)
My friends son (14 at the time) was playing doctor (no sex but lots of other things) with a 9 year old girl from our neighborhood. The mother of the girl found out about it, pressed charges and the boy went to juvenile jail for 18 months and he'll be labeled a sexual offender for the rest of his life. Please do not continue down this road of wanting a child for your sexual pleasure. At least wait until you are 16 and find someone that is at least the same age or older before you try something sexual. I hope this helps and good luck.
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how can i make my man ejaculate while giving him a blow job he gets really frustrated cause he as never been able to ejaculate while giving him a blow job xx
Make sure he isn't masturbating earlier in the day or before he gets with you. When a man orgasms it's typically harder to cum again soon after that. If that's not the problem, spend a little time on foreplay. Make out with him standing up and slowly stoke his penis through his pants. When you take his pants off and lay him down and use one of your hands to stroke his penis and the other to play with his testicles. After a while of playing with him, you can start using your mouth. Don't suck to hard and treat your mouth like it was your vagina. After that, I'm sure he'll orgasm in no time. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Me and the guy I have been fooling around with have talked about having sex in a canoe. Has anyone tried this? Like what would be the best way to go about it? And please don't say don't do it because we still will, whether we succeed or not lol.
Definitely no sudden movements and try to do it over shallow water. I was able to do it in a small rowboat and cowgirl style worked best. If you have any other questions, please feel free to ask me. I hope this helps and good luck.
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I am a female. Lately when I masturbate, I can cum, but not as much as usual, and then I get all dry and it hurts when I try to finger myself. Usually when I masturbate, I cum right away but I don't know what is wrong.
thanks!
It could be related to your period but if it's not, it could be a mental problem. If you're having problems at school or home or if you've recently had a messy break up, these things could be interferring with your ability to have a good orgasm. Try a few relaxing techniques before you masturbate. Light some candles, take a bubble bath and play some relaxing music before you begin. Letting your mind relax, will help your body relax and hopefully give you better orgasms. I hope this helps and good luck.
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Will i cu nyself while shaving my vagina?
Use a seperate razor than you use on the rest of your body. I like to shave in the shower, it helps soften the hair. Use some soap there first and then apply some shaving cream. Put one leg on the side of the tub and shave, then repeat for the other side. I hope this helps and good luck.
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