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i really need an answer by wednesday night becuase i am very scared. im 15/F and i am going to the gyno for the first time and i am not a virgin anymore and i was just owndering if when they ask do i have to tell them and if i tell them will they tell my mom or can i ask the doctor to not tell my mom. or can i jsut say i use tampons? im reaslly scared becuase i do not want my mom to know! PLease help me..i rate high!
thanks
well I'd advise you not to tell them it's just from tampons. Just incase there is something going on down there, ya know? You can tell them anything. I went there for my first time a few months back, and they told me that they CANNOT and WILL NOT tell your parents anything, unless you personally give them permission to. She had to do some tests on me as a normal procedure because I was going on birth control, and she said that she CAN'T send the results through the mail without my permission, and that I'd have to wait till my next appointment or call to find out. They will ask you if you're sexually active, and if so, how long you have been. I promise you they won't tell your mom anything unless you tell them it's okay. :D Goodluck!
Amber
ok this prolly sounds weird but wen me and my b/f are 2gether we get each other in themodd and then we start having sex then i always stop him in like 5 min and feel gulty and start cryin, i prolly sound very stupid but y am i doing this?
You don't sound stupid at all. It's because you're in the heat of the moment. You both are in the mood and so you make the decision based on how turned on you both are. It also depends on how much self control you both have. If you are in the mood, but you KNOW that you don't want to do it, think about how you feel after those first 5 minutes, and maybe it will help you out. Believe it or not, it's normal! I'm not one to judge, so don't take this the wrong way- but maybe you're not ready yet? That would have ALOT to do with the reason you feel guilty, you know what I mean? But if that's not the case, if you feel guilty about it, then maybe instead of having sex..do other things to each other. There are tons of possibilities to give/receive pleasure rather than having sex. If you're not ready for anything sexual like that at all, or if you feel guilty doing that as well..then try doing things on your own. You most likely won't feel guilty about doing things to yourself. I don't know how you feel towards things like that, but it's just an option. I hope I helped! drop one in my inbox if you need anything else! :D
Amber
my boy friend wants to finger me and im gonna let him because im ready and i love him but what if something goes wrong .. like is it possible for his finger not to go up?
no, that is not possbile..it will open& stretch for it, so you don't need to worry about that:D just remember if it goes further than him fingering you, make sure you be safe about it! I hope I helped!
♥Amber
ok so i went to take a pregnancy test today..i read the box which said to pee on the test for 5 seconds..me being the idiot i am..i peed on the cap..im all new at this so i had no clue there was a cap! i dipped the test in the toilet..and it came out negative..im thinking this isnt accurate because of all the water in the toilet..am i right or is it still ok to trust the negative?
we all have our moments..don't worry about that..I wouldn't go straight to assuming that it came out negative..get another test just to be safe..there might be chemicals in the water that could've effected it. hope I helped!
ok im about 5 foot and im 103 pounds...is that ok? im NOT skinny but im not sure wat you would call over weight. does anyone know if this is too fat?
I'm 5'0 and I'm 101-103 and I'm skinny..most people actually call me underweight since I'm 15, I think you're fine. :D
♥Amber
my boyfriend's friend keeps hitting on me even tho he know im in a relationship with his close friend. the other day we were at this party and he pulled me up to this room and he raped me. he grabbed me and touched my body. im really scared and he hurt me. i feel strange. i couldnt do anything hes a football player and he held me down and i couldnt stop him. he shove something in my mouth so i couldnt scream. wut do i do?? i cant tell my boyfriend or he will kick the living shit out of him.the guy said if i tell anyone he will do it again. i know i can get some reasonable advice here.
HELP
alright well first of all what you need to do, is to tell your parents or someone of a higher authority about that. you need to go& get checked out to make sure you're alright. and second of all, he has no right to do that, you need to tell your boyfriend, whether he's gunna kick the living shit out of that guy or not, he needs to know! as for how he said if you told anyone, he'd do it again..if you tell an adult, they will do something about it, and he wouldn't get the chance to do it again. I'm sorry all that happened to you, I hope I helped!
♥Amber
last night i had sex for the third time. he didnt use a condom and im not sure if he came in me. i was due for my period anyways and now i have it. my friend said that i could be pregnant. and im really scared. i cant talk to my mom about that kinda of stuff either. how can i tell or what should i do? please help me.
It's not possible to have your period and be pregnant, but it is possible to be pregnant and have vaginal bleeding that may seem to be a period, but it's not very common. Hope I helped! :D
♥Amber
OK i was at the pool one day with these girls that are my friends. Well when I was sitting down one of then sat on my lap and I got a boner and i dont know if my friend liked that that happened.
What should I do?
uhm I'd say go and ask her if it was weird for her or not..I mean you couldn't control it, you shouldn't worry about since it's not something you did on purpose so she shouldn't have taken it offensively or anything of the sort.
ok my friend wants to know and i just have no idea how to answer...is it normal for a girl to get really turned on by doing legslifts? it hurts but feels good. is that an orgasm?
uhm different people get turned on by many different things, but if she gets turned on by doing leglifts, then tell her to keep them goin! it'll kill 2 birds with one stone, working out and being turned on..as for the other part, I highly doubt she's getting orgasms from leglifts though, it would prolly take more than that. but really, whatever floats her boat..I guess it's pretty normal
~>Amber
Ok, well, I got my period on Thursday, Its not the 1st time I got it cuz I have had it since I was 10. The question I have is how long do they usually last? Before, mine were about 7-9 days and this one has only been 3 and it isn’t heavy at all, like im done with it and I usually get really bad cramps and have really heavy flows ad ahad neither. Why is it so light and short this time???
No, im not pregnant and cuz Im still a virgin, im only 13… lol…
The first few yrs you have it are going to change around a little bit. It's normal, but if you're really worried ask your mom or a doctor. The average is 4-6 days usually. Mine usually goes for 6 days but sometimes it's 8 or so, and I've had it for 3 yrs as well, it'll get on a normal track soon enough. Hope I helped!
ok when do guys like really start getting perverted(sex,makeing out)..like do the start at 12,13,14 b/c i kno some guys that are perverted that are like 12 but i dont kno if others are or if its just those guys!!! help i rate good!
It really depends on the guy..they all mature at different times. But I`d say about 12ish b/c "all the older kids are doing it" so it influences the younger guys. Sooner or later they`ll realize how stupid& immature it really is. Hope I helped!
i need some advice please!! on thursday there isnt any school, so me and my boyfriend are planning to go out for a movie, and then over 2 his place. its just going to be us to, and of course we will be doing something! we both are ready to loose it, its just that:
1. im scared i COULD get pregnant
2. im just a lil nervous cause i dont know what to do
3. im sorta of on my period, im bleeding just a tiny, and what if i smell bad?!
I'm not judging you or anything, but don't you think if you're worrying about those 3 things then you're not exactly ready to have sex? If you're on your period& worried about getting pregnant..I'd atleast wait till you were off for awhile. It really will come naturally though, so if you're honestly ready..you shouldn't have anything to worry about. Be careful! -Amber
how do you get rid of back cramps when your in your period???
You can take advil or any type of pain reliever..that's all I do& it works most times! Goodluck:]
I was walking home one day with 4 of my guy frnz and we r all really close and we alwayz have fun, well we were walkin home *john-my boyfrnd* was one of the 4 guyz and the rest were both of our frnz we were walking home 2 my house , and there are alot of woods by my house, well we were passing the woods that has a clearing way deep in it, and they were like lets go see wuts in the clearing, and so we went, they were all behind me and before i knew anything one of them wuz on top of me, i thought they were joking around but then they started laughing and kissing me all over my body,john was doin it to, i couldnt believe it, and then they started taking off my clothes, i tried to stop them but it wuz 4 against 1 and they were holding me down, i wuz so scared and i didnt want to call for help becuz they r my friends, it wuz horrible they each started to molest me, and the weird thing wuz they all had condoms, so it was like they planned it all out- or they r just weird and carry around condoms- but they just kept molesting me and john wuz joining in, they then let me get dressed and john carried me on his back home, i felt disgusting, but he would let me get down, and then when i got home they kept trying 2 take off my clothes again and feeling up my shirt while i wuz on the phone wit my parents, they finally left and i went 2 school the nxt day, and every1 started asking me if i really had sex with john, and i didnt kno wut to do or say, and then john walked up 2 me infront of every1 and said "that was an amazing nite last nite" and then now every1 thinks im a slut for gettin raped by 4 guyz that i couldnt help... wut should i do??? tell my parents??? Teachers??? POLICE??? p.s. im only 14...
OMG That's really horrible, first off I'm really sory that happened to you! Yes, you really need to tell someone! It'd be best to tell your parents first..and they should call the police! Those guys have no right to do that to you, or anyone at that matter! I honestly don't think you should be with your so called boyfriend anymore either! That's really weird of them to gang up on you like that though! But DEFIANTELY go tell someone with authority! You should also look into getting yourself checked for STD's or pregnancy:[ Goodluck hun,& I hope everything works out for you! I'm soo sorry!
To give some background information, I am 14 years old (female). I am currently dating this amazing guy who is 16. He's a very very nice guy and I think that I'm falling in love with him. Well, I started dating when I was 12, yes I know that was young but I wanted to be "cool". My first boyfriend was from church (14) and I had this great friend (13)from my church. I always saw them flirting and I really didn't think much of it. One day, we were at a youth group meeting and I found the two of them making out behind the church and I was completely heart broken. I broke up with him and then I moved onto boyfriend #2 who was 15 and I was 12. He was still having sex with his ex girlfriend so that was the end of us. Finally (4 boyfriends after the one that had sex with his ex... all of the others cheated on me too...) I found this guy that was PERFECT... So I thought. We were together for 4 months and I was in love. He was the first guy that I said "I love you" to and actually meant it. Things in my life couldn't have been better. Then around our 3rd month of being together, he got on the subject of sex and I was like well, I want to wait a little bit because I'm not ready. He kept telling me "No you're ready, I love you blah blah blah." He was presuring me into having sex with him and I was going to give in. Luckily, I was having things going on in my family at the time and I could never see him so he broke up with me and I found out that he was cheating on me with some 17 year old girl ( He had sex with her) And she thought she was pregnant. I went into this depression and I was cutting and tried to commit suicide. About a month later I met this amazing guy named Tim. We've been dating for 5 and a half months now and I love him, I know I do. He had the same situation with his ex girlfriend, she started doing drugs and she cheated on him and she pressured him into having sex and he wasn't ready (They didn't have sex though.) The thing is, I'm still nervous as HELL to fall in love with him because I don't want to get my heart broken again... He's #7 and I want him to be the one... I really do but I'm so so so scared that I'm going to get hurt again. I've told him that and he tells me that he'd never do that to me, EVER. I've heard that line over and over again. I feel like I trust him, but I really don't know. Can anyone help me try to get over being paranoid?? I really feel like I love this guy and I want to make it last.
PS: He goes to a different school than I do.
Thank you SO much if you can help.... Sorry this was so long =/ I really need the help though.
My friend's motto..it's perfect in this situation *If you aren't willing to risk it all, then you don't want it bad enough* If you're scared to take the risk of falling in love& getting hurt again, then you don't want him bad enough. If you don't take the risk you're going to be scared& worrying about it until you decide to finally get over your fear. Goodluck hun..and I'm sorry all that has happened to you!
hey well start it off im 13-m. ok well about how hard would it be to find a girl that is like only interested in sex after marriage for dating material? because seems like everywhere i look on here, theirs a pregnant girl or one worried about it. i'm just talking about like later in my life, in my twenties right out of college. just to be prepared. also, i was reading a book, and a guy asked the girl if she was a virgin, and she said that she wasnt even embarrased. so are you like supposed to be embarrassed if your a virgin?
(deeply confused in matters i shouldn't have my paws in)
It seems like you're a smart guy with his priorities right where they should be:] There are girls out there, yea I've noticed alot of under-aged girls getting pregnant as well. But it's their decision! And yes, some girls& guys are embarassed about being a virgin. It's mainly b/c they are afraid of the reactions the other people will give them for being a virgin.Well atleast that's what I think! I'm a virgin& VERY proud:] Goodluck in your search hun!
hey u kno how some people talk about a grl like having numbers sumthin like 36/25/34 or suntin like that?? what do those numbers mean?????
The first number is the bust size..then the middle is the girl's wasit..then the last is her hips..*36-24-36* hah only if she's 5'3
this is to all the girls is it norrmal to masterbate, if i dont am i weird, i mean is it like the guys if u dont jack off ur gay
It's normal, and no if you don't do it, that doesn't by any means make you weird. Some people are against it, and that's perfectly okay *You know who you are* I never understood why if guys don't jack off then people automatically label them as being gay..it's stupid! It's just what YOU choose to do:]
Hi. I have been having this problem with my blatter. I haven't been able to tell weather i have to pee or not. I have recently done some drugs that I beleive could mess up my kidney's but I have also had sex. I am wondering if sex can make you not know if you can pee, and also give you a felling of for example. A day when you havent pee'd for a while and you need to go really bad. That feeling...but when u sit down..nothing comes out. Could that be from sex? Or no. Plz do not delete this. After this question I'll never ask it again! Plz and thank you.
-911 help
You could possibly have a Urinary Tract infection from having sex. Try taking Cranberry Pills& drink alot of water if you take them. Or just drink alot of Cranberry juice. Hope I helped!
First off I'm 16/f. I have a dilemma... These two boys (a 7th grader & a freshman) are sort of obsessed about me. They're both really starting to creep me out. How do I break this little unintended spell I have over them w/o making them mad or suicidal. The kid in 7th kind of has anger issues and seems to be really depressed already. The freshman is just really annoying. Thanks for reading, I'll rate or whatever...
Tell them to leave you the hell alone& that you don't like them that way..in a nicer way you could just say that you aren't interested..goodluck on that:/